this was my first time meeting her, but we have know him since my husband and him were in basic. tonight at dinner she kept telling racist jokes, and when she was in the kitchen helping me cook, she said "i tink i'll go in the living room with the boys, your people have many year expierence in this field. i had to apologize to the other eight people here tonight for her behaviour.
2006-11-23 07:52:26 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I'm sure that if you tell your best friend exactly what she said to you, your best friend will definetly belive you. but if he doesnt belive you at first, when you leave him alone, he will keep thinking about it, then eventually start to belive you.
2006-11-23 07:58:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
How in the world can he not know? You maybe should tell her she hurt your feelings and she is rude on top of it. I am of a gentle nature and you sound very kind but you are the matriarch of your household and woman bless by God and held in high esteem. I never knew that using the term 'you people' was offensive. It happened to my best friend. She was kidding around with our pastor's wife and little did we know how offended she was. G explained it to her and she still did not accept the apology. G & I always say' you people' when we refer to our own families just because we're goofy. Now that we know the possibility of offence we keep it strictly in our family. Did you know that in the di ctionary, the term 'girl' is synonomous with slave? I read the dictionary on occasion and from that point on I didn't use the term girl, or even with my own girls call them girls. We can learn someting everyday. But somebody better tell that person she needs some personal development courses or sensitivity training. Doni
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2006-11-23 08:03:17 · answer #2 · answered by doni 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think of it relatively is greater of a rely of her not wanting you speaking to a distinctive lady that bothers her greater beneficial than the certainty that she's black. She's in all probability mad which you're confiding in and putting out with somebody who's skinny. in case you ask her promptly out if she's racist she'll in all probability say no. besides, in case you have been togeather for a on a similar time as you ought to already be attentive to her thoughts related to different races, maximum people provide up hiding issues like that while they're maintain with somone. As for you being mad that she by no skill needs to bypass out, is on the laptop plenty and gazing television: Is it relatively a suprise for you? I recommend if she exchange right into a huge lady once you met her she in all probability stayed in plenty then and it certaintly could not have afflicted you too plenty given which you ended up living togeather.
2016-10-12 23:52:02 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont' get it, experience in what, cooking? Just say it in kind of an indirect way like "hey, some people might get offended by those jokes", and see if that does it. You can always be more direct later if you need to.
2006-11-23 07:58:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be forgiving, and try your darn'dest to be understanding.
Come from contribution, and ask if it wasn't just the alcohol that was doing the talking, or was this person really all about hatred of people she doesn't care to understand.
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2006-11-23 07:56:45 · answer #5 · answered by Lion J 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would have been so shocked to hear someone say that. I would just tell your best friend straight out that she said racist things. To me she also seems to have some kind of mental disorder.
2006-11-23 07:56:17 · answer #6 · answered by Hanky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a bunch of people in the room including your best friend. Then say "Raise your hand if your wife is NOT racist!" When your friend raises his hand say "No you keep your hand down baby."
2006-11-23 07:55:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wow. That's awful. Personally I think the graceful thing to do would to not mention it unless it comes up. Ask him nicely not to include her in any plans and without any malice or anger, tell him why. I'm sorry that happened, really sorry.
2006-11-23 07:57:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He probably already knows, but you could go to the husband and say you felt uncomfortable with his wife's jokes and her demeanor towards you and others.
2006-11-23 07:55:57 · answer #9 · answered by tebone0315 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think the wife kind of let the cat out of the bag all by her loathsome.
2006-11-23 07:56:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋