How do i become a better housewife?

Question

I need help!!!! I was never around stay at home moms growing up and now i am one but I dont know how to do housewife things. Like how do i schedule cleaning and my son and time for my husband. How do i make sure that I stay happy doing it. How do i get that inner want to do the constant housewife stuff? And most of all What are my duties as a housewife? Someone Please Help me my marriage is going down the drain because of this!!!!!

Answer 1

Call your mother and ask her.

Answer 2

Need lots of energy. Wake up about an hour before everyone else, brew yourself some coffee. Drink a cup and wake up, think over in your mind what needs to be done in the house. Take out something for dinner, if frozen (hamburger, roast, pork chops what ever) Laundry, clean kitchen, clean bathrooms, clean bedrooms, clean living room, vaccum carpet, sweep and mop floors. You have to start the laundry right away, then start cleaning from one side of the house to the other. Take it one room at a time, don't go make all the beds then go back and pick up, you'll get side tracked. Turn on stereo while you clean. If you keep yourself going you'll be done by the time your son and husband come home from work and school. You'll be too busy to think if your happy or miserable. But if you start feeling miseralbe, just think about how you are doing such a great job taking care of your family, your job is very important. You don't have to make sure dinner is on the table when your husband walks in the door, but at least have it cooking. Every day my husband comes home, his first words are something sure does smell good, and that right there makes me happy. Even though you have a lot of work, the luxury is you get to take a break anytime. Once you get going you'll see how long it takes to clean this or that, and how long it takes to cook whatever you make, that you'll be able to do things quickly and have a little more time for yourself. Remember there is always something to do, the house can never be clean enough, don't forget to dust and wipe down t.v.s. I don't use a schedule, but if you want to just write down the days and what you want to clean and cook on those days, but honestly if you go by a schedule I think you will get burnt out, do things when you want to and cook what ever you want. lol, I know it sounds terrible, but it really isn't.

Answer 3

it just takes time..you just have to try different things to fit your schedule until you find one that works..I am a single guy and have been living on my own for 15 years...at first I had a usually messy apartment, now Ihave a system.
I dont know how old your som is b/c that can make it tough, but if he is a tottler or kid till, you have to make him clean after himself, or take the toys away...then as far as the rest of the house, I tackle one room a day, plus I never let it get out of control in the 1st place, I do every dish right away, I wipe down the bath a few times a week, and then on the weekend it isnt a long process, same with the kitchen...

it seems like you are trying to keep you rman happy, and going the extra mile to make it work, so just ask him, to keep you company while you clear the dinner table, really he should help, but that is not my business, but then while you do the dishes you will have time to talk with your husband... fold laundry while watching TV with your son, when cooking let your son play at the table in the kitchen.

just suggestions, like I said you have to find your wn way

Answer 4

FIRST OF ALL , BEING HAPPY IS ALL UP TO YOU IF YOU LOVE YOUR HUSBAND THEN YOU SHOULD BE HAPPY... CLEANING CAN BE DONE IN A SCHEDULE DAYS LIKE TWO OR THREE TIMES A WEEK DEPENDING HOW MESSY YOUR FAMILY IS. YOU CAN DO LITTLE TIDYING UP IN THE BEDROOM ,LIVING ROOM,KITCHEN LIKE WASHING THE EVERYDAY DISHES .LAUNDRY SHOULD BE DONE ON THE WEEKEND SO YOUR HUSBAND CAN TAKE CARE OF YOUR SON WHILE YOUR DOING IT. SPARE A TIME FOR YOUR SELF TOO SO YOU HAVE TIME FOR YOUR HUSBAND AT NIGHT IN BED.MAKE A LIST OF THE POSSIBLE DINNER THAT IS EASY TO COOK AND PREPARE.YOU DON'T NEED A FANCY ONE. IF YOU KNOW WHAT THE MENU FOR THE DAY THEN THE NIGHT BEFORE YOU CAN BRING OUT THE MEAT TO BE DEFROST THEN COOK IT ON THE DAY TIME WHILE YOUR SON IS SLEEPING /PLAYING(MAKE SURE YOU SEE YOUR SON AROUND YOU).AROUND THE TIME THAT YOUR HUSBAND IS ABOUT TO COME FIX YOUR SELF AND WHEN HIS AT HOME ASK HIM TO DO SOME CHORES WITH YOU LIKE ...PREPARING THE TABLE OR TAKING CARE OF THE TABLE AFTER DINNER ,ASK HIM TO LOOK/TAKE CARE OF YOUR SON. YOU HAVE TO TALK TO HIM AND INVOLVE HIM TOO.IF YOU WANT YOUR MARRIAGE TO WORK YOU HAVE TO TALK AND COMPROMISED. MARRIAGE IS FOR BOTH OF YOU. HOUSEWIFE DUTIES ARE CLEANING ,LAUNDRY,TAKING CARE OF YOUR KIDS AND HUSBAND TOO.LEARN TO BALANCE YOUR TIME .

Answer 5

It sounds to me like you are trying to be someone you are not. You need to be who you want to be and work your family into that picture. You will never be happy being someone else's idea of who you are. You will only become angry and resentful over time.

If your husband loves you he would want the same for you. He wants you to be happy and be who you are, not who others (including him) think you should be. True love is rejoicing in the happiness of the one you love. Their happiness is essential to your own. If they are not happy, than you are not happy.

A good explanation of this is "The Four Aspects of True Love"

The Four Aspects of True Love
Adapted from True Love, by Thich Nhat Hanh (Shambhala, 1997).

Simple Solution
Love is one of the most confusing of feelings. What some people call “love” may be possessiveness, or simple desire, or some other lesser emotion.

According to Buddhism, there are four elements of true love. Read what this wise teacher has to say, and find out if what you feel is true love. Here are the four aspects of true love.

1. Loving-kindness. Loving-kindness is not only the desire to make someone happy, to bring joy to a beloved person, it is the ability to bring joy and happiness to the person you love, because even if your intention is to love this person, your love might make him or her suffer. To be able to give happiness and joy, you must practice deep looking toward the person you love. Because if you do not understand this person, you cannot love properly.

2. Compassion. This is not only the desire to ease the pain of another person, but the ability to do so. You must practice deep looking in order to gain a good understanding of the nature of the suffering of this person, in order to be able to help him or her to change.

3. Joy. If there is no joy in love, it is not true love. If you are suffering all the time, if you cry all the time, and if you make the person you love cry, this is not really love--it is even the opposite. If there is no joy in your love, you can be sure that it is not true love.

4. Freedom. In true love, you attain freedom. When you love, you bring freedom to the person you love. If the opposite is true, it is not true love. You must love in such a way that the person you love feels free, not only outside but also inside. “Dear one, do you have enough space in your heart and all around you?” This is an intelligent question for testing whether your love is something real.

Answer 6

Clean the house, do laundry, cook a fine meal, the rest will come. If you dont enjoy that stuff full time why arent you working? Some women just cant do that...too tedious.

Answer 7

i can give you the training.

Week one: Communication- Speak when spoken too. Keep your eyes to yourself. Phone rings use proper etidcate; Mr Smith is not available. At night, I expect to hear. "May I get you another beer" in a low tone so you dont interrupt the game.

Week two: Cook what i like. I will give you a menu.

Week three: accept your husbands other girlfriends, the bed may be a little crowd it.

this is some more to come. just contact me.

Answer 8

sorry ..those kinda course's or classes were canceled. but you have to get up off the couch first , turn off your soap operas. clean , cook , laundry list goes on an on.

Answer 9

just try! i know a few moms that dont do **** but sit around get drunk and flat out miserable, i dont think you would want to be one of these worthless mothers i speak of. if you love them and want it to work.... JUST TRY!!!

Answer 10

cook...alway's make the house clean and in order...