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i cannnot because she has really upset me

2006-11-23 14:33:19 · 37 answers · asked by squawinpants 3 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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Just remember you had your husband first. You MARRIED him and have his first kids. It must be killing her! Laugh in her face and say "You're entitled to your opinion, sweetie!" Be nice and it will choke her more! If she knows she's hurt you, she'll feel like the winner! My ex husband had so many girlfriends after we divorced, it was getting silly. It was difficult when he went on and had other kids after our sons but I learned that his girlfriends were gutted he never married anyone but me!! Hold your head up! You were a WIFE, not just a girlfriend!

2006-11-23 15:13:13 · answer #1 · answered by Pixxxie 4 · 1 0

did she call u this to your face or is someone telling u this? if she is saying stuff like that to your kid/kids i would ask the ex to talk to her about it and if she does it again u will be left with no choice but to make sure she is no where around the kids.
my husbands kids had a truly bad mother. i never ever said one negative thing about her. that is just the abosolute worst thing one can do, and u have to make sure she is not allowed to talk smack about u. the ex needs to keep her in line around the kids. here is the thing she is jealous becuase u share something with your ex. DO NOT LET HER GET TO U. bad, bad, bad. if she is not involving your kids just ignore her. i know it is hard but the best revenge is no revenge. if she knows she is getting to u then she has u right where she wants u. who cares what she thinks of u. she is a looser. pitcure this: everytime she knows she pissed u off or upset u she is laughing at u. so what would i do
1. if the kids are involved in any way shape or form. call the ex and explain with a nice but stern tone that u have come across some information that ????? has been saying some inapproiate things about u to your kids. explain that u do not care what she thinks about u but u most definelty care about what your kids are hearing. you are an adult and u demand to be treated as such if the ex has a problem with anything about u he is more then welcome to call and discuss it with you but ?????needs to get her own life and stay out of yours cause you and your kids are simply none of her buisness. I am sorry (ex) i would like u to be able to continue to have a healthy relationship with the kids but if he is unable to put????? on a short lesh when the kids are around u will have to look at the visitation terms. then thank him for his time and end the call. no argument, no excuses, just say your piece.
2. if the kids are not invovled (meaning she does not bad mouth u to the kids) then i would do nothing. well, maybe i would laugh to myself about how pathedic she is.
i would never talk to her personally. not on the phone or in person. the reason why is because u and your kids are none of her buisness. she is your exs problem to deal with.
if u happen to be in her sight, smile. if she answers the phone put on your most pleasant voice and say HI ????? this is ????? is ????? home.
GOOD LUCK

2006-11-23 15:08:27 · answer #2 · answered by Kim N 2 · 0 0

I would agree with the other member, she is trying to score points with your ex because she feels threatened by you. After all you have his children, so you will always be in the background of their relationship and obviously she is finding this hard to deal with.
Ignore her, that will get to her more than anything, and if you are sure in your own heart that you do the best for your children you can, being a single parent, then your ex will know that as well, and if he doesn't know, that's because he's with her and not you.
So who is he to judge anything.
Good luck to you, take care of those children they need you, and ignore the comments of this obviously vindictive person.

2006-11-23 17:57:13 · answer #3 · answered by animalwatch 3 · 0 0

Slap the b!tch across the left cheek, punch her in the right eye then slap her with the back of my hand across her right cheek. Knock her head on the counter, slam her fingers in the cupboard then tell her "yeah I'm a bad motherf****r wen I want 2 be, but never been a bad mom" then kick her on her a*s out the door. And everytime she sees u she should bend down and lick the bottom of ur shoes for uttering such crap. She's just jealous of u dont let her get 2 u. U hav wat she dosnt. Dont b afraid 2 pop her one in the mouth and another in the eye if she starts acting up.

Baby girl keep ur head up

2006-11-23 15:22:35 · answer #4 · answered by Mimi 2 · 0 0

an ex partner will always try to justify the breakup of a relationship by telling stories that are not necessarily true, by doing this they make themselves out to be the injured party, sadly some people will believe them if they have no other information to go on, your ex's girlfriend will want to believe whatever he tells her, at the moment, to her, he is probably the best thing since sliced bread and will believe anything he tells her.

i know that it is upsetting you, but try to rise above it, do not allow him to bring you down with his bitterness,
all that matters is that both you and your baby are well and happy,
and who knows, maybe one day she to will see him for what he really is,
all you can do now is to try and make as good a life as you can for you and your baby, if it helps put your feelings down in words, rant and rave on paper and cry if you must, sometimes just doing this can actually help, if they are making you doubt yourself, then speak to friends, family or even your health visitor at the baby clinic, and they will all be able to reassure you.

i wish both you and your baby happiness for the future and good luck

2006-11-23 19:58:06 · answer #5 · answered by mythmagicdragon 4 · 0 0

Just slap her out and then asked whether she can do what she accuse u or not. She can never do it, because if she could than she would never say u this. And remember dear, there r many people in this world to talk , but in doing time they cannot do anything. Don't be upset. Listen, what people say is not true all the time. Take care and thanks for sharing ur question and making me able to answer it. Thanks once again.

2006-11-23 14:39:20 · answer #6 · answered by Fariha 2 · 0 0

Your kids know you are a good mother, so who cares what SHE thinks? Surely the only people you should be concerned about pleasing are your kids, you are obviously doing a good job, she is just being a cow, sounds like she is extremely jealous.

2006-11-23 18:47:38 · answer #7 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0 0

well first of all i can relate. but don't handle it the way i did i called her up and told her it was none of her business. and told her to back out of my business. she was just jealous probably why your exs gf is jealous too. ignore her if you feel the need to say something just tell her that you know that you are a good mother and that more importantly so do your kids so whatever she says doesn't matter. good luck to you.

2006-11-23 16:42:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

did she tell you this to your face if so why didn't you sort it then if not who's told you this could it be ear say if its true and she did call you a bad mum then you should call her now and ask her why she said it but stay calm because at the end of the day shes probably jealous that you have a child to her man and she doesn't xx

2006-11-23 14:55:40 · answer #9 · answered by sarah 2 · 0 0

Understand that the realationship is between you and your child and their father. She has nothing to say about it. Know that you are a good mother and ignore what she is saying. Sheis the girlfriend and she may be gone tomorrow.

2006-11-23 14:36:43 · answer #10 · answered by deb b 3 · 0 0

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