I had a confirmed pregnancy test about a week ago. Because I'm a singer/dancer, I need to have an abortion as soon as possible so I can keep my figure and voice. I think I'm about a month along, and my voice has already lowered a few notches. Should I go to Planned Parenthood or just a OB/GYN? How much does an abortion tend to run? If it is expensive, can I receive help from the clinic? How much of the procedure will I see? I've also heard about post-abortion depression. Is there such a thing? I know I need to get this done and over with, but I'm extremely worked up and nervous over it despite the fact my mind is made up. Will I receive any emotional after-care from the clinic if I do fall into depression? I guess that I would like other women's experiences if you would like to share, but I do not want people being disrespectful. I don't mind differing opinions, but this is not the time to be unkind.
2006-11-23 13:21:14 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Planned Parenthood and the OB's will make you have counceling prior to the procedure. It is a big big decision. I understand you are a balarina and vocalist...but you are carrying a life. Terminating that childs life is very very big. Give yourself some more time to concider your and the child's future. There are so many husbands and wives who can not become a fmaily and would love to adopt your child. (Do not mean to preach, sorry) You have a tight thin body if you are a professional balarina...it will go back to the way it was before pregnancy with only a few exceptions. But, you need to do what is right for you.
I've been singing since I was 4...performed until I became a mom and pediatric dental asst.. Pregancy does not change your voice. Infact...most opera singers are heavy set because the extra weight pushes the diaphram up giving you more control for virbrato..when I had my boys I gave the best performances in my life. The changing of voice is a falacy.
Good luck. Take care!
2006-11-23 13:36:44 · answer #1 · answered by Smiling Belle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pregnancy does not lower your voice. I've sang publicly all my life, and being pregnant did not change a thing.
Most women who have abortions have depression or even post-traumatic stress disorder. Not all abortion clinics offer after-care. None that I know of offer financial assistance. You will not be able to bounce back to work immediately afterwards......your body will need time to heal and stop bleeding. Also, there are some serious side effects for you that could happen, especially if you are looking for a low-price job.
Truly, I'm not trying to be disrespectful.....but I think you sound scared to go through with the abortion. And rightly so. It's also scary to be pregnant & give birth. Sometimes the harder choice is the better choice. You will have less side effects (emotionally & physically) if you just go through with the pregnancy and put the baby up for adoption. Certainly no one would question you or bereat you for that choice.
I'm sorry you are in such a bad situation.
Whatever your decision, good luck and best wishes. Email me if you want, and I'll try to answer any more questions you may have.
2006-11-23 21:30:19 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs.Fine 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would go to an abortion clinic, abortions run about 200-350 dollars if you are under 12 weeks, depending on where you go. They will give you some pain relief such as ibuprofen and xanex or valium to calm your nerves, and you can pay about 70 dollars for the nitrous gas to put you in a "happy place" and to relieve some of the tension or you can choose an IV pain relief method which runs around 100-150, or some places will put you in semi sleep where you will be awake and don't really remember much of what is going on or put you all the way to sleep. Most clinics offer discounts to military, medicaid holders, or students, but its only about 50 dollars, but other than that, no help is given. You won't see much of the procedure seeing as you have to lay on your back and be completely still, the dialation rods could puncture your uterus and cause infertility. They will explain all the risks to you at your appointment. THere is such a thing as post-abortion depression, I went through this, and it is tough, I did not seek help, but most clinics or PP offer it. It is free. It does hurt, and you have to go in the room alone, but you will bond with some of the other people that are there when you go. Any more questions, just ask.
2006-11-23 15:04:07 · answer #3 · answered by onehotmomma929 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you really need to talk to an OBGYN Doctor. A Gynecologist can take care of this for you. How old are you? Do you have insurance? Some insurance cover this. I know for a fact that it is expensive. I work in Medical Billing and Coding and I know that our center charges $700 and up for abortions, depending on the type of procedures the Doctor has to do. Our center always bills the insurance first and if it's not covered, the patient is stuck with this cost. How much of the procedure will you see? Well, it depends on how far along you are and what type of procedure the Doctor does. Yes, there is such a thing as depression after abortion, but I haven't seen too many patients with this. If you do fall into depression, your gynecologist can provide counseling. I hope that this helps you! Please go see a Doctor!
2006-11-23 13:28:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
First let me say that I am pro-choice.
You said your mind is made up. I am assuming you made an informed decision so I will skip over the importance of knowing all your options.
An OB/GYN would be fine but you would really need to know about his/her personal beliefs on the subject of abortion. I know doctors are supposed to be impartial, but they are only human. If he or she is personally opposed to abortion, you might not get accurate or complete information. It would be terribly burdensome to pay for an office visit only to find out when you get there that the doctor will not discuss abortion options. Then you would be forced to pay for another office visit somewhere else.
I would also steer clear of “crisis pregnancy centers”. There have been far too many documented cases of their deceptive and cruel scare tactics that are only designed to discourage you from getting an abortion. Personally, I would recommend Planned Parenthood. Their fees are operated on a sliding scale.
As for the procedure itself, if you are only about 1 month along in your pregnancy, you have a lot of options as to the type of procedure. Any decent family planning clinic will be able to discuss the options, risks and costs with you. The National Network of Abortion Funds (http://www.nnaf.org/help.html) has resources and a hotline number for financial help should you need it. The National Abortion Federation (www.prochoice.org) also has resources.
Post abortive depression is not nearly as common as some would like women to believe. However if you do find yourself struggling with depression - usually due to family condemnation or religious/cultural conflicts - Exhale (http://www.4exhale.org/index.php) offers a toll-free phone counseling service. Their counselors are non-judgmental and the service is free. I have no personal experience with the Exhale project – but I have heard good things about it.
If you are still looking for the perspective of other women who have had abortions, there are several excellent sites. Project Voice (http://www.theabortionproject.org/html/view_all_stories.php) and I’m Not Sorry (http://www.imnotsorry.net/) allow women to post their own personal stories regarding their abortion decision, experience and follow-up.
I truly wish you the best.
2006-11-26 03:29:07 · answer #5 · answered by BettyT 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no financial help available for abortions. If you do not use an abortion clinic you will need to find a doc that does abortions as most docs will not do them in the office or they don't have the equipment in the office to preform abortions. Many people suffer depression after having an abortion. They were pregnant with a baby when they walked into the clinic and after it is all over they no longer have the baby inside of them. Most clinics will counsel you about the possiblity of depression or emotional problems post abortion but not sure if the clinics actually treat it. You may need to see your doc if do wind up with emotional issues after taking care of the baby issue. The one thing you need to stop and think about is that you need to think twice before you have sex again once you do get rid of this baby as there is always the possiblity it could happen again even with lots of protection. Anyone who has sex has to be willing to deal the possiblity of an unplanned pregnancy in case it does happen. Good Luck.
2006-11-23 13:34:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I will answer your question isntead of hurling my beliefs at you. You should go to an abortion clinic and abortions run about $500. I don't know, but you might be able to use a pyment plan and just call when you set up your appointment and ask the nurse or receptionsit if there's anyway you can be on a month to month payment plan for your surgery. You will need someone to talk to, so find someone you trust and who won't judge you and talk to them about how you feel because you'll probably be incredibly emotional and up and down. If you have any more questions about it, call your local Planned Parenthood and ask about the procedure and if they do it. Honey, I wish you the best of luck, and I'm happy you have your decision made and you feel okay with that. That's the most important thing.
2006-11-23 13:38:11 · answer #7 · answered by snowbaby 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you need to set up an appiontment with your doctor, he/she will recomend a clinic or to have the precedure at the hospital, you will be awake for the procidure but will be given frezzing and a medication to make you dopy,You won't see anything,lay back and stay calm, it is quick about 15-20 mins. you may here some buzzing. It is about the same discomfort as a pap smere. You will then be taken to recovery room, you may feel really cold after and please if you are thirsty drink slowly you may end up throghing up. You will feel a bit depressed but it passes, in most cases you are fine within a day, they will give you some pills to take to prevent infection, take all of them, they won't release you unless someone escorts you home, a friend or you boyfriend will help for the emotional factor, the total time is about 2 hours, check in , procedure, recovery. I am in Canada so the cost is covered I am not sure the cost but please go throught your doctor and not some back ally abortion clinic that is cheaper. If you are in Canada the Morgantaller clinic is great. hope I could help it is a hard desision to make get counceling after if you can I don't regret my decision but I do think about it every once in a while it will stay apart of you. But it is your decision to make, it is your body if you get a bunch of prolifers disregard them they will just make you feel like ****. Your life is of equal value and importance. best of luck to you Oh by the way you will bleed for 3 weeks or so and when you go in for the procedure bring night time pads you will bleed heavy for a bit, and you will have some cramping after, Tylenol 1's help.
2006-11-23 13:45:51 · answer #8 · answered by ponitail 55 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Lots of the people who answered your question are nutjobs, but there are some really good ones too!
No, you will not be murdering someone. You must think of yourself and NO ONE ELSE in this situation. You have a choice, so you need to make one that's going to work for you long term. If you bring a child into this world and aren't prepared to raise it, that'll suck for you and the child both. And yes, you have your career to think of, and yes, accidents do happen to LOTS of people.
A ball of cells is NOT a life.
God will NOT be mad at you. It doesn't sound like that's a worry of yours, but I wanted to say it anyhow...
I sympathize with you very, very much. It's a terrible situation to be in. Unfortunately, I can't give advice about cost because I live in Canada and abortions (and almost all surgeries) are free.
Be safe. Take care of yourself. Take advantage of people around you offering support. There are LOTS of support groups for women who've had abortions. It'll help to talk to other people going through the same thing.
Good luck to you!
2006-11-23 15:09:06 · answer #9 · answered by Voodoo Lady 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
ou know if you do this youll probably regret it later on i hate to tell u this but ur killing a human being and thats very selfish of you to get an abortion because ur chasing a dream and ur gonna lose ur figure u kno y its called a dream because u can always stop and go bac dreaming again say u do get this abortion but what if u keep ur voice and ur figure and still dont make it big then u wont have anything and ull feel really bad about murdering that child it is freedom to do what u want but the blood is on ur hands and u will regret it u can always have your baby and workout and stuff to keep your figure i know u cant be that selfish to kill a baby over something lyke this. I dont wanna be mean but u should really consider what ur doing ur gonna feel really bad and the clinic aint gone help ya so umm u need to go 2 jesus on this one and keep ur ababy plus my aint got an abortion and she has helth problems now and shes really strung out and depressed i think shes really greaiving that she ahd the abortion please dont get it im beggeng u please dont get it , it may not seem all good right now ut in the end youll be happy u kept ur a baby please dont go through with it .
2006-11-23 13:40:29 · answer #10 · answered by dismaha2 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋