I know I am going to get crucified for this, but here it goes. I just got married last October. My wife and I were best friends with her brother and his wife. I was together with her for 8 years and didn't get married for the best reason. My sister in law (brother in law's wife) felt the same way about her marriage. We started talking and connected and had an affair for several months. They found out and we are both going through divorces. We are madly in love and want to be together. I really feel like it will work out for everyone in the end. What do you think?
2006-11-23 14:19:31 · 15 answers · asked by nhresident2007 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
too bad you didn't realize this earlier. but whats done is done obvisouly you have had feeling for her for a long time you thought they were gone and you realize now there not. Well you've come this far the two marriage are now going through a divorce as you say youmight as well continue on with this woman if this is the one for you and i hope you have a better go around this time.
2006-11-23 20:39:38 · answer #1 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should walk away from the situation even if its temporary take a good long look at the facts you both cheated is this a factor that will happen again? Is the Love you two share deep enough when cheating arises between either of you to resolve it so you stay together? Who is it suppos eto work out for in the end what about the "other spouses" do you think family get togethers will be smooth and not akward for them and parents? Good Luck think it all through also if Children are involved think of what your teaching them by your actions...
2016-05-22 21:29:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing you must understand. An affair is always exciting because it is forbidden fruit. The rush you feel of being discovered adds to that excitement.
Now that is over. Your wife and her husband have been cast aside and now you can really get to know each other as you never have before.
You must understand and come to except that you have never shown your true self to her and she to you. If you marry you will find everything changes. it may work out fine. It may not.
If your smart you will live with her for and extended time before marriage. Get to know her fro real. You may find the woman you left behind will suddenly look far better than you thought or she her husband.
You rushed your first....don't your second.
2006-11-23 14:32:29 · answer #3 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it probably wasn't complicated until you decided to become involved with your wifes sister in law.
I hate to tell you this but the stats for you and your lover are not great and you have an 80% chance that it wont work.
Knowing that your sister in law is a cheater how will you trust her or yourself for that matter.
I think You Have alot of issues you need to work thru.
ps. I feel sorry for your wife and your brother in law the devastation must be horrible you and the others in your dilemma are about to be faced with huge trust issues.
2006-11-23 15:07:46 · answer #4 · answered by degraysignatures 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the answer. People, relatives will talk, gossip,"oh yeah you're a dirty dog, you two are scum." That will put a bit of strain on the marriage. Hey, if you're thick skinned enough, go for it, but don't be surprised if even after you're married fifty years relatives will still talk bad about you all. When relatives trash talk about you, you're just going to have to let it go. Best of luck.
2006-11-23 14:26:22 · answer #5 · answered by Clipper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you both did is unforgiveable. You have ruined 2 marriages and hope now this will work out for you. Well, how you start is how you will end.
Good luck
2006-11-23 14:31:45 · answer #6 · answered by firefly06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really would like it to work out youll relocate out of state and start fresh. It will save alot of crap in the end. Better luck this time out.
2006-11-23 15:05:39 · answer #7 · answered by Johnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think innocent people got hurt and you HOPE this will work out for you. It's not right the way you played with other people's emotions. You don't feel their humilation and pain. Heartless people never do.
2006-11-23 14:24:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NAH, shouldn't be a problem. I'd get divorced, then plan on moving away. Cause there prolly ain't gonna be much love for you 2 in that town.
2006-11-23 14:29:31 · answer #9 · answered by Psycomagnet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it may work out for you and your sister in law but it still leaves two very hurt people behind.
2006-11-23 14:28:20 · answer #10 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋