It is easy for me to act nice or different, but I want to actually change and stop "acting like i am different"
thanks in advance.
btw, I am only 17 and school is the reason why I "act"
one other thing, when I say act I mean pretend.
2006-11-23 09:28:13 · 10 answers · asked by . 3 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
1. Unless you have murder on your mind, be yourself.
2. If it's a lifestyle issue, you may have to keep lowkey around certain groups, or individuals, that could hurt you.
3. When you become of age, get as far away from those who make it hard for you to be yourself.
4. Remember, live your dreams, not others. Never allow others to live your life.
Good Luck and Warm Wishes.
2006-11-23 10:18:24 · answer #1 · answered by mitch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your attitude comes mainly from the thoughts bubbling around in your head, the things you think to yourself a thousand times every day. What you have to do, first, is start listening to those thoughts more carefully and identify the ones that you want to change. Then, once you have done that, you start consciously and deliberately telling yourself the opposite. For example, if you find yourself constantly thinking bad or critical things about other people, then the next time you catch yourself, you stop and deliberately think something good about that person. If you continue like this, you'll be surprised at how quickly your attitude changes =) Hope that helps.
2006-11-23 18:42:18 · answer #2 · answered by rhythm.nbass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change your status,your role, your location. Travel, if ur rich, leave the money behind and hang out with the poor guys, you don't have to like them, but u must do ur best to understand them. Don't take dangerous chances, but make dramatic changes,even if temporary.
changes in ur life will help u discover who u really are, you must know that before u decide you want to change it!
Once u get to know ur self better, you will b able to locate the weaknesses or vices you would like to change, start working on them 1 at a time, don't overwhelm ur self. start wit the simple ones u think r easy to fix and then move gradually up.
and remember, THIS IS A PROCESS THAT WOULD NORMALLY TAKE A LIFETIME, DON'T PUSH IT, YOU'LL BREAK IT, it has to take it's time to b real.
Stop worrying about how others see u, if u don't know how to see yourself, you can't really blame them for their misconception.
You can't fix a problem without locating it, learn who you are first and then start changing and fixing.
Just by trying, or bothering with an effort, you've already moved forward, further than so many perfect, popular, nice angels will ever budge!
2006-11-23 19:18:52 · answer #3 · answered by mtoi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there. being ten years older that you i must say that changing never worked for me. I would say be yourself and just try to be happy with the things you do or say. Make sure that you don't regret afterwards and all will go smoothly. Learn to love yourself for who you really are and let others love it for the same reason.
P.S: i used to pretend all my years in school and college. No big deal, just got tired one day and stopped..
Good Luck
2006-11-23 17:49:51 · answer #4 · answered by tink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty,"know the truth and the truth itself will set you free". I think Shakespeare said "to thine own self be true". You are doing okay,because you see the difference between "acting" & "being". Just never lie to or decieve yourself. Some times one needs to "act" a certain part. Love whistle britches
2006-11-23 19:15:49 · answer #5 · answered by Weldon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with age and education, comes growth. You are still young and forming who you will be in your life. Give it a bit of time. And in the mean time, expand your mind. Wisdom is a great leveling point for a person to discover who they are and who they will become in the future. Read books like you are eating junk food, inhail the knowledge within. And you will, with new insites, find new ways of still being who you really are inside; along with maturing in your behavior and personality. Best of luck dear.
2006-11-23 18:54:28 · answer #6 · answered by the witch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change your heart, and change who you are... in order to behave a different way you must, percieve life differently, the rewards in which you are striving for now, you seem to have found are fruitless.... or you would continue the same behavior. Read some self-help or relationship books, study the ideas and concepts in them, see if you agree with them, and how you can apply them to your life.
2006-11-23 17:33:28 · answer #7 · answered by ~MB~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Decide that what people think of you is really not important, cause when graduate and you are no longer around those people it will be you and the world, and you had better know yourself then or it will chew you up and spit you out.
It all boils down to in the end when everything is said and done it is your life and you should life it as you please, not the way someone wants you to.
2006-11-24 13:50:21 · answer #8 · answered by Engel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
project a video in your head of how you want to be. FOCUS...Do this and one day youll be what your inner self projects
2006-11-23 17:34:16 · answer #9 · answered by bikerdarby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in your heart. You must to see it.Take time
Bye,
2006-11-23 17:38:21 · answer #10 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋