I love my new boyfriend, I really do, but my family might not. Hes a good guy, and he doesn't smoke,drink,or drugs. See the thing is if he's not a christian (which i don't think he is) my family will make me break up with him. It'll be a month this saturday (like I said new boyfriend) and i don't want to ruin this. This is what ruined my last relationship. Not only will they make me break up with him, they will think less of me! I know that sounds weird, but yes, my family judges eachother too. They know I'm dating him, but they havn't asked about him, (like details and stuff), and my mum has met him, but she hasn't asked or anything. I'm just afraid if they find out the same thing will happen as last time. I need to tell them sometime, or they'll find out sooner or later, how do i deal? Its what people would call "puppy love" because we're freshmen in high school, but i think it could work, if my family would accept him as he is.
2006-11-23 13:20:31 · 6 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My family is strict on religion...like super strict. If I were to try to convert him, he would think I didn't love him for him.
2006-11-23 13:21:37 · update #1
I understand your family wanting some one for you who has Christian beliefs and a solid relationship with Jesus Christ. That said, they've got to look at the whole picture and character of this young man and if he's not now a Christian as a frosh in high school, simply accept that the Lord moves in mysterious ways and that He may be using your relationship with this young man as an avenue to bringing him to Christ. This does happen and quite frequently I might add.
You know, when my dad met my mom, he wasn't "born-again." My mom told him how important of an issue this was for her if they were truly going to have a serious relationship that consummated in marriage. The Holy Spirit had already been working on my dad who absolutely wanted to know the Lord and walk with Him but had been deprived of this in childhood.
To make a long story short, Dad began attending church with Mom and truly became a strong Christian and pillar of our church. When he came back from the war(WWII) they married and raised my brother and I. They had a solid marriage that revolved around the Lord and His bride, the Church. They were married 58 years and the Lord took Dad home on May 22, 2004, at 84.
My point, tell Mom and Dad to lighten up a bit and give this guy a chance. The Holy Spirit will do the rest. Amen.
2006-11-23 13:39:28 · answer #1 · answered by soulguy85 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What makes you think he isn't a Christian? There must be something he does or says that makes you doubt that. You say they'll (parents) find out sooner or later, but you don't even know yourself yet. I'm sure your parents think that they are protecting you by limiting your dating to only people who believe what they believe. And as your parents, they do have that right. Sometimes, believe it or not, it's not a bad thing to listen to them. It's also not a bad thing to talk to them. Find out how they feel about other religions and why. Do some internet searches on different religions so you can perhaps help educate them (and yourself).
2006-11-23 22:40:08 · answer #2 · answered by Nancyjo W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try talking to your boyfriend about it and letting him be aware of the situation. maybe his family isnt really religious at all, and he wouldnt mind telling your family that hes a christian. if thats the only thing your worried about in your relationship then you should do whatever you can to make it work. plus if you mom met him, and didnt ask, and seemed to like him, i wouldnt think that your at too much of a risk right now.
good luck!
2006-11-23 21:26:21 · answer #3 · answered by Dee Baby 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Chances are, no matter what kind of boy you bring home to your parents, there's a 99% chance that they're going to either hate or strongly dislike him. It's just their job as parents. If he sticks around for over a month like he has, don't just let them chase him away, and let them know straight-up what you think
2006-11-23 21:25:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a hard fight you face ahead. But you have the rights to make the right choice for yourself.
2006-11-23 21:25:00 · answer #5 · answered by polie_tikus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't bring it up until they ask.
2006-11-23 21:23:24 · answer #6 · answered by inquisitive 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋