How come I can't just have a normal life. My mom is always up my *** crack and this asshole she calls a bf all up hers. I serioudly wish he were dead!!! He needs to stay the hell out of my life. He's not and will never be my dad, and it's too late for me to have a father. idk what's up iwth me I think that I'm bipolar, I act normal around my friends and totaly different around my mom. Idk why I act like this I'm just scared that I might be crazy. Deep down I secretly feel betrayed. I gave my mom an ultimatium about him and she chose him. She said that I'm f'n crazy and that I need to see a counselor. Maybe I do need a counselor but this totally scared me. My dad left me when I was 13, and I think that I seriously suffer from anger management. I might be a pathological lier but I'm really scared. I just really wish I had a dad. Any advice??? Am I really crazy???
2006-11-23 15:34:47 · 20 answers · asked by Christy 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Hey, your mad.....Pissed off, that your dad isn't there and your mom is clinging to this piece of crap, that you think he is....Oh man, I don't even live in your house and I swear I can know what is going on..Ok, look, it is really hard for you to look at your mom as anything else, other than your mom...But, she is still a woman, she made you didn't she.....that means, as gross as it may sound, she had passion, and got caught up in the moment, and she and your biological father had a romatic interlude that resulted in you being born....You aren't your mother..you can't understand that she is a woman....you only see her as your mom. You aren't alone in your thinking....none of us see our parents as human beings with wants and desires.....we just Expect them to be the sole person that we've known all our lives, and when they try to be just a person, OH NO, that is unexceptabe...how can they put so much time and effort to a stranger....but to them, my dear, they are not.....YES, it makes you feel second best...like "hey, what about me"....but they AREN'T ignoring you, and your needs as their child, they are just being a human being, who isn't needing a nursing home!!!!! They are still young, not in your eyes, priorities you think they need to be addressing, in the same light, your not thinking of them as an individual, and they need comforting as welll......very strange to look at your parent in a way other than they are your parent, but you have to....whether you like it or not, you will move out on your own, and where does that leave your mother?....get angry at your dad, he left YOU at 13, not just your mother, but you too....so your gonna be angry at whomever your mom wants to be with....your feeling left out, somewhat neglected...and me, as a mother of 4 grown children, I really feel bad for you, it has to HURT........That my dear, is where the anger comes from......you have been hurt.....yeah, it is sh!tty......take that, take that energy and make damn sure, that you break the cycle of that,,,,,,with your own children, when the time comes, that may all you get to do, sure doesn't make your present situation change, but you can change your attitude, if you think of your mother as a woman, and not just the person who brought you into this world...She is not just your mother,,,,,,,she is a woman, just like you will become, and then you will understand.......remember what I said, one day down the road, you will .....
2006-11-23 16:03:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ur not crazy. I wish I could tell you there was a magic trick to make you feel better but there isn't. You really need to find a counselor or preferably psychologist. I went through the same thing as a teen and it took forever for me to get better b/c I never asked for help. Don't do it b/c your mom says you need to but b/c you know in your heart somethings not right with you. Talking to someone always helps(crying does too!) Please find someone and don't think your crazy b/c ur not. Don't be scared either you'll be ok. The good thing is you're already asking for help. Do it now though, don't wait and let this sit on you until you do something you might regret. Good luck.
2006-11-23 16:24:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you don't want another dad I don't blame you, but what about having him as a friend talk to him take the time to get to know him talk to your mom and try with out getting upset ...Just think about it your mom has gone through a lot as well as you have as we get older we tend to get lonely real easy maybe your mom is afraid she will never find anyone else maybe she is worried that she cant support you and her self on her own...Maybe talking to a counselor at school will help you to see things from a different perspective they are there to help you when you need someone to talk to they can also act as a go between for you and your mom life is too short to be mad all the time
2006-11-23 16:02:15 · answer #3 · answered by The gr8t alien 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO YOU ARE NOT CRAZY!!! You are hurt and angry. What your mom did and said was totally outrageous. For her to choose this loser over her own child is completely pathetic. I am so sorry you have gone thru so much crap. I will say that it would be a good idea to see a councelor, but NOT because your crazy, because you really need help in dealing with the crazy your mom and that loser is dishing out to you. Being a teen is tough enough with out some one adding extra crap to it. See the councelor at school and see if they can hook you up with someone else that can help you deal with all this your going thru.
Your going to be ok. Just find someone to talk to, some one that can help. I wish you all the best of Luck and Happiness:)
2006-11-23 15:47:12 · answer #4 · answered by Crissy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't feel that u r crazy.
but you are having lack of father love,care & security which is needed in teenage.
it is very annoying!
but shall i say you something?
no fingers on our hands are same
like the same u just accept what is happening around you.
you should be supportive to mom and should get rid of that feeling u both.
at this moment she needs you badly.
but if you create a problem instead of giving love and security, where should she go.
see in how depressed state she will be.
your father is a rouage.
leave him
there are some many people like your father around the world.
BUT YOU KNOW SOMETHING!
there are also so many good fathers in the same world
SO I SUGGEST YOU TO
be a GOOD son first and later a good father to ur childern.
ALL THESE NEED you to set right first
so take the help of a psychologist,they assist you ,guide you
which makes you to start a fresh life
BEST OF LUCK!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-23 15:58:30 · answer #5 · answered by sarayyu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not crazy, I hate when guys talk to my mom. Alot of people act different around their mom or dad. It is pretty much because they are older and not as current as younger. Your mom probally had a boring time in her life and is probally trying to spice it up. Just leave her alone and let fate decide what will happen to her. If you don't feel that should be your father figure, don't. Time is passing by, and you are constantly changing and growing. When you are older, you will probally move out and live your own life, choosing whether or not to look back at your past or not. Moms can be frustrating sometimes just ignore it, and just wait for time to go by.
2006-11-23 15:43:49 · answer #6 · answered by SWAY 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you are bipolar based on your symptoms. You definitely have clinical depression. You indicated lying and anger, which are often masks of depressions and covering up your feelings. Your mom is right, seeing a counselor might help you get better and give you someone to talk to.
If counseling doesn't work, there are medications you can try also. Just hang in there, life gets tough sometimes, but it always gets better!
2006-11-23 15:38:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your not crazy at all. I wouldn't be a afraid of seeing a counselor cause it might be the best thing for you. They can figure just what's going on inside of you even things you might not realize yourself. Many times the bad things that happen in our lives or things that really bothered us we push to the back of our mind and a counselor can bring it forward and help you to deal with the issues. Good luck to you ;o)
2006-11-23 15:57:40 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We think our parents are perfect but they are not. Your mom has a right to date any ******** she likes because it's her life. Just like you have the right to make your own decisions for yourself.
If she's constantly yelling at you just ignore her. if you are constantly angry, think about other things. It's sad but your mom and dad are not going to live together anymore. it's probably for the best -- if they were constantly fighting and stuff. Doesn't mean you don't have a Dad; just means he doesn't live with you anymore.
Be real. Is your step-dad really all that bad or is it that you just hate him because your mom left Dad for him?
I think if it's the second thing, you oughta give him a try. It's not fair to him, don't you think?
2006-11-23 15:50:36 · answer #9 · answered by WaterStrider 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you need a father figure right now?
Don't get into older boys, they can get you in trouble. don't look like it like he's replacing your dad, just accept your dad is gone, and can't be replaced,
but you can try to get along with people and do the best you can to fill the void.
Dont' be too hard on your mom. You are growing up now, she feels you will be out of the house soon anyway, perhaps.
2006-11-23 15:38:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋