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My 21/2 month old baby cries until I lift her. If I try to put her down again, she starts crying. This stops me from doing anything else. Just curious, how many hours in a day do mothers out there hold their child in an given day?

2006-11-23 13:05:30 · 11 answers · asked by sherry 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting Newborn & Baby

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Maybe that's just how she is at the moment - she is still only little.

Perhaps get her checked for heartburn or colic.

Lay down with her, put her on her tummy and play for a bit. She just need to know your near. It'll get easier and they grow SO fast.

Before you know it she'll be ripping things from cupboards and laughing as she runs from you.. and that'll be in about 10 months!

2006-11-23 13:16:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Every baby goes through a period of it. I would say that when my girl went through it, I probably held her 18 hours out of a 24hr period, including when I would fall asleep holding her because she just wouldnt stay asleep if I put her down. It lasted about a month, after which it got much better. Now she is 7 months old, and she goes through a hold-me-or-else period for 15-30 minutes after each nap(all both of them)- which is perfectly acceptable. Every now and then she'll also have a random one when she's cranky. Someone else said get a vibrating seat- I reccomend shopping (nice) secondhand places, and trying the vibrating seat, a swing, and/or a rocking cradle, depending on what motions seem to calm your baby best. That way you won't be out of thirty bucks for nothing if your baby doesn't use it.

You just have to manage it the best you can and know she will improve with time. When you can't stand it another second, put her in her crib (with something nice to look at) and take a shower. If you can hear her over the shower, turn a radio on too. Just ten minutes. Then go back to her and say brightly, as if she wasn't crying, "Hi! I've missed you so! Can I pick you up?" I've done this with my girl, and now she doesn't cry when she first wakes up, just talks to herself. If I don't show within a few minutes she'll let me know, but I'm glad to get past the automatic screaming as soon as she wakes.

2006-11-23 15:28:30 · answer #2 · answered by imjustasteph 4 · 0 0

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2016-12-13 13:14:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Well, I don't think there is a right or wrong way to mother your child when it comes to something like this. When my son was an infant, when he cried, and it wasn't for food or diaper, I left him alone in his crib, or just talked to him. I personally thought that holding him too much would make him more dependant on me, but like I said, there is no right or wrong way. Eventually, he ONLY cried when he needed something, and now three years later, him and I are still very close.

2006-11-23 13:20:05 · answer #4 · answered by Jennalove311 3 · 0 1

That;s a hard question, But I feel you my son was the same way.What I did was bought a vibrating chair (cost about $30) This seems to give him the feeling of you "jiggling" him. I have been using since he was about a month and a half and wasn't even able to make a bottle for him without having him in my arms. Now I did get alot of concerns about breaking him of that, but you know what, as soon as he realized that he could grab his feet well laying down, he doesn't need the chair as much.

2006-11-23 13:12:36 · answer #5 · answered by Kellie R 4 · 0 1

Take her to a doctor to make sure there are no vertebrae positioned wrong that could cause her pain in certain positions. Once all medical complications are ruled out, it's just her wanting attention. Make sure she's clean, dry, fed, and un-gassy, then try rubbing her tummy and talking soothingly to her, or have her propped up more or less than the usual, or lying on her back. Flatly refuse to pick her up for a certain amount of time. Keep talking to her as you do what you need to, but stay in the same room. Cuddle her without picking her up. Once the time is up, then hold her.
Gradually lengthen that amount of time. Soft instrumental music usually sooths babies. Also, try to sooth her using only your known presence in the room and your voice. This will also be useful when trying to keep her sleeping in her own bed when she is older, without you having to crawl in with her.
Good luck!

2006-11-23 13:16:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 2

It's perfectly fine for her to be held as much as she is. At 2 1/2 months old she just wants that secure feeling and being held gives her that. Of course, just because it's fine for her to be held doesn't mean it's good for mom and dad! The best thing is to just try a bunch of different things. Swings, bouncy seats, etc. Try them all out until you can find one that soothes her just as much as having someone hold her. Maybe even get a sling/carrier to wear so she is still being "held" but you still have two free hands.

2006-11-23 13:14:26 · answer #7 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 4 1

A ten week old baby needs to be hald as much as possible. You should get a sling or Ergo or MeiTai carrier. It will allow you to get things done and fulfill her inborn, biological need for her mother's protection.

2006-11-23 17:38:44 · answer #8 · answered by Terrible Threes 6 · 0 0

All my babies were like this. Get others to help you it can be tiring. I know many moms who "wear" their babies in a sing or carrier. I suspect it has something to do with evolution. If a monkey set its baby down for hours each day, it would probably get eaten. Good luck.

2006-11-23 13:12:08 · answer #9 · answered by jnet 2 · 2 0

You can't hold a child this age too much.
Get a sling so you can wear her.
Talk to her when you do put her down so she knows where you are.
Play peek a boo with her a lot. This will help her begin to understand that you still exhist when she can't see you and that you'll come back.

2006-11-23 13:31:00 · answer #10 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 1 1

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