my stupid sister living in another city has never worked in her life,has nine kids,has been on welfare but never bettered herself with it.can barely pay rent somehow,& uses a church for food for her family,she also has a bf who doesnt work btw.
im doing pretty well for myself,because i work my as* off!
she asked me for some money,something about her power being turned off.i gave her an excuse why i couldnt help her.
people have always given to her for her whole life,& she has never worked a day in her life.i think the best thing for her is not to help her,anyone else agree or have thoughts on this??
2006-11-23 11:12:23 · 7 answers · asked by forest lover 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I agree...I would not have send her money. She is getting money from all these people and taking advantage of it. She and her boyfriend need to get out and get job_
2006-11-23 11:24:47 · answer #1 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she has nine kids and living on welfare, there is something wrong. If she has a boyfriend that doesn't work, she doesn't deserve help. If she doesn't want to help herself. You are wasting your time if you do try to help out. Sounds like she has all these kids to stay on welfare, and they should kick her off, and make her lazy boyfriend leave. If you try to help her you are doing no good. She has to help herself.
2006-11-23 11:48:48 · answer #2 · answered by CHEROKEE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nicely she will spect you te be her sister, not the babys father. she has no way of particularly make you do anithing (despite if she manipulates you, you are the only with the final be conscious), and dont get me incorrect yet she is an grownup, not a newborn you're able to desire to be spoiling around. there are allways people who're uncaring, enable me get you an occasion i had a instructor(not from a school) who's a mom with not one among those good variety of resourses who gave privete clases to childrens for doing a residing, she even have been given a clean toddler, and my kinfolk desperate to grant her a crib and a few previous clothing that we used to maintain in my granmother's domicile for the reason that we've been toddler's (noone grew to become into utilising them and she or he mandatory them) as quickly as I went to her domicile and supply them she regarded on the promises for extra or less an hour, didnt say a be conscious of using fact of my kinfolk and she or he actually had the midsection to make us pay for the hour she spent looking the clothing as though she gave us classes. We separete from her and my kinfolk grew to become into great ofended becouse we didnt have any responsability to her and she or he acted that way. perchance your sister isnt extremely apreciating what you do for her, you're able to desire to stand your words, you mustn't quit giving help, yet dont enable her obligate you to grant her the help. its in comparison to you are the only one she could desire to place self belief in. perchance she could desire to attempt to chat to different pals who've infants to grant her previous toddler clothing that are extraordinarily much new xouse the babys advance too quicky and stuf you obtain it concept, draw close in there, stable success, and undergo in concepts which you warned her, and a toddler isn't a toy you will brouht on a whim.
2016-12-29 09:36:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if I were in your shoes I would have done the same thing. Not for nothing the rest of us have to work for a living to stay afloat. Your sister & her husband need to learn what reality is & not have everything handed to them. Need to look at it like this.. Are we teaching them or feeding them.
2006-11-23 11:21:05 · answer #4 · answered by Kammaka2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her she was free to make her choice on how to live, and you are not going to pay for her poor judgement. This is not your problem so you do not need to fix it. People like her have a million stories and excuses why they can not pay their bills. But never so much as one on how they are doing very well thanks for asking.
2006-11-23 11:37:01 · answer #5 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She needs to learn to stand on her own two feet and provide for her children. You can't go through life expecting a hand out from everyone.
2006-11-23 11:17:55 · answer #6 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm probably too soft hearted but i most likely would of paid the power bill with a very loud statement that i was doing it one time only because i love her but that's it.
2006-11-23 11:57:10 · answer #7 · answered by ore2nc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋