im sorry you guy this is my first time online and i;'m upset because i have to live with problem for another month .i thought you could help ease my mind alittle. like i said before no kids, married 16 years he was on drugs , and work for a local hospital in philly and losted his job he was supervisor. i got sick from stressing out he didn't take care of me i took care of myself i am a nurse a local hospital too and i love my job 17 years here . he raped me when we had sex last but i didn;t tell because i was sick now i;m much much better it's just my lawyer said i have to be separted for 2 years and in January 07 will make 2 years of separation i just can't. but i;m i to do now he hasn't talked to me in 6months we communcate by writng notes we share a joint account together so we pay the bills of the house but this last week he has been late with the money i wrote a note to him and i told him that the money was short he said just keep putting my money and don't worry about it
2006-11-23 07:52:59 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am proud of you in many ways.
1. I am glad you did not have any kids. You have been responsible! Kids would have been in tremendous jeopardy!
2. In your own words "i got sick from stressing out he didn't take care of me i took care of myself i am a nurse a local hospital too and i love my job 17 years here"...Awesome!
3. You applied for legal counsel and separation.
You have always moved towards the light! Just when you are about to see the light, at the end of this tunnel of darkness, DO NOT GIVE UP! Its only 2 more months.
But think about these things. You are a nurse. You help other people get better. You are smarter than most people. So, give this a thought, ok?!
1. Why do you still have a joint account?
2. Why do you communicate by writing? Writing can be incriminating evidence.
3. As a nurse, you must make good salary. Do you live within your means? Why is money short, from your JOINT account???
Your freedom is very near. Do not jeopardize it by getting emotional. You work as a nurse. You do not have obligations towards your partner, husband, fiancee, boyfriend or anyone to be a nurse to them. Do not get your job and life mixed up.
Good luck and keep the chin up!
2006-11-23 08:14:26 · answer #1 · answered by sadsmile 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to wait 2 years without cohabiting unless the divorce is uncontested..
You will be up for divorce soon, and can go on with your life. Get away from this loser.
Is he supposed to share the bills or house payments? If he is under court order and isnt doing it, tell your lawyer and ask his or her advice.
You may have to sell the house, share the profits, and get an apartment. When you get this wart off your back, you may even want to move somewhere else and start afresh.
Chin up. This will soon pass.
2006-11-23 08:03:41 · answer #2 · answered by hls 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-12 23:52:07 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your own bank account and start saving up. He does not have a job why support him when he is on drugs and probably using that money for drugs. Try to do it on your own. Thank god you did not have children with this man he sounds like he is a mental case.
2006-11-23 08:06:32 · answer #4 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you don't need a joint account with a drug user and abuser. If you're planning on getting back together that is your business, but never trust money to someone like that.
2006-11-23 08:00:31 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a real problem. Why can't you dump him? i know that it will be hard because you've been together for so long, but seriously. What have you to really lose, in terms of what there is to gain, by letting him go? Clearly he no longer appreciates you, so don't sweat it. Move on. Do what you have to do to secure your own happiness and peace of mind.
2006-11-23 07:58:51 · answer #6 · answered by Amethyst 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The emotion of Love is too strong. As outsider looking in I wonder how you are able to continue with this man.
I suppose you are supporting his habit as well if you are the one working.
(I need to think seriously before i submit this, personal issues are your own no answer will seem correct)
Sadsmill has his head screwd on
2006-11-23 08:18:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop him like a hot rock. He clearly has no respect for you, and is only using you for what he can get. Get with your lawyer and make sure you get the bills separated, and move on with your life.
2006-11-23 08:02:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really need to re-word your question and try again!
2006-11-23 08:00:24 · answer #9 · answered by Danette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋