Ive was with my girlfriend 3 years she was my everything and we split up 2 months ago. Since then Ive just got wasted everynight I cant stop thinking about her, even when i sleep i dream about her. I cant take it no more i want to end my life, ive been to the doctors and told him how i feel, he put me on anti depressents and they havnt helped. Im ony 21 and i know ive go the rest of my life ahead of me but i cant take the pain any more all my friends have partners and it just brings back memorys when i see them together.
2006-11-23 07:47:53 · 23 answers · asked by soma 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
find new single friend's, is the only answer and don't settle for second's.
2006-11-23 07:50:02 · answer #1 · answered by russellhamuk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For heavens sake - you don't know how lucky you are!
Imagine if you were legally bound to each other with children and then she decided she wanted a change! You've had a very narrow escape - look on this as FREEDOM to find someone who will not dump you!
You're only 21 and you haven't even started to enjoy the freedom of youth - you've been chained down to the same girl since you were 18! It's time for you to have some freedom and fun and get some experience of life.
You say you can't take the pain of losing this girl any more - well let me tell you - THE MAN WHO THINKS HE CAN'T IS RIGHT! So you had better start thinking you can get over this unreliable element you were once chained to.
When you next have a 'holiday' get prepared, buy a cheap Easyjet ticket to Athens now [£70 return maybe] and then go Greek Island Hopping. Get out and meet new people, and don't even think about getting committed again on the rebound. Enjoy your freedom.
Remember a lot of people who marry or commit to a relationship when they are as young as you, suddently realise when they are 30 that they haven't 'lived'!
You will be OK in a couple of weeks if you change your attitude and start to live. Time heals believe me, I know.
2006-11-23 16:25:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
OK, I'm still living in the same house as my ex, we were together for nearly three years. Yeah, it kicks at first but you have to look at it from a different angle. You WILL find someone who is righter for you. You split up because there was something which wasn't quite right between you, look at it as an opportunity to find someone who is closer to the 'perfect' that you had in mind. Don't wish your life away cause you were too lazy to get back out there and look for someone better (and there always is someone better than your ex, trust me, that's why they're an ex" Take a weekend out and go and get blitzed with a few good friends, then start a fresh. Look at it as a new beginning rather than the end of all things.
2006-11-23 16:04:33 · answer #3 · answered by clusp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I didn't understand your pain, but I do. Its been 3 years for me. Never thought I'd live through it. My depression was so severe when my husband walked. There is no easy solution, it takes time. Dont do anything to harm yourself! No-one is worth that. You can email me if you want someone to talk with. I wish there was a way to make things better for you, it really just takes time. Please, Please, stop drinking, it really does make things worse. Try to stay in touch with family & friends. Ask your close friends if you can get together without their girl/boyfriends. I know its hard to see couples. Don't pull away from people. I did, huge mistake. Try to think of someone or something else before you fall asleep, it may help your dreams. I wish you the very best, dont do anything to yourself. You'll only hurt the people who love you. Do you have parents? I'm a parent & that pain I couldn't survive. Please don't do that to your parents. How long have you been on your meds? If its been 3 months with no change, call your doctor. It takes a while for any help to kick in. They wont make life great for you, only more bearable. They helped me with my crying. Not that I dont still cry, now its just every once in a while. not every second of every day. Are you eating? If not, please try. Please stay in touch with me, I understand the pain your in. I'm a 46 yr. old Mom & will do as much as I can to help you through this.
2006-11-23 16:50:09 · answer #4 · answered by justcurious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being around your friends and go to school and take this off your mind, you need to get busy rather than hanging on to someone that doesn't want you and to something which probably was an imfatuation anyway. Bear in mind that you had 3 years with her but marriages today last less than 7 years, so get over her as quickly as possible and move on an enjoy your life, and find a replacement. If you don't get over that "needy feeling" you will continue to repeat it over your lifetime. Surely you're a better person than that. Just find something else to do, further your career or something.
2006-11-23 15:52:57 · answer #5 · answered by sophieb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Old cliche but it really is time, time and more time. I know how horrible that sick to the stomach feeling is. Take a day at a time. I promise you will start thinking about her less and less as time goes on.
It is horrible when all your friends are loved up and you are in emotional turmoil. And it's probably harder for you being a man because I don't think you'll get the emotional support from your mates. Have you got a female friend you can talk to? That might help. You need to talk it out and not bottle it up. Eventually you'll talk about it so much that you'll start to bore yourself and that's when you know you're starting to recover.
Splitting up with someone is like a bereavement. I promise that in time you'll feel better .... stick with it and don't let it beat you.
2006-11-23 15:56:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you need to just let her go and move on with your life. You are right when you say you have the rest of your life ahead of you. But as long as you dwell on your loss, you will always be stuck right where you are at. Do you really think that she is sitting somewhere all down in the dumps over this break up, or out enjoying her life?
It's high time for you to pick yourself up by your bootstraps and get on with living your life. No one is worth the loss of your life, no matter who they are.
2006-11-23 15:53:18 · answer #7 · answered by kamikaze_4021 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Antidepressants take more than a few days to work. So just continue taking them. I am sorry you are experiencing so much pain. Try to find something to do with yourself, spend time with friends and or family that are supportive of you. In time it will pass, most of us have had our hearts broken and our feelings hurt at least once before we leave this earth. It will get better with time. Don't give up. Good luck and God bless****
2006-11-23 15:52:22 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
(((hugs))) Anti-depressants take 4 to 6 weeks to work and they are not the total answer and should not be combined with alcohol. Young or not, your pain is real and crippling but know this is temporary and you won't feel like this forever. Read Dr. Phil's advice in the link below. Peace to you and it will get better, know this :-)
2006-11-23 19:48:11 · answer #9 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is a hard time for you, and I know that you have already been told that time will lessen the hurt. It is true. When my son broke up with his gf of 5 years it took at good 6 months before he started to feel better, not that he was over her but just started to feel better. Please give yourself some time to grieve over things that might have been, you will find someone else.
2006-11-23 15:52:46 · answer #10 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im in the same sitution as you, just the opposite end like you ex gf, for a start you need to stop getting wasted that aint good , just belive in fate if it was meant to be then it will be, you never no you might end up back together x
2006-11-23 16:33:54 · answer #11 · answered by samantha b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋