Just wondering, as the two marriages I know that fit this description are or were very unhappy marriages. It seems to me that men enjoy doing the chasing and it means they really love the woman, whereas when the woman does the pursuit, it almost seems that if a marriage results, the man just gets "worn down" and marries because of outside pressure. What does everyone think: If a woman is the pursuer is the marriage destined for failure?
2006-11-23 13:44:46 · 5 answers · asked by HCH32 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
IF A MAN WANTS YOU
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change = yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. They don't respect women or children. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.
Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
2006-11-23 19:29:36 · answer #1 · answered by Photographer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While there is never any absolutes I would say your premise is a good one. There are men....myself included.....who hate to disappoint the women they care about. This can be carried to far.
If a man finds himself married and somehow wonders how it all happened he is not going to be as happy as he would be otherwise. However....as with all relationships....this is not always true. Your question fits my former wife's brother and his wife.
They went through grade and high school together. Were on and off through high school and once they were out he broke it off completely. He went to college then the Navy as an officer. Following his tour of duty he came back home. After all that time she had still not given up. They got together and have been married for many years. No marriage is 100% happy and theirs is no exception but they have reached retirement together and are doing quite well.
2006-11-23 14:24:30 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never seen this happen. I have had some experiences with people stalking me, it happens, some people are just obssessive and will do such sh1t. I'm sure there are women who prefer to get involved in the no-strings-attached relationships - and what's better way to ensure that the relationship is a no-strings-attached one than to find a man who is already married or seriously involved. But this and the stalking do not necessarily go together. If anything, women who are looking for "easy prey" (that some married guys are) will not waste years of their life chasing someone who is not interested. I think, there are very few women out there who "specialize" in married men exclusively; it's just one of the ways to ensure that the relationship is kept casual.
2016-03-29 07:09:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes I have a good friend who had his wife chase him until she got him, they have been married over 10 years and have 2 kids, and seem very happy
2006-11-23 14:36:52 · answer #4 · answered by vincenzo445 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some women have no other choice =)
(im not talking about me though)
2006-11-23 14:15:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋