Nobody with actual clinical depression wakes up and decides "gee I am going to make myself feel miserable". It irks me when people who have never suffered with depression assume that if you just started thinking positive happy thoughts then all would be well. But what if you do try to think positive but the lethargy and sick empty feeling persist?? How do you stop the urge to cry over absolutely nothing?? The urge to cry is a physical letdown. One does not even have to be sad about anything to cry. How do you explain to someone that you exercise, eat right, work on personal issues and take wonderful new medicines but sometimes even this isn't enough. How do you make someone understand that there is nothing negative going on in your current personal life that is bothering you and that you have little stress but still seem to have a sad feeling that seems to hang on to your physical self like a demon that won't go away no matter how hard you work at it. Where is the "option"?
2006-11-23 09:51:27 · 9 answers · asked by iwanln 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Sadly its just them opting to be uneducated about depression.
2006-11-23 09:53:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't make them understand. It's impossible.
I'm sure you don't understand it yourself do you? So why would others. It must sound even weirder to them to cry for no apparent reason.
I think most people are frustrated at themselves for not having advice to offer and so they the closest thing they have to try and help is trying the tough-love thing and trying to show us the reality of the situation. But the feelings are stronger than any realisation of how things are.
Easier said than done.
I also think that a lot of people wrongly believe they have actually suffered depression but were just in a funk & being lazy which you CAN certainly snap yourself out of.
So they think it's no big deal and if you stopped feeling sorry for yourself and thought postivie you could get on with things and be okay again.
2006-11-23 19:29:03 · answer #2 · answered by Fluffy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I admit that I've thought this to myself when my own mom and aunt suffered from depression, even though I knew I was really horrible for thinking this way and knew I was wrong. I never said it aloud but sometimes I would think 'why can't they just snap out of it?" which of course is impossible when you are clinically depressed and it was totally insensitive of me to even think these thoughts... when people think this it is selfish of them, and because they feel helpless that they can't help in making the other person feel better.
Nowadays, people should know that depression is as much a physical condition, just as cancer or any other illness is, and is not under one's control. There is no excuse for anyone making you feel badly about a condition you can't help. I would tell those close to you that you can't help the fact that you've been not yourself lately and would appreciate their support during this time.
I hope you feel better soon and wish all the best- don't worry you'll get through this!
2006-11-23 10:12:00 · answer #3 · answered by hj55f 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignorance is bliss. Most people who are uneducated think that we have control over our depression. And the only that helps is medication. And then we are called psychos because we take meds for our heads. The only option is medication. Depression doesn't go away by its self, unless it is situational depression.
2006-11-23 10:11:40 · answer #4 · answered by docie555@yahoo.com 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
im learning about my partner whom suffers manic depression which is Bi-Pilor 111 he is nearly always nasty to me with his strong words and says cruel things about my family, i would say about an hour or two he can be up and active then his exhausted ive done some things to him like shouting at him only into getting him to see im strong person, but at times i can loose it when he changes with all this angry thats inside him from what people have done to him i do unerstand wher your coming from some people dont understand and not even i do fully myself, i just wish at times he wouldn't think that every one he meets has a problem
2006-11-23 10:04:44 · answer #5 · answered by A A 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hey i think im depresed sortof my mom thinks i am. but i dont let that bother me because im a calm person. depresion is some thing u need to over come be happy.
i hate it when people blindly judge me.
2006-11-23 09:55:13 · answer #6 · answered by hardbringer26 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Many people have no idea what depression is.
2006-11-23 09:58:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mother had a great saying....yes they think so....
.......till it hits at their door.....then they whine & complain!
2006-11-23 10:04:06 · answer #8 · answered by May I help You? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
pray
2006-11-23 12:44:40 · answer #9 · answered by anna 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋