I was raped alot and hurt physically when I was 22. I'm 30 now and the memories are still strong. They get triggered by little things. How do I erase them?
2006-11-23 11:29:28 · 14 answers · asked by teetalla 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First of all, I'm really sorry what you have gone through. I was 14 when I was sexually abused by a family friend. I'm 21 now, and just recently admitted it to the police and my family. I am now in counseling, because I kept it inside for so long that I would have anxiety attacks. It's a very long process to get over what happened to me, but the best thing that I can advise you is to see a therapist/counselor. You will never forget what happened to you, but therapy helps you get over the feelings of guilt, shame, and anger. I think once you get rid of those feelings, those memories will become less frequent. Good luck.
2006-11-23 11:40:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to read that you were raped. That trauma can be detrimental and I commend you for trying to move on. There is no way to erase the memories or the pain.
I'm not sure if you have, but if you haven't, seek professional help. Counseling can go a long way to heal some of the scarring from it and help to process. That the feelings and memories are still so vivid and strong for you could be a sign that there are some issues that haven't been addressed.
Also, time is your best friend in a situation like this. If it's been 8 years of you trying to act like it hasn't happened, there is no resolve and no closure. Give yourself as much time as it takes to heal and don't rush it, even though it hurts and I know you want to.
Above all, seek professional counseling. The right person can help tremendously.
2006-11-23 11:36:24 · answer #2 · answered by Infamous B 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that you endured such suffering.
I do not think it is realistic to expect to forget such taramatic events.
However, that does not mean that they must haunt you for the rest of your life.
Counseling should help you get a new perspective on what happened. Especially if you are experiencing any feelings of guilt surrounding what happened.
Also, spiritual guidance from a religious leader whom you have reason to respect and admire can help you understand some improtant things about the person who hurt you. We often assume that they hurt us because of who WE are or were, but in fact, the psychology of abuse of any kind begins and ends in the abuser.
God bless you on your journey back to happiness.
2006-11-23 11:41:34 · answer #3 · answered by Puzzler 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not. You learn to live with it. I had a very bad relationship prior to the one I am in at the moment which is a very happy one. I still remember the one before but because I am so happy now, I started feeling contempt for the memory of the one before, if this makes sense !!????? I really feel sorry for you for what happened to you. Anyone who needs to rape to have sexual gratification needs his XXXX cut off !! You will never forget what happened to you but a new and happy relationship will work wonders. You must remember always that we men are not all like the bastard who hurt you.
2006-11-23 11:33:41 · answer #4 · answered by RED-CHROME 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry to say this, but you can't.
You are scarred and those things are hard to heal in even the least.
I feel terrible for you because I am having some trouble with a teacher that is using a similar type of harrasment.
I say, your best bet is to do something constructive, or get some help or a therapist.
Good luck.
xoxo
Maddi
2006-11-23 11:33:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i guess u can get hypnotised to forget them.u just have to try and live with them i have bad memories 2 that pops up from time 2 time i went 2 group therapy for a while and that helps a little because there's a lot of people that have been through bad things in there life if not worst and its just good to be able to heal with people like yourself
2006-11-23 11:35:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately we don't have the means to erase our memories....if we do let me know about it....I have found out over the years, that by talking about the stuff that's happened over and over again...the reality is always there but it becomes more like a dream...it never goes completley away, but it lessens through time. And our endevours in life makes us stronger in the end. I wish u well.
2006-11-23 11:41:06 · answer #7 · answered by MAGGIEMAGGOO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to call the Rape Crisis Center, You need to talk to someone, this is free! or you can go to a therapist! You must accept what happened, so you can move on. Try and be strong, and hold your head up high, this was not your fault, He was the sick pathetic person.
2006-11-23 11:46:24 · answer #8 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u gotta learn to forget, try to convince urself that ur tough, and it happens to a lot of women. u can get over it, and u know it, u just have to be strong enough, and use this to make u more tough, not weak.and when u dont have much going on in ur life ...u start thinking about problems and things that bother u, so find something u love doing, and go do it.always keep urself busy. and trust me, when u set ur mind on doing something, if ur determined enough, u can do the impossible.goodluck :)
2006-11-23 11:35:45 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its sad to hear that this has happened to you....i wish i could tell you that you will forget but you wont...the best you can do is work it out one day at a time...seek help either thru friends, spiritual or thru counciling....there are support groups also for victims of rape...i wish you all the best and..you will get better....oh..and just because you come to terms with what has happened to you doesnt me that you allowed it to happen to you...took me years to learn that one...
2006-11-23 11:38:26 · answer #10 · answered by duchess727272 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋