I have no friends at school, I've never had a bf, and I cry alot. I've had this problem since I was really little... What should I do, and is it possible to fill that hole with people you meet online?
2006-11-23 12:43:30 · 23 answers · asked by Queen Mab13 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
As a matter of fact, I have the same problem. But I don't really mind as those people aren't even my type, so i just regard them as not even worth it. I don't know if that helps for you though. You sound terribly shy and lonely, so perhaps you should socialise more and if you do see someone you like, make the first move.
But don't try too hard though, I know this girl who was really desparate for friends, so much that it showed and she was ostracised by her classmates (who were a really mean bunch to begin with).
Don't look for online friends, it's only a way to meet perverts who prey on lonely young people, and even if they aren't, no on e is sincere about online relationships because on the internet, you're just an avatar.
To be honest, if you haven't got friends, you cannot do very much about it. I suggest you just find another hobby for yourself to take up your time and sit out this awkward period in your life.
2006-11-23 12:50:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im guess that you are a females sence you said that you have never had a bf. so im going to give you a females advice on this one because i have been in the same situation.
i never really had any friends untill resently, except for online. i went to school sat bymyself and then came home and chatted the hole night and then cryed my self to sleep every night because my friends were states away and sometimes even countries. but then i started to go into more and more chat rooms and started to talk to more and more people and became a little bit more comfertable talking to people. so i just started saying hi to some people in school that i thought would be great friends. and i was right they are!!
so if i were you i would start with online friends and go from there untill your comfurtable talking to someone at your school.
and dont forget the more cofedent you are in yourself and the more you are yourself the more people will want to hang out with you and be your friend.
and just remember that when you are getting to know someone in your school that they arent useing you.
just remeber " the only time a true friend will make you cry is when your laughing to hard." that got me by for such a long time.
o and dont forget that when your depressed cuz your day didnt go as planned get some chocolate that always helped me!!! lol!!
2006-11-23 12:51:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you can have friends at school and IRL if you want them. Boyfriends can be had as well, but over-rated until you're in your 20's..lol But yeah, I think if a person doesn't have real life friends, they can get by. I have a few friends, but in some ways there's a part of me that wants to be totally alone. People will eventually disappoint you if you have too high of hopes of them. I guess the reason I say this, is that no matter what you and a friend have in common, they will never be like you. You are totally unique. For you to have a friend, you have to open up yourself to a degree and let certain things slide and not get offended by things your friend might do. It's really up to you if you are willing to do that.
No matter how lonely you are, there are others out there, while not exactly like you, are striving against the lonely feeling to get by. Like I said, it's up to you if you are willing to put up with them.
2006-11-23 12:49:05 · answer #3 · answered by merlin_steele 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry. I went thru the same thing when i was in school. I was Very quiet, shy and timid. I had a few here and their over the years and All the ones that were my friends ended up turning on me over some stupid crap, like a boy or because someone told them to. So i gave up on Trying to have a friend. Look deep inside yourself for your happiness. You are the ONLY one that can make yourself happy. No one else can do that. People are human and will always do something on purpose or not to hurt you. Good Luck :)
2006-11-23 12:55:57 · answer #4 · answered by Crissy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you need to start getting into different school activities to where you can meet people. Start conversation with one of the girls in one of your classes. you have to put forth some effort you just can't walk around and mope. Maybe that's why you get ignored cause of your actions and how you act change up a little smile more say "Hi" to people when they walk pass you you can do it good luck
2006-11-23 12:50:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey...Be careful! Online can be just as if not more dangerous than in person. You sound depressed...Can you ask someone for help? Maybe you just need to talk to a counselor to help you get your head on straight. Tears are not going to help you. You need to be strong and knowledgeable. People come and go but your family will always be there for you! Lean on them. Learn about everything you can..History, different languages, Arts, Science whatever it is that intrigues you. Time will heal all wounds and trust me you will turn out okay if you trust your intuition and use it to succeed....Promise... : )
2006-11-23 12:49:51 · answer #6 · answered by snowangel101224 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea, I had the same problems, but being male, also included being beat up regularly...I spent a lot of time online, and met a lot of good friends online..many of whom the friendship has carried into offline as I grew up. I have met with most of my childhood online friends...and most of them are far better and loyal friends than anyone locally could ever have been.
A wise and wonderful woman once told me.. "Friends and people aren't worth crying about..and the ones that are, won't make you cry."
2006-11-23 12:48:17 · answer #7 · answered by Shaide 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh you poor dear ! make the first move in school . Smile and the world smiles with you. Be friendly. Be polite. You can go online and meet people on the Chat room.
2006-11-23 12:48:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u can't fill the emptiness with other people or things, goes much deeper than that really. got to fill it with god. u have no self worth, need to know that u are special and somewhere out there , there is a love for u. can't fill it with online people, never works out. have to know who u are first, before u will be ready for a relationship.
2006-11-23 12:58:59 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nah maaan u gotta do something to spark some attention even just a little first try out for a school activity where ull get to know new people trust me u cant fill that hole with people online cuz its not as satisfying i mean 4get dat iz just not cool so try it out
2006-11-23 12:48:13 · answer #10 · answered by drzstuntman_2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋