where after a few years you really just freak out thinking that you never be with anyone else and knowing that you will never experience youth again?
2006-11-23 15:33:50 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
many do this comes with age. my opion?
2006-11-23 16:09:24 · answer #1 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never been there, but I know of those who have and it's pretty normal in this day and age...but it's because you either got married too young, or you married for all the wrong reasons. Those that are truly happy and have a solid relationship with their spouse, don't have those thoughts. You need to learn to want what you have, rather than worrying about what you don't or won't ever have honey. And if you question it, do this...close your eyes and picture your life ten years down the road....who is standing there with you? Your spouse? Are you alone in this vision? I'm not sure what you are describing is truly a mid-crisis issue. I think what you are describing is the question if you made the right decision to marry in the first place hon. Time to do some soul searching. Trust your heart sweetie, it rarely steers you wrong!
2006-11-23 15:43:33 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES.
My married friends and family have discussed this and these are points that often make or break marriages dependent on your level of commitment and maturity.
First 3 years of marriage both partners can be freak cases about establishing trust, level of intimacy, and banging out kids the when the whys, and hows.
Years 5-7 real itches, should I , could I be with someone else?
Years 9-17 hitting our groove and with no major crisis's (most of these are personal and can go badly if the person doesn't have the above) should be smooth sailing
Years 17-25 Kids leaving, career goals met and changes, is this the only person for me? Relive the itch and wonder
Its cyclic and take commitment to ride the roller coaster. HOLD ON ITS FUN!
And then
2006-11-23 15:44:23 · answer #3 · answered by 35 and loving it! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably because that start to take one another for granted and stop trying. It must be a very easy trap to fall into. I have been married for over 30 years and my marriage is not in the middle of a mid-life crisis (thank goodness). Being interested in each other, how the other person feels etc. keeps the marriage fresh. Enjoying each other's company and having shared values is a must.
2016-03-12 21:47:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That happens to people who look back, instead of forward. There are so many things in this world to experience, and the companionship of someone you love while having these experiences is without equal.
It's how you progress in love and in marriage. It's work, and those who grow lazy and keep the situation stale will soon grow tired of it, and bored. Then go searching for another relationship where the same thing will happen. You have to grow and mature constantly.
2006-11-23 15:39:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think that's fairly common. Especially with people who get married young, maybe to their first love. They start wondering whether they missed out on dating and having fun, before settling down to married life. It's especially true if kids arrived early in the marriage.
Anyone who starts to feel like that, really needs to go to counselling. That will help them work out whether they're really unhappy, or just fantasising about the grass being greener.
2006-11-23 17:49:28 · answer #6 · answered by Kylie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, when I met my ex online and realized I loved him more... And I feel trapped. And I got married too young at 19. But hey, when my kids are raised, I don't have to stay.
2006-11-23 15:47:27 · answer #7 · answered by :-) literary cappy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont be selfish. If you werent ready 2 settle down then u shouldnt have gotten married. Suck it up honey
2006-11-23 16:02:02 · answer #8 · answered by 1hotmama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋