bisexual boyfriend?

Question

my boyfriend of one year is acting odd. I found that he calls trannys online prostitutes and when I asked him - he said he just finds them different but just calls and has never met with them. I also found that he was calling a lot of online female prostitues all over the country. He calls female and transsexual prostitutes online and just hangs up according to him. He says he doesn't ever meet with them. He looks like such a man and acts so straight. He acts so conversative also. No body will ever think. He claims to be straight. He works as a neurosurgeon. Should I report him. Should I believe him or what should I do.

Answer 1

Report him for what ???

I may have personal beleifs, but having sexual desires and sexual experiences with same sex is not illegal.

He can wear dresses and date Little Richard and it has no effect on his job.
** ok maybe dating LIttle Richard might, that may be too much even for the gays.

Answer 2

You should let him be who he is, but if he's cheating on you then its a different story of course, I'm gay but I'm str8 acting and conservative, most people don't suspect that about me either, and sometimes thats not always such a good thing LOL, if you know he's calling all of these people then you must have seen his phone record, and he claims that he calls and hangs up, but see how long each call lasted, and you should definately have a sincer conversation with him about your relationship, if he's calling prostitutes then maybe he's meeting prostitues in your area, and thats not only dangerous for him but for you as well, do some investigating, since you've already established the motive for the lack of trust, IF he finds out he can't through it in your face that its your fault because you didn't trust him.

Answer 3

Should you report him? To who? For what? Nothing he's doing is illegal, or even wrong, that I know of.

Should you believe him? About what, exactly? I'm not clear on this. Should you believe that he is straight? Yes, in my opinion. He hasn't shown any signs of liking men, but rather 'trannies', which, believe me, is common among straight men and doesn't make him gay/bisexual, although it does make him somewhat different. Shouldy you believe that he is telling the truth about just calling these individuals? Well, that's another matter. I don't know you or him, so I can't tell you either way, although I would be doubtful, and talk to him in depth about it.

All in all, I think your boyfriend is straight, or at least he doesn't like men. I do think there's something going on with his fidelity, though, which you should check out, and when I say that, I mean talk to him. Talk and send out an ultimatum and figure out if you think he's lying and want to be with him still. Good luck.

P.S.- remember that just because someone 'acts straight' or 'looks like such a man' or is conservative doesn't mean they are straight! There are lots of happy, openly gay men who fit all that criteria.

Answer 4

Fascination of trannys does not make him gay at all. In fact he is more interested in the female form. If I am not mistaken a lot of Arab men prefer trannys because it is difficult to have sex with Arab women. They can't even see womens faces let alone touch their hands. It would be a different story if he calls an all-male prostitute.

If you report him to the hospital, do you think it would change things? I don't think so. Instead of helping him, you might be worsening the situation. He might then decide he has nothing to loose and meet up with these prostitutes.

Talk to him again. Tell him it is bothering you and you need to understand him better. Is it a fetish? Does it turn him on? Does he need counseling? If you are not satisfied with his answer, then its up to you to continue with your relationship or simply end it.

Answer 5

No you don't need to report him (I haven't any idea who you think you would report him to). But I would suggest that you move on. It sounds as though he is conflicted about his sexual orientation, and eventually he will figure it out. But at this point he is more concerned with his exploration than he is with your relationship. Either your relationship will go away by your choice now, or his later. He's not yet at the stage of contact/experimentation, but it sounds as though he is headed in that direction in a manner that could end up being very unhealthy/dangerous for you (HIV/AIDS).

Answer 6

Well first thing you should do is talk to him. Sit him down just you and him and tell him you have to have a serious talk and ask him about all this and if he doesnt answer you then maybe you should brake it off with him. Report him for look at prostitues darling do you know how many people do that if you dont like wat he is doing brake it off and dont report him. that wouldnt be a good thing to do.
Good Luck!!

Answer 7

You leave this man alone and don't be a troublemaker.

so he likes trannies - big deal. he likes to flirt. maybe more.

Not a big deal.

so you go call up some male gigolos and talk them up into sex. Get him jealous. Or are you just with him for all that cash he earns??? Huh????

You sound like a gold-digger to me.

U LEAVE THIS GUY ALONE AND DON'T RUIN HIS LIFE.

If you really are angry - find another guy - there's lots out there and they all have *****, honey.

Answer 8

Report him? For making phone calls? NO Dont mess with the man's livelihood and get him fired. It's not like he is messing with kids. Its not a crime to be gay or bi. That being said on a relationship level, I don't trust that situation. His curiosity may lead to something. I think he is on the 'downlow'

Answer 9

when ur having sex do some thing real freaky play w/ his but and see what he dose if u guys don't do this kind of thing how he reacts will tell u some thing some times.

Answer 10

let him be who he is.

he already is a brain surgeon.

sounds like you want to expose him as an act of betrayal,
to pay him back for what you think is wandering.
if you are not secure in your relationship with him,
then let him go.