2006-11-23 09:00:16 · 30 answers · asked by g 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I knew from about the age of six.
There was a boy in my class at school that I always wanted to sit next to, but it never happened, and it was years later that I realised I had a 'crush' on him.
I came out to my family when I was 18, but it didn't come as a surprise to them. I'd never shown any interest in girls (sexually), and they respected me for my honesty.
I know it is not always easy to 'come out', and I would say that you should leave it for a few years in case it is just a 'phase' you are going through.
Many men get sexual urges, and when you are going through puberty, your hormones are all over the place and experimentation (hand-jobs) is rife.
If you are certain you are gay, then tell a few close friends and if they show resistance, it is they who have a problem, not you.
I hope you will not bow down to intollerance and ignorance, and find the courage to say who you are.
I had one bad experience when I came out, and the man who didn't want to know me anymore now lives with his boyfriend in London!
All I can say to you is, you know the people around you, and you know yourself.
If you think they will be supportive, then be honest.
Frankly, I'd be honest anyway and let them love you the way you are.
2006-11-23 13:30:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hestitate to offer any advice, because the questioner may be very young.
To "come out" makes other people, including family and friends, aware of the fact, and that's a big thing to do.
I think I knew I was gay at 12 or 13, and I had a good relationship at the age of 14 which lasted 5 years, but that just made me a happy criminal. I couldn;'t "come out" or there'd have been arrests!
I really do admire kids to-day, who at the age of 16 walk through the streets of Manchester holding their boyfriend's hand. It takes guts to do that, and generally speaking, they don't get a rough time when they do.
Maybe the best way to "come out" is slowly; first with close friends, then maybe with family. If that works OK, kids start to feel more confident about it, but no-one expects a 13-year-old to organise a gay-pride march and wave banners.
Of course, "coming out" to yourself is the best bit of all, and between the ages of 13 and 16, it is such an exciting time, but a potentially dangerous one too.
Gay kids need to know about safe-sex, they need to know where to find others their own age and they need emotional support in the growing-up process.
When you've read enough questions and answers on Yahoo, you soon realise that many pople still do not accept homosexuality for a number of reasons.....mostly religious.
When someone "comes out" they pin their colours to the mast and stand up for what they believe, and state who and what they are.
Those who say that all gay people should be shot, would do well to understand that they are actually proposing child-murder, because there are tens-of-thousands of children between the ages of 12 and 16 who have to face this each year, every single day.
If the questioner is the 12 or 13-year-old who wants to "come out," then good-luck, and here's a great big cuddle from me to start with......xx.
2006-11-23 23:10:54 · answer #2 · answered by musonic 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You will know when it is right to do so. I knew I was gay from a very early age but it took me 30 years to have the courage to come out. Having done so I wonder why it took me so long but when I did do so I knew it was the right time. I know guys who have come out much earlier and were able to do so without any problems. There is no right or wrong time to come out. It has to be when you feel most comfortable to do so. Just be yourself and most people will guess in any event which makes it easier to finally acknowledge the fact. Don't try and hide it since this just makes matters worse.
Don't forget that there are plenty of support groups for young gays these days - which were not around in my early days - so there are people to help you. Also there are groups for parents who have gay kids so if your parents need support and guidance it is there for them.
Good luck
2006-11-25 03:44:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on your circumstances mate - will your family be cool with it? If not, wait till your able to financially support yourself.
Moreover, what's your school like? Will you get bullied?
I waited till I was 17. It was the prefect age for ME. I could defend myself at school (verbally) and was entirely happy. I'm 18 now and wish I did it a few years ago because my mum could see I was a wee bit depressed and I didn't realise I was hurting her so much.
Just make sure you feel entirely happy with your situation. Don't worry about boyfriends and all that stuff...that will come later. Being gay at a young age seems like your the only one in the world and it can be lonely but you'll soon find out your not. Good luck with everything x
2006-11-28 11:10:28 · answer #4 · answered by life_aint_a_game_10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've known and everybody else kind of suspected I was gay since I was young around 12 or 13 but I didn't come out until i was 23. I felt it was the time because I wanted to start dating and not keeping it from my family.
2006-11-23 09:33:38 · answer #5 · answered by What'd You Say? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Mate, I knew I was gay since I was about 8 or 9. I have done the really wrong thing, and got married, had kids. I am now 56. All i want is for a bloke to put his arms around me and hold me all night and sort of heal me for a while. I was sexually abused when I was 10 by a boy aged 17 who I trusted. I have been abused several times since then. I am fucked up about it but I am trying to forget it. I am now working in a home for old people with Alzheimers. What I THINK i really want is for a guy just to hold me all night, no sex, no abuse, just quietness, sleep, healing. Don't think I have really answered your question but I am with you. XX.
2006-11-24 06:50:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your ready. I knew I was a lesbian when I was 13. Im 28 nearly 29 now and i didnt come out and have my first sexual encounter with a woman till i was 21. I wasnt strong enough to come out b4 then and didnt know how too either. If you feel the time is right for you to come out and you are prepared to handle other peoples reactions (wether they are good or bad) then do it.
2006-11-23 09:46:34 · answer #7 · answered by Mystic Magic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
asap
i knew i was gay aged 13 i came out aged 16
those 3 cupboard years were awful
take care
2006-11-24 05:31:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As soon as it will make a difference. When you are very young your sexuality makes no difference to how you live, when you grow older it has a greater effect on your behaviour and your lifestyle.
It would be a good idea to come out when you start dating!
2006-11-23 09:08:43 · answer #9 · answered by monkeymanelvis 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Whenever You Want Take As Much Time As You Like?
2006-11-23 09:02:22 · answer #10 · answered by luckyboi1223 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋