How does it make u feel when people tell u ur not good enough or that ur not beautiful ?
2006-11-23 12:17:49 · 14 answers · asked by Joysweethang 1 in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
I do one thing, and it works for me... advice a friend told me. :)
I "consider the source"... and let's face it, any person who makes you feel you aren't good enough or that you aren't beautiful? Is someone who's almost certainly not comfortable in their own skin, otherwise, why would they need to point out flaws in other people? The answer is, they do it because they need to in order to feel better about themselves.
That's the bottom line right there.
People who are happy with who they are don't go around bashing other people, or making other people feel badly about themselves. People do things for the rewards they get in return, many times those rewards are personal, or self-centered. Not ALL self-centered rewards are "bad". If I gave you a compliment, only you and I would know, so therefore my actions of making your day a little bit brighter would be somewhat self-centered on my part because I'd also make myself feel better about putting a smile on your face.
People who put others down have a self-centered need to do so, and it gives them a feeling of reward.
Which brings us back to "consider the source". When you're younger it's easier to believe the crap people say about you, but the older you get, the more mature your view on the world and the people in it, becomes, and you can really learn to just roll your eyes and say "whatever". :) I wouldn't give them the satisfaction of a response, and if they needed a response or I felt the need to give them one? Here's what it would be (and has been in the past)
"Gee, that hurts... coming from you" Make sure you give'em a good lookin' over while saying it ;) Get's'em almost every time. =:D
2006-11-23 12:29:45 · answer #1 · answered by YahYah24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it makes me sad at first, but then as I think about it, those people are just stupid and dumb,and a lot of times those people are jealous of you, because you are good enough and because you are beautiful. And since they are not good enough and since they arent very beautiful, they try to make themselves feel better, by putting other people down. And if this is a true thing that might have happened to you, just tell them this and also tell them that everyone is beautiful in there own way.
2006-11-23 20:24:47 · answer #2 · answered by Mary V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel like smacking them in the face.
Also it depends on what the person who says it to you looks like.
Once a really ugly guy told me that I wasn't beautiful and I laughed, because I knew how much people make fun of his face.
If it's your enemy, then I ussualy ignore it because your enemy's will say anything to try to get to you.
If it's like your best friend I'd get really offended.
If it's a good-looking guy I wouldn't show weekness and still act confident. And then when I'm alone I might break down.
So, it all depends.
Good luck.
2006-11-23 20:30:16 · answer #3 · answered by beliieve 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dang...I feel like knuckling up and getting to business! Know what I mean? When someone tells you your not good enough or that your not beautiful...gurl...just build up all your anger and THROW DOWN! When your done...treat yourself to a nice day at the spa and find someone who will respect you and treat you like a Queen! Hope that helpped!
Xoxo
Audge*Paudge
2006-11-23 21:20:59 · answer #4 · answered by Audge*Paudge 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't listen to them. You have to tell yourself that you are good enough and that you are beautiful...if you tell yourself that and believe it- then you are. And if anyone tells you differently- they're just jealous or too shallow to notice.
2006-11-23 20:21:22 · answer #5 · answered by lpfanatic1009 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't let it get 2 me. I Kn that Im good enough or that im beautiful. 2 me thats all i need. I don't let what pp say mess wit me.
2006-11-23 20:35:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At first...I feel kinda bad but then....I don't really care. But if my boyfriend (example..not that I have a bf lol) told me that...I would feel horrible!
2006-11-23 20:54:06 · answer #7 · answered by classy_lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no one other then my mom has ever really said that to me i can tell their thinking it but they dont say it.. and im pretty sure id feel like crap if they did
2006-11-23 21:16:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
come back with a complex diss that makes everyone around you go "BURN!" then go home feeling a little hurt but glad that you got them back.
2006-11-23 20:22:58 · answer #9 · answered by Aravis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GEE TAKE A WILD GUESS.
Unless you masturbate to insults or something.
2006-11-23 20:19:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋