Is it fair to say that any relationship that starts out as an affair wont be successful?

Question

its highly likely that the person will do the same thing to you..how does everyone else feel.?

Answer 1

I don't think it's correct to say that EVERY relationship that starts as an affair will not be successful.
You are on the right track though, as most of them will miss the deep trust necessary for successful relationships.
Integrity is tough to re-establish once you've blemished it.

Answer 2

I wouldn't say it is fair to say that, because I know of some relationships that did start out as affairs that have lasted. Also, I don't think because they had an affair means they'll have another one.

I think the reason many relationships that start as affairs don't work out over time is that affairs are new and exciting. It is fantasy. When people leave their spouse for somone they are having an affair with, eventually real life sets in and things aren't any different, it's just a different face they're waking up to every morning. So, that not being the answer either, they bail on that relationship.

You can't run from yourself, and those that leave one relationship and run to another they have already started are doing just that. They think they are running from their ex, but in reality they are the problem and that doesn't change. Just the next ex does.

Answer 3

IF A MAN WANTS YOU

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.

If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.

Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.

Slower is better.

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.

Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. They don't respect women or children. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.

If something bothers you, speak up.

Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.

Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are.

Never borrow someone else's man.

Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.

You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.

Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.

Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.

Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Answer 4

I'm not necessarily convinced it means that person is going to do that to you, but I do feel a relationship like that is the beginning to an end. Think about it....it was an affair, which means both of these people are capable of lying, cheating and God only knows what else. That puts a mind set into each of their heads that builds dis-trust and no relationship will survive for long without trust. It's a huge part of the foundation of a relationship.

Answer 5

A lot of factors need to be considered here in regard to motivation, intent and communication however the general feeling would be that if a relationship started off shrouded in secrecy, sneakiness and deceit, then a solid and decent foundation (conducive to successful relationships) was not had and is very hard to try and establish after the initial stages.
Howver, if you take the example of Vivien Leigh and Laurence Olivier who were both married with a child when they started their affair and consider the fact they were together for an extended period of time, then perhaps your question is a generalisation???

Answer 6

The most common answer to why spouses cheat is that something is wrong in the marriage and the affair is a bi-product of those problems, even when most other aspects of the relationship are working well. “The problem” is often one that the faithful spouse who would never think of cheating does not see or has elected to ignore for one reason or another. So if your partner cheated on his spouse because she had for instance low sex drive and started affair with you who has high sex drive there may not be reason for him to cheat on you. On the other hand some people cheat for the thrill of cheating, such persons are not easily changed.

Answer 7

well you know there is a saying that goes if they will do it with you they will do it to you. well if a relationship starts as an affair that means that they are capable of cheating. they have already shown that they are dishonest and disrespectful but sometimes they work out. it just takes a lot of commitment and maturity and trust that they won't feel the same way they felt when they were with the spouse they cheated on. the statistics are very high i think its like 10% of this type of relationship working.

Answer 8

Lots of people think that but It is not always true. Past behavior does not always predict future behavior, but because the relationship starts off with an affair, its a good idea to discuss things and feelings that may come up down the road.

Answer 9

Of each and all of the thoughts of betrayal and cheating i be attentive to of one couple who survived and thrived after the divorce substitute into very final. they are the exception extremely than the guideline. they have been married now for over 13 years when you consider that he divorced his first spouse for her. i admire them the two very plenty, and in spite of the reality that i'm displeased on how they got here at the same time, i'm no longer able to think of them no longer being at the same time. Frankly in case you met them you may on no account wager that they initially began as an adulterous affair. Even his ex-spouse has pronounced that they are happier than she and he ever have been. Statistically the guy the married individual has an affair with is only a stepping stone to get out of the marriage. as quickly as you're actually not mandatory from now on, you would be discarded.

Answer 10

I think some are probably OK, but it has to be a very unhealthy way to start out. The two people know what the other is capable of even when they had taken vows before. There will always be doubt there.