My younger brother (age 16) brought home some Puerto Rican/Mexican Indian (Asian?) girl and told me that they were dating. My family is German-American (blond hair and blue eyed) and my family and I don't want latino/indian/black/asian in our family tree. It was an embarassment to see them together. I dont want her seeing my brother. I love my brother very much and only want the best for him - I dont think a mixed race latino/indian/asian would be that.
I'm a college student at Stanford so I know the whole "dont be a racist" bit. If you personally don't have a race (I say genetic) bias like I do then fine. But, it took thousands or years of evolution to get the features my family does (blond hair) and takes one generation to screw it up.
Either way, I will eventually break them up.
How can I break them up faster? Should I just talk to that latino indian girl in private and tell her to stop seeing my brother? Or should I just tell my brother why dating her is a bad choice?
2006-11-23 10:20:05 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
and your in college?, if they love each other that's all that matters, if you cared about your brother, you should be concerned about his happiness, not his eyes and hair
2006-11-23 10:26:25 · answer #1 · answered by crazylarry88 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, I know quite a few people like you .... I just don't understand the mentality.
Honestly, do you really want to risk your brother having ill feelings for you for the rest of your life. Come on dude, lighten up. If you want to marry a girl that resembles your culture ... then do that. BUT BUT BUT! It isn't right to pick and choice for any family member.
Trust me, it will all back fire down the road ... I've seen it happen before and believe me ... its not pretty. If you are really into your family, then I say live well enough alone and start adapting.
2006-11-23 10:36:05 · answer #2 · answered by rosie768 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is the funniest and creepiest thing i ever heard, if that's possible. technically, you're a mutt. probably mixed with all sorts of european and maybe even other things-- i doubt you're completely aryan at all. try doing a bit of research about yourself before discriminating. i don't see any basis for your ethnic snobbery, unless you were pure aryan or something. it's likely that a child from your family could turn up to be a brunette, or hazel eyed (oh no!)-- would that freak you out as well? or what if your brother started dating a brunette or redhead or brown eyed person?
reasonably though... you should probably just have an honest talk with him. if you really love him, you would want him to be happy. if he found out that you broke them up like that, he might resent you. is it worth it?
2006-11-23 10:43:12 · answer #3 · answered by l_brew0 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be glad that your brother is not dating with a blond and blue eyes girl who is using these narcotic drugs or is an alcoholic. Also I must say that the mixed children are the most beautiful and healthier children. So let your brother follow his heart, you have no right to interfere between them. Also the more you intervene the more will your brother love this girl.
2006-11-23 10:38:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
whats wrong with the LATINA OR the ASIAN girl???whats the difference among them and girls from other parts???They also have thoughts,they know how to respect others!how abt u???"I cant have people of different ethnicities in my family. It's too disgusting and awkward."dont u think this is just a weak excuse??you are also a German-American.is it what u called different ethnicities??how do the others think abt u if they also hv the same thoughts as urs??i do not think you are not a redneck racist even though u study at Standford,which doesnt mean everything! what i want u to know is love is boundless.Please take ur brother into considering,he knows what he is doing.
2016-05-23 01:06:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you just let them be together?Plus you are being racist. If your brother found out I dont think he would like what you are doing!What you are saying is that your brother "has" to be with a pretty blonde with blue eyes(no offense)? Its not your choice, back off and let your brother be with who he wants to be with.
2006-11-23 10:47:42 · answer #6 · answered by stargirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i thought you had to be smart to go to stanford?or rich! whatever im so glad im neither one.if i was stanford i would sue you for claiming to be a student and asking such a preschool question. if i was your brother i wouldnt want you anywhere round my family tree. your the only imperfection to your family tree. Its so sad though that you will never know what its like to be in love,but the bright side is youll always have stanford teach you how to be so stupid cold and lonely for the rest of your life.oh thank you for showing me how smart and lucky i am for not going to stanford.hold on to that word mr.stanford becase thats only name that will ever love you or i should say your money and stupitity...so keep braging about stanford thats all you will ever have. i hope your brother doesnt go to stanford....oh another thing i think you want her for yourself!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-23 13:47:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well for one you are still able to keep the family geenes going, for another you should feel happy that he is happy, and third he is young and will more than likely change girlfriend a few times before he is ready to settle down it's his life this is the USA and we all have free choice besides he might resent you and shut you out of his life if you pursue this issue.
2006-11-23 10:34:45 · answer #8 · answered by Stoney D 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi,it sounds like you are raciest.you need to let your brother live his life and you need to live yours.the eye sees color not the heart you can't manage your relationships and your brothers.i have three mixed grandchildren and they didn't ask to be brought into this world it people like you that i would not want my grandchildren around.and no you need to mind your on bunisses and leave that girl alone you can not pick your brothers girlfriends no more than he can pick yours.leave it alone noseie.why stress yourself out over something you cant change.again let your brother live his life and you live yours.you maybe a embarrassment to your brother did you ever think about that you need to get over yourself girl.
2006-11-23 10:36:27 · answer #9 · answered by Tina H 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hmm well i'd say you are being a little bit racist about this girl your brother is dating. But if you and your family are really passionate about keeping certain family traits within your family then you might want to talk to your brother and parents. ask both if they are comfortable with change if your brother does decide to continue this relationship. Personally, I don't think your should be embarassed if your brother is in love with someone, that's all that matters right? I myself am Bangladeshi-American so obviously I'm not white, i'm also growing up to be anti-racist. But your best bet if this really bothers you and your family is to just talk to your brother. Just don't break them up..your brother might be mad for a long time and you'll regret it.
2006-11-23 10:26:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
thats being racist there nothing wrong with us latinas im latina and i think im the same as a white or black person no difference were all ppl just wry about ur own life and dont interfere with your borhters love life becuz he could and probably is happy with her u should try dating black or latin women try differnt and new things ull probably like it so dont b racist and just deal with it
2006-11-24 10:19:43 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋