If I don't save the marriage, I know she won't. Should I bother?

Answer 1

i don't believe in "my love would be big enough for the two of us" mindset. if you're DEFINITELY SURE that she doesn't care anymore whether the marriage is saved or dissolved, why bother? besides, no matter how hard you try, you cannot save a marriage alone. even an argument couldn't become an argument with only just one person.

Answer 2

No, because a lasting committed relationship takes work from both sides.. An if you are the only one tryin it is doomed to fail in the end no matter what you do.. So save yourself the time and ask if she will help fix the marriage if she showes no interest walk out and find someone who will love you the way you love them.... Don't feel bad for ending it because you know you gave her a chance and she declined it.... Everyone deserves to have love and happiness but not at your exspense something you both share... 50/50...... I hope all works out for you either way you go.

Answer 3

When you marry, it is a union made under God. As you know, the Bible states that marriage is only excusable by Adultery. Adultery is a sin. The fact that he has cheated, is reason enough for you to know that you are past the point of repair. He has committed the ultimate marital sin. It is time to move on and find your true soul mate. Ask yourself if this is what you want to have for a life, day by day, the rest of your life or do you deserve happiness? Read your words. Your answer is in your own question and comment. If it was meant for you to continue, you wouldn't have questions. Take this as your own sign and do better for yourself. God Bless and best wishes.

Answer 4

If you believe in your heart that she loves you as you do her, then yes, you should bother. One person can save a marriage even if the other is not willing. If she loves you, she'll thank you later.

Answer 5

if its worth saving than yes, go for it. But if you believe that theres no hope than theres nothing there to save. Its hard to say goodbye and let go of all the good times in the past, but if things are not working out it will take the both of yous to put a effort into fixing it, but you said she doesnt want to. So theres really nothing you can do about it. Sit down talk to her one on one ask her if there is still any hope of getting this patched up, if she says no than you need to walk away and start over, if she doesnt say anything or says yes, than adivise help with a therapist.

Answer 6

If you love her, work for it! She may appreciate the effort you're putting in to it and work for a reconciliation. If you don't, then that's your call. Good luck.

Answer 7

you can't clap with one hand it takes two to make a marriage work one person will tire after a while if only one does all the work and the other one takes so i would say no. but sit her down and make sure many times couples mis read the other one and just assume if when you sit her down she doesn't care you have your answer.

Answer 8

do u love her.. is everythign lost??? are u saving a ghost?
seem like it but dude a marriage needs work from u both.. she won't help don't bother

Answer 9

takes 2 people to save it, one can't do it alone. if she isn't interested in saving it, why try, why beat your head against a brick wall. if she isn't interested theres nothing much u can do, as we really have no control over other people.

Answer 10

if she doesn't want to save the marriage why would you think you can do it alone? You can;t!