I lied to my husband today?

Question

I thought that that someone in my husbands familystold 50dollars today when they came over for Thanksgiving. I told my husband he got upset and asked all his brothers, sisters and cousins, If they seen the money anywhere. They all said no, we did not make a big deal in front of his family because it would suck to acuse someone of stealing if they didn't.In our bedroom secretly I was acusing his family and we had a big agument today.
i looked everywhere I couldn't find it.My husband dicided to go to his sisters house to acuse her boyfriend (that's who we blamed)he on his way to thier house,when I found the money in my bra.I felt so stupid. I called him and told him that I found the money he was about to pull up in their driveway, so he did not acuse them, but when he asked me where i found it I lied because I felt I had too, I told him I found it on the floor behind the computer.I was scard to tell him I had it in my bra the whole time.I feel bad for lieing,advice please!TY

Answer 1

Take it easy. That's a white lie and it will cause no harm. You didn't need to lie, but now that you did, and I can understand why you did do it, forget the whole thing. People make mistakes, and today was the day you made one. Congratulations, you're human. Don't beat yourself up.

Answer 2

A white lie between husband and wife now and then keep marriages together. If you never tell your husband a lie any worse than that, you are exceptional.
Don't worry about it.
The fact is you found it in time to save some real embarrassment.
Where you found it isn't that important.
Frankly, I would have done the same thing.
You should let the family know that the money was found though. So they don't think, you think one of them is a thief.
But remember this golden rule. Once you tell a little white lie. STICK TO IT.

Answer 3

You really should have just told him the truth in the first place as lies have a way of being found out in the end and it will only cause you more problems. Why don't you just explain to him that you felt bad about lying but you were a bit nervous to tell him the truth. I don't know why you were scared though, surely if he loves you he would have understood about this misunderstanding. I always believe in honesty being the best policy. After all the main thing was that the money was found and not stolen. Right !!!

Answer 4

I was getting pretty worried reading your story - but you did fine at the end.

Tell him some time if it'll make you feel better. The important thing was that you let him know IMMEDIATELY when you found the money, so he could take appropriate action. You might want to apologize to the required people.

To be honest, it might be better that you said it was 'behind the desk' rather then in your bra, and you can fess up to the truth once everyone has cooled down. The fact it was in your bra makes you look a bit stupid. When everyone's temper was up, that might have annoyed them more - your 'stupidity' having caused the problem. Once everyone is relaxed, I suspect they're more likely to find it funny. Expect to be the butt of a few jokes.

Answer 5

First of all i think u should have not done this. You should not have accused ur husbands family. But never mind, mistake can be with anyone. And if in ur place i would be there , may be i would also reacted in the same way. Its natural. Remember " Honesty is the best Policy" so go to ur husband and say the truth. Because a marraige relation is totally based on trust, so if u break his trust by saying a lie that means u broke ur marraige. So say him and show him how sorry and guilty u r . If he truly loves u will forget. But remember nver do this again, not with anyone. Because most of the time we get hurt with the saying of our dearers. Take care.

Answer 6

You could have caused some major damage there but luckily you found the money. Its really no use in coming clean now b/c you've already told your husband you found it behind the computer and if you try to turn it around it'll probably make it worst.

I would apologize to the family members for accusing them (on thansgiving at that) and let it ride..and take it as a lesson learned. You probably should have first tried to look for the money first and told your husband about it at the last resort especially b/c you had family members over.

Answer 7

Well I have done stuff like that before, makes you feel really stupid when you do it I know. Now I for one do not believe in telling lies either. When something like that happens to me and I tell one of those little white lies, it eats on me like crazy. So I have always came forward that night when I am getting ready for bed. Once I set on the bed, I say " I have a confession to make to you" and then I say "remember when I told ****** *****? Well I lied to you about that". "This is really what happened ******* ****, I am sorry that I didn't tell you the truth earlier but it is eating on me so bad that I had to tell you the truth". If they asked why I lied in the first place, I tell them it was because it made me feel stupid when I realized what did really happen.Then I feel so much better about myself cause at least the truth is out now. I know that some folks are not that honest but I am.

Answer 8

Yes you did lie to him and you may feel a little foolish for causing such a uncomfortable situation but you are far worse off to not tell him the truth. It will comfort you to come clean and you'll feel much better, it's the guilt for lying that is eating you up inside. One lie will lead to another and so on. It's not the end of the world and I know you feel awkward because of the accusation you made. You can do it, I know it.

Answer 9

Well thank goodness you found the money BEFORE your hubby arrived. A white lie to avoid embarassment about the money's location--that is your perogative. I have jumped too quickly to accuse people too when things go missing. Just remember this incidence if money turns up missing next time. You can also come clean if he is not too upset. Telling him, honey--actually, he he he--it was in my bra the whole time. I don't know him, so I don't know how pissed he would get. If he would get really mad, just keep that one to yourself.

Answer 10

Go ahead and tell him. He'll probably get a laugh out of it. Perhaps you should tell him that you were embarrassed to tell him it was in your bra, so you told him something a little less "duh" oriented.

This isn't a big deal. There's been many a time where my husband and I searched the whole house for the keys only for me to pull them out of my pocket.

Don't make a mountain out of a mole hill, and try your best to refrain from lying--those white lies add up and can lead to big problems.