together 5 years married 1.5. left my first wife for her, now i have moved out and don't know what to do. i feel better physically since i left, is this a sign??help
2006-11-23 15:14:55 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if you feel better without her.. than you need to keep it that way
2006-11-23 15:17:31 · answer #1 · answered by shnookumz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF A MAN WANTS YOU
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. They don't respect women or children. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.
Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
2006-11-23 15:39:24 · answer #2 · answered by Photographer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, I wonder how many of those people who told you to move on with your life are or have been married?? Bet not many.
You've already been married once, and now you're ready to divorce a second time. Perhaps there's something that you need to address about yourself to make things better..
Have you been to counselling? Together? Individually?
What have you done to handle the problems besides move out?
There is so much for you to try before you get a divorce. I'm constantly dismayed by people who are ready to disavow any promises they made during the marriage ceremony. If you don't respect your promises, if your word isn't worth anything, what about you is?
My advice to you is to seek out help and make any attempts possible to make your marriage work. If you do, and it works out for you, the value of it will be all that much more for the effort you put in. You'll both appreciate it more.
Good luck.
2006-11-23 15:27:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is the bond between 2 people who love each other. Love plays a major contributing role in marriage. If you truly believe you don't love her, then the right thing to do would be to divorce. But if there's a chance to make things work, then try that because you never know what new flame might rise between you and your wife. Remember: "...For better or for worse..."
2006-11-23 15:22:29 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you a chick? Not "in love" anymore. Dude, you have a responsibility to a wife. You ran out on it once. Now, you are doing it again. This makes you not a man.
A MAN is in control of himself and his emotions. He effects the world, not the other way around and if he loves a woman, it's because he CHOOSES TO DO SO.
If you are going to be a jackass, at least accept responsibility for it. Don't make it sound like it just happened. Don't make excuses. That makes you a loser.
2006-11-23 15:19:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you feel better now is a good indication that you need to divorce her.
1) It may be your conscious has finally gotten to you for destroying your first marriage.
2) You may realize that you made a huge mistake by marrying her.
3) You may realize that she was great to be with for fun during those years, but she is not the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.
2006-11-23 15:19:44 · answer #6 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you left your first wife for her....did the same thing happen in that situation? Regardless, i feel that if you dont love her, then dont stay. If you feel better, that is saying it all right there. Just move on. Say, wanna have coffee? lol
2006-11-23 15:19:57 · answer #7 · answered by romanov1918 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pump your brakes, You Left you're 1st wife for her and now you bail on her. Think about it, It's obvious your afraid of commitment. Do you get tire easy of your relationships, What is it do you need a fresh meat. You need help!
Goog luck with that.
2006-11-23 15:31:14 · answer #8 · answered by Evi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen dude it sounds like your love for her is gone and your really bad at finding a wife. Best advise is go gay lol jk but seriously devorce her if your not happy but talk to her first.
2006-11-23 15:20:37 · answer #9 · answered by Miss. Erin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't love her anymore than you shouldn't have married her in the first place
2006-11-23 15:22:20 · answer #10 · answered by Southern Cowgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely not because it will get no better until you do something about it. I'd make a break. Good luck.
2006-11-23 15:22:31 · answer #11 · answered by Albatross 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋