a girl loves me and want to marry me but shes older than me?

Question

i am 24 yrs old shes 32 and she loves me a lot , shes relative of myne and she comes to my home often stays close to me and even kissed me takes more advantage over me (more like controlling me) my parents think that shes behaving to me as if she was my sister but situation is different, she even kissed me ,she blackmailed me that she will write letter to my parents as if i behaved badly to her and etc etc every 1 here will beleive what a girl says so i am just worried what to do i dont stay at my home much nowadays donno
what to do to overcome this problem , i dont want to love her or marry her , i am like a brother to her but shes not listening whatever i say .so pls some one tell me how to solve this problem without any missunderstanding .

Answer 1

I have found through out my life that it is best to just come right out and say what you have to say in plain English/Spanish. Don't hold back. The burden of making her understand ... lies with you.

So, when no one is around, ( to save her any embarrassment ) you must tell her that you will not be black mailed, that her behavior around you is inappropriate. Tell her that you do not love her and you do not want to marry her. As for the Black mail.. write a letter to your parents and be honest about telling them what she is doing and what threats she has made. Mail the letter before you have the serious talk. Then tell her that you have already told your parents so she can save herself the time of writing her letter.
The final sentence I use... " go ahead ... give it your best shot, I will not be held hostage or blackmailed by anyone."

Good Luck. Fear Not....

Answer 2

The way u wrote it seems that the girl loves u madly and in any circumstances she want to get u. But the problem is u don't like her, and u have a lot of age difference. You can name this one-sidded love . And onesided love doesn't stay for a long time. If u without ur wish marry her now, later ur life will be destroyed. So I advice u to discuss with ur family about this matter and all by dealings with problem find a better solution. If ur parents agree with ur decision, go and say that girl that u don't love her and nor want to keep any relation. May be in ur these decision lives everyones happiness. May be it can save the life of urs , ur parents and that girl. Listen, don't take any decision seriously but think hundred times before. And remember in future if u marrry her ur age differences will totally run ur life. All the best dear. Take care.

Answer 3

This woman does not love you - she wants to control you and if you don't get help with situation that's exactly what will happen. You must try to avoid being in her presence if at all possible. Your parents need to be told what's happening even if this woman denies everything but telling them first makes you sound more credible. If all else fails enlist the help of an older relative with whom you have a good repoire with or your minister. You cannot let this woman control your life - you must entrust someone with the facts and ask for help.
Good Luck.

Answer 4

ok, if you get married - then comes the kids and further responsibility. Don't let anyone force you into something you do not desire. You are not solely hurting yourself but also her because you will be miserable. Be honest with her and tell her you are not ready for marriage and be honest with your family. If she is blackmailing you now, imagine what the future holds? Why dig deeper in the S**t?

Answer 5

first confront a speech therapist and an english teacher. Then if this is true I'd place a call to the Maury show or Montel Williams...sounds like an interesting episode.

Answer 6

If you have a good relationship with your parents you need to talk to them. She is trying to blackmail you so she can keep control over you. Don't let her. Tell your parents first, then set her straight.

Answer 7

RUN for you LIFE!!!

Answer 8

why not