My hubby is usually very supportive of me but when i have my mood swings all he says is that i am being wrong and that all my crying and my feelings are "unneccisary" whatever that means. He has never been this mean or rude to me ever. sometimes i just cant stop crying just because he tells me the way i feel is wrong. Am I making him this way some how? or is he just adjusting to pregnancy changes too?
2006-11-23 10:11:23 · 16 answers · asked by Crystal Woods 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I have a 2 year old but she isnt his. so this is my 4th pregnancy but will be my 2nd living child, but this is his first pregnancy to deal with and first child.
2006-11-23 10:22:24 · update #1
Hormonal changes cause mood swings and every woman experiences them differently. You need to reassure you husband that you love him, I think your husband may be trying to tell you that you're worrying over nothing because he knows that youre hormonal and understands however, if you feel its extreme see your Dr to assess and ensure your not also suffering depression. Remember its hard for men to know/feel/understand what you are going through at the moment and try to work on controlling what you are going through, to be fair you must recognise that you are both going through changes and have your own fears and trying to support someone who is constantly upset/angry/crying is very wearing....if you cant see your Dr ASAP.
2006-11-23 10:24:30 · answer #1 · answered by Just Thinking 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men are Cro-magnon, cave dwelling types who aren't in tune with female emotional roller coaster rides. Others are. Apparently, your pregnancy has given you tear ducts that operate at will. Try explaining to the gent that you are carrying around a little person inside you and that you need support. If you feel sad, it will affect the little person within. I hope this helps. Both of you are going through a difficult time right now. Unity is important, for all three of you.
2006-11-23 10:18:51 · answer #2 · answered by 35 YEARS OF INTUITION 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's certainly adjusting, though by the sound of it, not very well. He needs to understand that you can't control your mood swings, they control you, and telling you that you're in the wrong for having them is NOT the right answer for him to be giving. Even if all you can do is come to the arrangement that all he needs to do is smile and nod when your switch flips, it would still be better than him blowing up at you for things you can't help.
2006-11-23 10:17:48 · answer #3 · answered by desiderio 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are like that. My husband tells me the same thing too. What I'm thinking is wrong...what I feel is wrong...blah blah blah. Just ignore him, you need your space and he needs his. Your hormones are going through a lot of changes...just relax whenever you can. And if you do need to cry, let it be a quiet and a small cry (don't stress over it too much). Hope that helps!
2006-11-23 12:14:58 · answer #4 · answered by Cali03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just the hormones in your body getting messed up due to the irregular state of being pregnant... The thing you BOTH need to do is to NOT take it so personally... It's truly just a passing phase and it'll be over soon... Just remember you love each other and ride it out as best you can... And, as always, ask God for help...!
2006-11-23 10:17:13 · answer #5 · answered by KnowhereMan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will be ok, your husband is adjusting also, its hard for them to tell what you are feeling, Dont take it to heart. Sometimes we cry for silly things. My husband tells me the same thing. I cry for the littlest things and he understands my hormones are out of wack. It will pass and later youll laugh at all the silly things you cried about during your pregnancy. Good Luck and God bless.
2006-11-23 11:10:41 · answer #6 · answered by Baby boy blue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men and women are different. This is one of the differences. If you don't like it, have a relationship with another woman and cut this guy a bit of slack. All you describe is alien to men and beyond their comprehension. We don't get it. It's not that we don't care, it is that we are on another frequency.
2006-11-23 10:22:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Typical male thing. Most don't understand the hormonal crying thing for no reason. He will be fine. He is dealing with it best he can. You also be understanding to him.
2006-11-23 10:35:54 · answer #8 · answered by egg_sammash 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is how some men react to pregnancy. They are either scared for you and your health, or they just don't understand the whole thing.
2006-11-23 10:19:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not start blaming him. Just cry and be moody but look at him first and say something like: "I love you honey and I am sorry but these hormones make me do crazy things. Please just smile and hold me."
If you expect him to understand then ask yourself first why you do not understand his reactions. (Just so things are in perspective.)
2006-11-23 10:24:27 · answer #10 · answered by Tony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋