how can one behave and stop caring about what other people think of them? how does ppl do this and how can they do it?
2006-11-23 10:02:48 · 33 answers · asked by blondedoll00 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Its incredibly difficult to turn it off completely, however there are ways to lessen its stress on you. Everyone, at some point or another, feels like everyone is watching them or talking about them- called by some psychologists as the "imaginary audience". The first thing to try is to turn it all to positive things- instead of thinking "omg, why are they looking at me?" try thinking "Maybe I'm looking that good today".
At a certain point in life you're going to get over it anyway. Think of it like this- life is too short to be worrying about what everyone thinks of you. Live your life for you and to hell with anyone who doesn't agree (keep in mind that its best to keep others in consideration and not to do things that cause harm). When you're 85 and on your death bed, do you really want to look back and recall that you missed out on opportunities or fun because of what someone might have thought?
...didn't think so.
2006-11-23 10:09:00 · answer #1 · answered by irishgypsy88 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Just think realistically about the situation.
What kind of things do you worry about?
You shouldn't spend your time worrying about things, live in real life and deal with any bad situations or comments if/ when they happen.
If someone has a problem with something you do or say wouldn't you rather find out? Isn't that better than just wondering all the time and trying to please everyone?
Then you can change (if you want to) when something is brought to your attention so it doesn't happen in future. Or you can explain yourself and forget about it and get on with things.
Just think realistically about how people's judgements on you are going to affect you really.
Think of people who are extreme. Cheaters and murderers etc... all those people still have friends and people who love them.
The only people in life who are really outsiders are the people like you who worry too much about being judged and make themselves outsiders by staying back and not getting involved with people properly.
2006-11-23 10:29:13 · answer #2 · answered by Fluffy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, it doesn't matter what other people think of you, it's really how you feel about yourself. As long as you love yourself that's all that matters. Try telling yoursef that you are the best or that you are the prettiest or whatever you think will help you with this problem and tell yourself that every morning. Eventually, you will believe it, and so will the people around you. If you send off a negative attitude, then of course peole are going to look at you negatively, so think POSITIVE! 8-) Hope this helps!
2006-11-23 10:13:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Easy, it's called being an individual.
I personally admire people like that, people who do what they think is right and follow their dreams without letting anybody get in the way. I myself try to live like this, but that doesn't mean that I don't have morals, values or respect for others. It does take a strong will to do this. It's the people who stop caring about themselves that you should worry about.
2006-11-23 10:08:13 · answer #4 · answered by G-gnomegrl 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
it will eather happen with age.or you have work on feeling good about who you are. there was one thing on tv about someone who felt like you.so they told him to take a banana for a walk on a bit of string think the idea was if u can do something strange like that then any thing else you do is normal an u wont worry about wot anyone thinks.think you will sort it out you took a big step asking your question an didn't worry about wot ppl would think
2006-11-23 10:25:05 · answer #5 · answered by dragonfire 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you stop and figure out that not one person is better than you on this earth. Regardless of whatever reason. I believe also age has something to do with it. As time goes on, I really don't give a damn what people think of me. Like my grandma said, "If they don't pay your bills don't worry about what people say or think." This statement has helped me through the years. They are just people, just like you. So hold that chin up and rock on!
2006-11-23 10:06:25 · answer #6 · answered by docie555@yahoo.com 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think most people always care, to one degree or another. The most important thing is to choose WHOSE opinion you care about. You will never be able to please everyone, and you shouldn't try. But I'm sure there are people in your life that you love and respect and you want them to have a good opinion of you. So live a life that makes YOU proud, and the people who truly care about you will be proud of you, too. The rest don't matter.
2006-11-23 10:26:07 · answer #7 · answered by dreamweaver.629ok 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we all care about what other
people think of us ... just not to the point where it stops us in our tracks, that is all .. we need to be busy with out own lives ... but, it is nice if we have others who care ...
We are all connected ... it is normal to care about how we affect the whole, is that not so ... maybe it looks as though they don't care about what people think, but I'm willing to bet that they really do ... just that they do not let it stop them from functioning.
2006-11-23 10:15:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't give a TOSS what people think about or say about me. There is a word for that you know. Something the government is trying to stop. BULLYING. I just laugh in their face, cos I'm a million times better than them.
2006-11-23 10:14:32 · answer #9 · answered by Jeanette 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think everyone feels this way from time to time. I am totally self-conscious and am always worried what people think too.
What's helped me is:
1. reminding myself that I am a good person, and that's what really counts in life
2. those that are mean spirited and do think badly of me have the REAL problem, and they're not worth worrying over
2006-11-23 10:43:11 · answer #10 · answered by hj55f 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋