what was it that made you realise it was over?

Question

was it the one incident , the straw that broke the camels back so to speak, or a whole series of things?

Answer 1

Well in my case it was a general erosion of the relationship .... a lot of little things ( and some not so little ) over a period of time that started to make my mind up that the relationship was going downhill. I've always been an advocate of 'give and take' in a relationship but sometimes when you are always giving, it can get very tedious. In my case, it was one final blow up when the 'not going back' flag was raised and moving out day was on the horizon! Looking back, I know it was the best decision although, and quite naturally, at the time, emotions ran high and logic went out the window.

Answer 2

When she told me she was going to a leaving party for one of the girls and came home with a bunch of flowers and said the girl didnt turn up so she brought the flowers home. I threw them straight out of the window but she went down and brought them back in. That was a Friday night and on the Saturday she said she was going to her sisters but was gone till night. When I took her we were only there a couple of hours. On the following Thursday she had circled an advert for a flat not far away from mine and then she *u*k*** Off. Good riddance to bad rubbish I say.

Answer 3

When i woke up in the middle of the night and thought I cant do this anymore. Realised I didnt like the person I had become and the c**p marriage was killing me from inside-out. Soon as we split the big cloud lifted and I never looked back.

Answer 4

A series of things Like: Many calls over time from different women and losing you driver's license for impaired driving twice in one year.......it all added up - so after 13 years and 3 kids later - it was time to go - and FAST!! I'm just a slow learner!!

Answer 5

My ex was abusive emotionally and psychically. I wanted to go back to full time study and he made me believe i cudnt bcos i was useless. Despite his numerous affairs and an accusation of rape, i stayed with him. then just before Xmas 2001, my cousin got married. I realised i couldn't stay with a man who didn't respect me, the mother of his 3 children.

Nearly 5 years and i have just started a midwifery course,much to the annoyance of my ex. Its tuff but the kids give me the strength and encouragement i need to do the course.

Life is too short to be miserable!!

Answer 6

my ex' dad made me realise it was over!!
we had been together 12 years and engaged for 3,
we was all on holiday together,me,ex and his mum & dad,
i didn't really want to go in the first place but my family & friends said go and it will help you make up your mind for sure whether you want to be with him or not,so i went and we hardly spoke,
we had seperate beds (thank god) one night we were in a restaurant and i think he's parents knew something was wrong,his dad looked at me and said "you are at that stage in life where you don't know what you want,career wise and relationship wise"
he hit the nail on the head,it was so true.
when we got home i ended the relationship,stayed single for 2 years just having fun,living alone and than i met "the one"
we are now married with a daughter.

Answer 7

I was pregnant with our third child and he started staying out all night, his excuse was, 'he was working overtime' or he had gone fishing, I wasn't having any of it, I hired a private detective and in less than a week , I knew his every move, he was sleeping with one of the girls from his work, so for me , it was " bye bye " and I never took him back, he asked many times if he could come home but I said ' No', I couldn't trust him, if he could do it once, he could do it again, no one gets a second chance with me.

Answer 8

I am happily married but before my husband I had my share of losers. With my ex's that broke the camel's back was that they we not interested in their future and relied upon me to support their sorry butts. Sorry, I am not a woman who will support a loser with no ambition. Ambition turns me on!!!

Answer 9

Disrespect from her side was first. Many smaller things followed, the turning point was for me to realize she is not worth what I do for her. She does not need and does not appreciate anything, just takes it for granted. It totally changed me. I am there for the kids only.

Answer 10

I knew things were starting to go downhill when he started sticking a knife up there. They always said it wouldn't work out for me, a 12 yo to date a 53 yo. I guess they were right. Sure, there were a few bumps (and humps) along the road beside that, but they weren't that bad. After all, mom did get a really nice tombstone AND he hid the murder weapon for me. He was always doing polite things like that. OH GOD how I love him! I miss him so much - oh, dad, why did u have to die?