Am I overreacting?

Question

My best friend of almost five years decided to go out with the one guy I like yesterday. I don't know him that well but she knew how much I liked. She was talking to me on the phone while it happened and she asked me if I minded. I wanted her to do what she thought was right and between two guys she picked the one guy I liked and I hate her for acting the way she did. It's stupid to fight over boys but I think that it's more than that. Does it make sense for me to feel the way I feel or am I just overreacting?

I probably should have mentioned this but it isn't a random guy. He's been a friend for almost as long as I've known her and we have spent time together so it's not like he's a total stranger.

And I never told her that I didn't mind. I told her to do what she thought was right, which may or may not be the same thing.

Answer 1

Yes your over reacting, have a threesome

Answer 2

It makes sense for you to feel that way, but you should've told your friend that you mind her going out with this boy. Besides, you'll find a better guy in no time. One that you know and like, not just one that you like. Looks aren't everything. Just remember that.

Answer 3

It is normal to feel the way you do, you was hurt and betrayed by a friend. But keep in mind, guys will come and go, your friends will always be there.

Answer 4

You only get to have your feelings hurt if you told her that you would mind her going out with this guy. If you don't know him all that well it sounds like you don't really have a relationship with him, and if you told her you didn't mind if she went out with him you can't get mad at her because she did. She can't read your mind!! Good Luck!!

Answer 5

i think ur friendship is more important than someboy talk to ur friend. if that doensnt work than make a move on the guy. (maybe he doesnt like ur friend u never no) but u should of made a move on the guy way before she had to pick.

hope that helps good luck!!

Answer 6

no, you're not over reacting, that's called back stabbing. But on the other hand if the guy didn't know you had a crush on him and he developed a crush on your girl friend you can't blame him. And maybe she secretly liked him as well, but couldn't tell you because she knew you liked him. But if she hadn't even set eyes on him and then grew interest in him because you told her you liked him, that is backstabbing and messed up.

Answer 7

Yes you are. You told her to choose. There are other guys, but don't let this get in the way of your friendship. The fact is that she asked you if it was ok and you didn't tell her no. So yes, you are overreacting.

Answer 8

You are not overreacting. Your friend appeared to be a total jerk if that's what happened. Tell you what, meet up with your friend and talk to her and see how she reacts about it and what's she gonna do about it. Cause if she's a real asshole, than I'd suggest you're better off without her.

Answer 9

yea it makes sense cause if my friend like the same guy i liked i wouldnt go out w/ him for my friends sake. so no ur not overreacting

Answer 10

Obviously she is not a true friend. And i would leave her alone, this is just a bit example of who she is. Next she will try to get with one of your boyfriends. She is not to be trusted, a true friend never would have done this one. God bless****

Answer 11

well, i think how you feel about things makes sense because you are somehow jealous that your bfriend is dating the one guy that you like..however, you should know that she asked you if she minded & you told her that you wanted her to do what she thinks is right..you should have told her that you were bothered about how things are..