My friends ex gf has a state of mind where she does not seem to redognise that what she does may affect other people. My friend split up with his gf at which point she told him that she was pregnant with his baby which he never really believed and didnt get back with her. she then stated that she had had a miscarriage but dfoudn out that she hadnt had one... and now shes decided that she is going to have an abortion. My friend wanted to know if he had any rights to know if she had actually had an abortion seeing as it could be his child? I was unable to answer him but hoped you could? I have told him that she is obviously manipulative if the inute that he splits with her she is miraculously pregnant then has a miscarriage which wasnt one and is now having an abortion... but i think he wants to know for sure whether she truely was lying!!
2006-11-23 10:28:08 · 34 answers · asked by lovelydarling1232002 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
No. He has no rights here in the U.S. either...Of course, if she is pregnant, the sensible thing for her to do would be discuss it with him and let him at least air his views on the whole abortion issue.
It sounds like she isn't being entirely truthful about the whole thing though..and the question really should be..is she pregnant at all? Sometimes women make up stuff like that for attention...it might be because it isn't his..and another reason could be that she plain doesn't want to bear a child right now..and that is her legal right. If she was having an abortion, and it was his, she probably would have asked him to share the cost..abortions are expensive and are not generally covered by medical insurance.
I would venture a guess that she isn't even pregnant...
2006-11-23 10:41:08 · answer #1 · answered by KED 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In todays world a woman has options , she can take pills , or use some form of birth control not to get pregnant, why wait to get pregnant and then want an abortion?Choices ned to be made before pregnancy, or what have you ,the ex left , etc, this does not come into question! What is here that needs a firm answer is a LIVE baby! She got pregnant , knowing there are ways NOT to get pregnant! The most honest and decent thing to do is , give the baby up for adoption, if she does not want it , I will take the baby! A life comes from the Great Mystery, is sacred, it is not a matter to take lightly! Hugs.
2006-11-23 10:46:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
To be perfectly honest, it sounds as though this girl is making it up. They fall out, she's pregnant, he doesnt get back with her, she cries for attention by having a miscarriage, then there's no miscarriage, she now wants an abortion. I have seen this situation many a time, although he can't ignore it. As for his rights, he has NONE. She is the one carrying the baby and would have to go through the trauma of childbirth etc. If she says she is deffo pregnant and wants an abortion , then so be it :(
If she then says she wants to keep the baby, then there will be the evidence shortly. That's something you can't hide - a pregnancy.
2006-11-23 10:43:00 · answer #3 · answered by mazza71 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately the man has no say in the matter. I agree and contend that a woman has the right to choose in this matter without interference of government or law. But, if a woman expects support financial or otherwise, the mans thoughts in the matter should be taken into "serious consideration". You both agreed to "consensual sex" and all that implies.... So both should have some say in the consequences!!! Ultimately though it is the women's choice.... If she chooses to ignore the mans wishes whether it be to have the child, put it up for adoption, or have an abortion then she should be prepared to carry the burden of that choice on her own. Hopefully, and best for all would be a mutually agreed decision. Good Luck!!!!God Bless........Just a thought ..........Peace........
2006-11-23 10:51:56 · answer #4 · answered by Martini-69 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depending on the situation I think it is great if there is a discussion between partners. In fact I really feel that such a discussion should happen before two people ever engage in consensual PIV sex, that way you can make sure that you see eye to eye on the issue of fertility and accidental pregnancy before one could even possibly occur. That having been said though, I certainly would never agree with "must" , there are far to many variables, (some of which may make it impossible and/or dangerous etc) involved to ever have a MUST even inform let alone seek consent of...
2016-05-23 01:16:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is in a bit of a state, So many girls will say the.y are pregnant to make the guy feel guilty and try to make him stay. This one doesn't seem to know what reason to use next, is she really pregnant or just using this to get back together? If she is and can prove he is the father then things should go from there. But if she chooses to have an abortion, well they are not married so it is her choice and he will not have a say in the matter. Get him to try to talk to her calmly
2006-11-23 10:44:51 · answer #6 · answered by mistickle17 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately your male friend has absolutely no rights in regard to the unborn child. The woman in question is under no obligation to inform him if/when she had an abortion, or any other information pertaining to the assumed pregnancy. The Right of the mother is a big thing in law, in that currently underage girls who are classed as 'teenage pregnancy' victims are able to get abortions without their parents finding out :- girls as young as 11 and 12 are able to go through this mentally and physically traumatic experience without their parent's having to be asked for permission, or even informed of the act.
As to a possible father, which your friend may or may not be, he has even less Rights. Was she pregnant or not, he will never be able to find out. Did she have a miscarriage, or an abortion? He'll never find out. Was it even his child? Again, don't hold your breath to find out.
However, I agree with you that the woman in question has some serious emotional problems which she needs to deal with, so your friend is probably better off without her for now.
2006-11-23 10:37:03 · answer #7 · answered by stagemanagerman2000 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
the women doesn't need any rights from the farther b4 having an abortion but in the UK they wont let u have a abortion unless your under 16 years of age or if there is a risk to your health if u carried on with the baby they wont let u have a abortion just because u don't want the baby as there is social services if u really don't want the baby or cant cope i had a baby 3 months ago and that was the law here then.u can c a lawyer and apply to the court to find out if she is telling the truth and if she is then the hospital can do a DNA test in the womb to c who the father is then i think he can get a court order to stop her having a abortion but hes got to want to have the child and be able to support the child love and care 4 the child 4 the rest of his or hers life but he needs to find out the DNA test results first.
2006-11-23 12:44:13 · answer #8 · answered by ANDREA M 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I can only say with certainty that in the UK & Ireland and Canada, the father has no legal rights to intervene in an abortion, at the present time. I wouldn't be terribly surprised if this came before the Irish Courts in the future. It seems arguable that it may breach Art41 of the Constituiton which is designed to protect the family. (Just to note: Abortion is not legal in Ireland, but you do have the constitiutional right to travel to another country to have the procedure.)
2006-11-23 10:45:57 · answer #9 · answered by Chloe M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no its all up 2 her
2006-11-23 10:30:24 · answer #10 · answered by seanie c 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋