he was always there for me but i took it for granted, i didn't like going out with him a lot, i would rather go out with my friends. He would always talk about marrying me and living a life together but i never took him serius. About five months ago he stopped asking me to go out with him and he would'nt call me that much. Unless i ask to go out we wouldn't go. I am very busy with work and school and when i ask about his behavior towards me, he said he was just giving me time for school. But on september he told me he had met somebody else and he didn't want nothing to do with me. Two weeks later i found out i was pregnant with his baby and i told him. He said that if i wanted to keep it he was going to be responsible and he was going to help me but he said he will not get back with me. Now, i realize how much he means to me and I tried telling him but he said i should move on like he did but it's just too hard for me. What should i do?
2006-11-23 13:04:08 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You need to move on. You said it yourself you took him for granted and now that he is gone you want him back....not because you miss him, but because you miss the idea of him...
meaning you want a man.....and he is the easiest answer...
especially since you are pregnant with his baby.
Show him the respect NOW that you never did when you were together.....and move on.
It hurts, it sucks, but trust me you'll be glad you did......once you
get over the hurt to your pride because you were dumped.
It happens to everyone.
2006-11-23 13:08:41 · answer #1 · answered by Trish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah after 5 years...it would be REALLY hard tho i never had a relationship that long. But its unhealthy to hold on to a relationship like that.
Its nice he would be responible if you had his child...but idk so much about having his baby. He left you and said he won't get back with you. If i were you i would get rid the whole relationship deal and the baby. Because u don't want that baby even if you are going to move on. I don't think another guy would want to be with another girl if she has someone elses child and its ot his.
I have that experience...i have a friend who is 16 and has a daughter that is 1 and she hasn't had a boyfriend for a long time after the baby...the dad left and only comes around to see his daughter once a week. No other guy wants to be with her because she has a child from someone else and they don't want to take responsibility because its not theres.
But do what ever...but if i were you...let that relationship pass you by and move on and get rid of the baby either by abortion or Adoption.
2006-11-23 21:12:01 · answer #2 · answered by ♥mcmanda♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the old saying "nobody knows what they have until they see it lost" it applies to you, I am not trying to hurt you by mentioning this but, Why didn't you see the red flag when it was waving to you? Meaning that you had a good guy at your side and you choose to ignore him completely. how many girls in the whole wide world would feel lucky to have found a guy that loved them unconditionally without reservations, plenty I am sure. The only advice I can give you would be to go on with your life, and hope that when your baby is born, he might change his mind about you and would try to give you another chance and if he does, please show him that you have changed and will make every effort to have a loving relationship with him because you truly love him and it took him going out of your life to realize what a big mistake you made by ignoring him completely. I know that other women might say that just forget him and try to go on with your life for the sake of your child, but, I think that you should make every effort to make this relationship working again, for the sake of the Baby. I wish you a lot of luck and hope that you can get your boyfriend back.
2006-11-23 21:28:20 · answer #3 · answered by a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hindsight is 20/20 so don't feel bad. The baby issue is very hard because you are bringing another life into this world. If you are not ready to be a mother, try putting the child up for adoption if you don't have any strong support groups. A lot of people may say abortion, but why kill a part of you over a man? He has no choice but be responsible for the child, he helped make it, so don't feel bad if you decide to keep the child. GL
2006-11-23 21:10:37 · answer #4 · answered by poisonette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have the child and put it up for adoption. You have been blessed with being given the opportunity to bring new life in to the world. Unfortunately, being single and with your work and school you would have a difficult time providing for the child. Plenty of people can't have kids. Find a reliable adoption agency that will place the child in a good home. Move on with your life and next time you meet a significant other that you really like you will know how to treat him.
2006-11-23 21:25:35 · answer #5 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you" should move on like he did".it is not worth trying to get him to be with you just because you are going to have his child.You can be a single mom and you at least have his willingness to help out with the baby financially so what makes you want to be with him when you apparently didn't want to be seen with him when you were dating him and having unprotected sex? anyways,it appears that you didn't love him enough to make him feel appreciated and that wouldn't change.It would end up being a marriage of convenience and you both deserve true love and appreciation which you obviously were not getting from each other.
2006-11-23 21:12:57 · answer #6 · answered by sherie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually u shouldn't do with him too closed unless u were married him.it is sad to know y he never tied the knot with u 4 5 yr.as a matter of fact,it is the best time to get marriage within 2-3 yr of knowing each other,either party can't wait 4 so long-wasting time.
at present,u r better pursuit him to register 4 marriage if u r sure having his baby in ur stomach,or else abort it if he doesn't want u anymore!
best wishes!
2006-11-23 21:24:48 · answer #7 · answered by robert KS LEE. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he doesnt want to be wih you right now then there is nothing you can do about that. you should just be grateful that he still wants to be in your life. if you just enjoy that then maybe something will happen in the future when the both of you realize how much you mean to each other.
2006-11-23 21:07:16 · answer #8 · answered by lambskin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How could he do this to you? That's cruel to the extreme. He cheated on you, and he's telling you to move on like HE did? Well, he's getting on my nerves... I'm glad that he said he'll be responsible for this. Maybe you should talk privately to his *NEW ONE*. && ask your friends for advice, I'm sure they can help you. I feel sorry for you, but i really hope you'll get through this. Good luck. =]
2006-11-23 21:19:01 · answer #9 · answered by nicokyu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a single mum is not easy or nice. You have a big decision to make here baby. I'd forget about him though
2006-11-23 21:07:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋