My girl 1urned 13 some months ago and gave me a hard time. She became disrespectful, took to fighting me and disagreeing wth me on pratically everything. Sometimes it was almost impossible to keep my temper, though we've never spanked our kids. My husband went on business trip and some days later I got stressed, work, fights ate home, and spent 10 days in a clinic. During this time my girl changed drastically, became sweet, lovely, apologized for fighting me so much, was of great help and always with an extraordinary good will. She treated me with much love and attention, I can say she was simply WONDERFUL. So wonderful that I myself started thinking that maybe she wasn't so sassy and disrespectful as I used to think, but maybe just childish, maybe she was just looking for a kind aof self affirmation, hormones. Now, I'm Ok, back to work and she is still lovely and sweet, though she is back to her normal life, hanging out with friends, playing sports. But everyday she says Mom I love ya
2006-11-23 09:03:18 · 16 answers · asked by Carla 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
If from now on my daughter is 30% of what she was when I was in the clinic, I'll be a happy mom!
2006-11-23 09:03:30 · update #1
Your daughter is going through puberty which is why her behavior was "bad". She got a taste of reality and probably thought about what life would be like without mom around and so she has "stepped up to the plate" and growing up a little bit. Will she remain this way? No one can say, not even herself. But she has gotten a taste, you have seen that while she may not be the "best" child a large portion of the time she CAN pitch in and do her share when needed. Instead of trying to "second guess" her you should appreciate her efforts and TELL her that you do.
2006-11-23 11:37:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep on loving her unconditionally, support her decisions - as hard as it may be, and even though she might make mistakes / act out.
I was the same when I was 13, and it didn't stop until I went to uni at 18 - when I actually thanked my parents for all their love and support even when they knew I was wrong!
I think that you going to the clinic may have made her realise how important you actually are to her - time out from each other can be rewarding and actually help the relationship!
2006-11-23 14:25:04 · answer #2 · answered by S M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't ever know that you can just hope for the best and even though you want to just spend all your time amazed with her I think this is the warning you and your husband needed to descuss what you should do when she's acting like that so that your prepared and not so insacure on what to do when this happens I am 14 and I know it won't last take this time to think about what your going to do when the situation arises again because it will and if she get's away with it, it get's worse.
2006-11-23 09:11:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-12 23:57:06 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the world of 13 year old girls. It will be the roller coaster ride of a lifetime.
Don't stress so much. Try yoga. It will only get worse from here on out. It is nice she is being sweet...but yea...I would be questioning it.
This comes from the good girl kid who did whatever she wanted and got away with murder..parents didn't even know...
2006-11-23 11:10:57 · answer #5 · answered by Thera 9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is quite normal teens have to get used to the hormones some of the things daughters have said to their mothers has been horrible but we all still love our mum's, just support her the best way possible and if still concerned talk to your doctor about stratergies to deal with her and yourself, good luck and remeber there is life at the end of the tunnel
2006-11-23 13:10:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
MAKE SURE to tell her that you appreciate how she is been treating you. give her 20 bucks and go to the movies or dinner with her.
2006-11-23 13:47:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No she will end up turning out like all other teenagers by defying you and not listening to you at all.
2006-11-23 09:39:07 · answer #8 · answered by baddrose268 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm she IS a teen u kno!! she goes through phases and mood swings...give her sum freedom tho so she DUZ stay good/
2006-11-23 11:16:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in a couple of months probaly u will start fighthing again(i hope not)
2006-11-23 13:40:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋