abortions?????

Question

i'm 19 hes 17 im 2 weeks pragnant he does like me anymore " " should i have the baby or abort it ??? i do like him but by me having the baby will mess up his life cause hes younger then me plus who wants a baby when the guy dont even like you.. i'm soo confusd what should i do??? does it hurt when you have an abortion ??? how do you feel after??? will i regret it???

Answer 1

i am so shocked at what you just said i cant even think of something in response.

Answer 2

no. don't abort the baby. It is an innocent life that has nothing to do with watever you and this other person have (or had) going on. Yes, you wil regret it. I know personally of a woman who had her first child aborted, and now, some 15 years later, she still has to keep herself from getting depressed because she now realizes what a stupid idea it was. She is now married with 3 kids and i think a couple of grandkids, but she says that she can't help but wonder what life would be like if she wouldn't have gone on with the precedure. I volunteer at an refuge center for pregnant females that think that their life is over because they got pregnant. But at the center they tell them that there is life after having a child. You think that you have it bad, at least you are old enough to handle it both physically and emotionally and so is the guy. There was this girl at the center a few months ago and she was only 13 and her and her 16 year old boyfriend thought that it would be a good idea to screw around. She got pregnant and he split. can you imagine? what were you doing at 13? Not raising a child which is what that girl is doing now. My brother has just had a child out of wedlock. He's 22 (was 21 when it happend) and she was 19 (now 20) and i now have a perfect little nephew that i love to death. You should really talk to somebody about this. Seriously. A person, in person. and not somebody that would just tell you what you may feel like hearing. Someone that would be honest with you. And think about ALL of your options. And then about the life that you are carrying inside of you. Like my mom said to my brother "the sex is the sin, the child is the blessing". To answer your other questions, I have been told that it don't really hurt physically to have an abortion, but it hurts emotionally, and that afterwards, you feel empty inside. And yeah, you'll regret it.

Answer 3

You need to talk to your parents and a doctor, first and foremost; before you even consider an abortion and what the father thinks, you need to explore all the elements of actually being pregnant and bringing this baby into the world - look at your status financially, and how exactly you are planning to raise this child. Abortions aren't something you should fool around with - in my opinion, the only time that they should be offered to women is if they have become pregnant through rape and do not want the child as a living memory of the situation. This is something that only you can decide to do - it is no one else's decision but yours; this is a very mature decision that requires critical thinking.

Answer 4

I have never had an abortion so i don't know if it hurts or if you will regret it.

It comes down to you NOT him. Do you want the baby? If so then have it. It dosen't matter if you 2 are not together cause so many women get left all the time while pregnant and they go on about their lives.
How will it mess up his life? All he will have to do (Being honest) is pay child support.

Only you can decide this for yourself. But i will tell you having a baby will not hold any man to you no matter what.

Go to http://www.abortions.com if you want to find a clinic where ever you live

Good luck

Answer 5

I find it hard to believe that you are really 19. If you are afraid to talk to your parents you can call Planned Parenthood at 1-800-230-PLAN. They will answer your questions.

Someones personal opinion on abortion is not relevant. It's YOUR choice. You can have an abortion, keep the baby, or give it up for adoption. Any of those choices should be respected as long as it's a choice you are educated on and feel ok with in your heart.

Good Luck.

Answer 6

NO! Whatever you do, don't abort your baby! First and formost, if you abort your baby you will regret it for the rest of your life. You have a most precious gift growing inside you right now. Sure, life may be hard and the father of your baby is young. He may not even be ready for a child right now, but that is not your baby's fault. Your baby is the innocent one here. If you absolutely feel that you will not be able to care for your child, then you should give your baby up for adoption. There are plenty of people out there in the world who cannot have any children and would love to adopt a baby. Let me tell you a story, my wife and I celebrated our 10th wedding anniversary this November. We have been trying since day 1 of our marriage to have a baby including going to fertlity doctors and having surgeries. We have carefully and patiently waited for our time to have a baby even after my wife's sister and one of her brothers had a baby and then my brother's wife had a baby. Then earlier this year my wife had to have a hysterectomy because of some medical problems. Now the only way we can have a baby is by adopting one. So you see, simply aborting your baby is wrong. Wrong for so many reasons, but mainly for the simple reason that you will miss out on one of life's greatest treasures. I hope and pray you make the right decision.

Answer 7

I'm sure you're really confused right now so all I can say is, you're going to have to spend a bit of time weighing the different options.

If I were in your position, I wouldn't even worry about the guy. Women raise children on their own all the time. I'm sure you're strong enough to do that if you chose to.

In terms of abortion or adoption. I couldn't live with the thought that my own flesh and blood was being raised by someone else. And the thought of abortion, personally, is too much for me. I couldn't do it; but in the end, it's your body and your right to chose. You might very well regret having an abortion, but there's no way to know for sure until it actually happens.

Did you talk to your mom or dad about this? I know you're probably scared but he/she will provide you with endless support after he/she oversomes the initial shock.

In the end, you have to come to the conclusion on your own. Don't let anyone force you into something you're unsure about. As for the boy, don't worry about making life easy for him. He's just as much responsible for this child as you are.

Answer 8

Congratulations you are now a mom! This is no longer about you and this boy who doesn't like you, this is about you and your child.

If you really want to know what an abortion is like visit http://www.abortionno.org

Please make the right decision. If you do not want to raise this baby, consider adoption. What a beautiful gift to give to a loving couple who want a child.

Answer 9

Dont KILL a baby. Give it to a nice, loving family. Or leave him and take the baby if you want to be a mom! It is you decision. If you think that killing a living thing is the right choice, then go ahead and get the abortion!

Answer 10

Adoption is an option. Why kill a baby because his dad doesn't "like," you. That is a very lame excuse. Oh, one more thing. Stay in school. Learn proper grammar before having sex again. This way when you do have a child you will know how to fill out the forms properly at the hospital.

Answer 11

DO NOT DO IT. honey you mad the choice to have sex. get ready to live with the choice. Take it from me I have 3 kids and when i found out I was pregnant with my last child I lost my mind. I was 23 with 2 kids and a not great job and allot of other crap. But i was woman enough to have my baby and she turned out to be my only little girl. I look at her everyday and thank GOD i kept her. It will defiantly not be easy but you will make it. If you kill that baby ,because that is what it is,killing for your convenience, you'll regret it forever. hey if you want some one to talk to email me, seriously
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