What can i do if:
"ur close female friend doen't want to be with you, but she doesn't want you to be with anyone else"?
What can i do?Advice…
Anyone be in a similar position?
p.s. attraction is there....
2006-11-23 09:49:37 · 23 answers · asked by Machine 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If she doesn't want you to be with anyone else then it means she has feelings for you. She probably says she doesn't want to be with you in case it affects your friendship all you can do is have an honest talk with her and get it all out in the open, otherwise this could go on for a long time
2006-11-23 09:57:19 · answer #1 · answered by Mark R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHE MUST HAVE SOME FEELINGS FOR YOU IF SHE DOSENT WANT YOU TO BE WITH ANYONE ELSE. BUT MAYBE SHE IS WORRIED THAT IF SOMETHING DOES HAPPEN BETWEEN YOU AND IT GOES WRONG THEN SHE WOULD HAVE LOST A CLOSE FRIEND. COULD YOU HANDEL LOSING HER FRIENDSHIP IF IT DIDNT WORK OUT? I FANCIED THIS LAD IN SCHOOL FOR YEARS AND HE LIKED ME BUT DIDNT WANT A RELATIONSHIP WITH ANYONE SO WE BECAME BEST MATES. AFTER LEAVING SCHOOL WE WENT TO A PARTY AND ENDED UP KISSING FOR ABOUT 10 SECONDS BEFORE WE WERE INTERUPTED. THAT WAS THE BIGGEST MISTAKE OF MY LIFE!!!! AFTER THAT WE NEVER SPOKE AGIN AND I WAS MORE HEART BROKEN THAT I HAD LOST HIS FRIENDSHIP THAN THE FACT THAT WE DIDNT BECOME A COUPLE. IT HAS BEEN 10 YEARS SINCE THE LAST TIME WE SAW EACHOTHER AND I REGRET THAT KISS SO MUCH. SOMETIMES ITS BETTER JUST TO REMAIN FRIENDS. SIT DOWN WITH HER AND ASK HER HOW SHE FEELS. MAYBE IT COULD WORK OUT FOR YOU,I HOPE IT DOES. AS YOU SAID THERE IS ATTRACTION THERE. IF SHE DOESNT WANT TO BE WITH YOU THEN SHE MUST LET GO AND LET YOU FIND SOMEONE ELSE. REMEMBER DONT LIVE ON EMPTY PROMISES THINKING THAT SHE WILL WANT TO BE WITH YOU COZ THE YEARS DONT HALF FLY BY QUICKLY.
2006-11-23 10:58:54 · answer #2 · answered by NATALIE B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can't rule your life,are you gonna let her, if she is close then you two need to have a conversation about it. Why, are you not dating because she doesn't like it? Thats not fair, well you see how she will be if you two were to get in a relationship, she would be very controlling, she already trying to control U. Do U like it that she is obsessive? I feel she is playing you, knowing that you are interested in her and she feels like she has a little puppy on a string. Hey man that's just my opinion, only you can determine whats right for you...good Luck
2006-11-23 09:58:31 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. Twissta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmmm......
thats a tuffy, yall should sit down and have it out...... you should tell her that you can't sit around and wait for her to make her mind up, on rather she wants to be with you or not regardless of the attraction that's is and/or isn't there..... give her an altemadiam don't be rude or pushy about it tell her you really like her and what not.... explain to her that you guys are friends and it could be turned into something so much more with a friendship and an emotional relationship such as dateing.....
still dreaming in idaho
stacy
2006-11-23 09:55:02 · answer #4 · answered by Stacy ` B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STAY close friends. Don't press it. If you do, you risk the friendship, as well as anything that might develop.
The fact that your friend doesn't want you to to be with anyone else means she's waiting for the right time for HER. Respect her timing, and you both win.
Don't respect it, and you lose the friendship, as well.
2006-11-23 09:57:22 · answer #5 · answered by protectrikz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have u ever thought to ask her WHY to both of those statements? You have nothing to lose by makeing yourself available to other people and you never know, if you do take yourself off the shelf it may even prompt her to take a chance on you, if not you may find that you will meet that certain someone and you wont care anymore it you and her stay as just friends..
2006-11-23 10:57:40 · answer #6 · answered by lee g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
similar problem, wha hsnt?
iether ur WITH this CLOSE female frnd or u rnt.
its time that u both stopped wasting each others and everybody elses time and sorted yrslvs out.
If ur 2gether GREAT, if not...she's yr frnd NOT yr mother... she dsnt get 2 make yr life decisions.
break free and enjoy yr freedom.
2006-11-23 10:00:35 · answer #7 · answered by Lu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs time on her own to think and at least she is being honest. Be there as a friend but notin an overpowering way and let her make her journey.
2006-11-23 22:48:18 · answer #8 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her lose, move on. What would you waste your time waiting on someone who does not want you, however, does not want you with anyone else. Get rid of the friend, she is a psycho, piece of work. God bless****
2006-11-23 09:52:55 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just wants to have her cake and eat it to. If she doesn't want you, you need to move on and maybe her seeing you with someone else will give her a push in the right direction. Remember, girls always want what they can't have.
2006-11-23 10:03:20 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ tweety ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋