My husband used to spank me during sex. I told him to stop. It made me feel uncomfortable. Do some men do this to feel that they are in control? Is he a sadist? Does he feel pleasure while doing it? That kind of act is not welcome in my life. I am glad he stopped at once and forever.
2006-11-23 07:30:44 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He did it a couple of times and I was not going to yell at him in the middle of the act. Then after two of three time tolerating it, I softly said, "I don't like that."
2006-11-23 07:37:59 · update #1
Mine did that to me, not hard though, just little love pats, like you would patting the bottom of your baby, or trying to get them to burp, that kind of love pats and it was on my bottom. Him and I both liked it, but if got a little carried away and got a little hard, I would let him know and he would do it easy then.
It is just something that some folks like to do, there is nothing controlling about it. Some like it and some don't. Like some folks like bring out them whips, oh they can keep those things to their self, the love pats are ok.
2006-11-23 07:55:34 · answer #1 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wouldn't be doing it if he didn't feel pleasure. If it makes you uncomfortable then good for you for saying something. You will have to decide how this will effect your relationship, there's a good chance he will find someone who does enjoy it. Can you handle that or a few slaps during sex?
2006-11-23 15:50:31 · answer #2 · answered by karenschonert 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men think women like to be spanked during sex, i have no idea where they heard that, once you said stop it and he did its ok, don't read too much into it.
2006-11-23 15:36:25 · answer #3 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated a guy who could ONLY become ERECT if he was spanking my ***. And I MEAN SPANKING IT HARD till it bruised and I mean, I asked him about it. Did your dad abuse you, whats up. He said no, and that he DIDNT know why he did it, but he couldnt maintain an erection unless he was WHAPPING AWAY at my ***. I LOVED HIM. BUt I refused to stay around him and even left town to avoid the remote possibility of my love for him affecting my decision making.
I wasnt "made", for him. Someone else out there must be, but its not me.
2006-11-23 15:34:28 · answer #4 · answered by . S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be for different reasons. Maybe he just likes it, or maybe he needs to do it to feel in control. Whatever it is, talk it over with him. That's the only way to find out.
2006-11-23 15:32:57 · answer #5 · answered by Megan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as its not hardcore spanking that fine, just probably something that your hubby likes to do in bed. Play along.....
2006-11-23 15:34:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you allow him to do it?Ever asked him?Maybe the feller thought that you liked it.
2006-11-23 15:34:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋