At the beginning of the year I met a guy through a dating websie and in may I met him in person.
We got engaged in August and we chose a ring and decided to pay it off (I only work 2 days a week and he only works casual too so we don't have money). I called the jeweler a few weeks after we chose it and found out that he had cancelled the purchase, then his mum called me and told me things were happening too fast and he wanted to call off the engagement.
I spoke to him and we are now secretly engaged and planning on telling our parents next year.
The thing is he has called off the engagement 3 times so far and I'm scared he is gonna leave me so I am going to try for a baby so he stays.
My friend thinks thos is wrong of me but I don't agree.
I'mm 33 and he'd 36
2006-11-23 07:17:15 · 11 answers · asked by nerrie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Absolutely not. He has called off the engagement three times...honey, he doesn't love you. I'm sorry to be so harsh, but someone needs to tell you. If you have his baby, he will dump you and you will end up raising this child all alone and that is not fair to the child.
2006-11-23 07:23:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Girl are you crazy or what? Should I have a baby to keep him. Nowadays, children do not keep a man anymore. You see couples that have been together for years and with kids to get divorce. Why do you believe that a child would keep this man with you. Have thought about the financial implications of having a child. Child gets sick all the time. They need clothes they need food they need diapers, they need milk. Have a child is very expensive and It is going to be forever. It is not like a pair o shoes that you do not want and you return to the store. you also mention you do not have a stable income, neither does him. My dear You sound for me like a desperate woman that is 33 and have not married yet and does not have a family. I understand your fear, but a child is not a solution. Go find a better job, sign yourself in some schools, go back to study, make new friends, go to church. Sign yourself on the single classes that connect people to bible study. Eventually GOD will put a family man in your way that will commit to you and take of you and will want a family with you. You have to find A DESCENT MAN. Not like this one that already canceled the engagement 3 times. Think about what I said.
2006-11-23 15:27:52 · answer #2 · answered by bbluckylove 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You will never know if he is with you because he really loves you, or if he is there only because you got pregnant. That is if it even works, he may leave you anyway. Its hard enough raising a kid under the best circumstances, but your in for an even harder time. A baby just adds stress, it doesn't make someone love you or fix problems you already have. Don't do it. Its not fair to either of you ,or the baby. good Luck!!
2006-11-24 01:38:46 · answer #3 · answered by Sherrie L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow....you dont' act like a 33 year old...you seem to have a lot of growing up to do.....You don't really have a relationship with this man any longer.....That seems to be clear to everyone but you....You should be ashamed of yourself to even consider bringing a baby into the world to hold onto a man that doesn't even love you.....the answer is no you should not get pregnant...children are not bargaining chips! Time for you to start acting your age and thinking about what life is really all about
2006-11-23 15:25:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a 15 year old. What is wrong with you. Why drag a poor little baby into this immature crap. GROW UP. This is really pathetic. Also, do you actually think he would stay because of a baby. There are many single mom's out there, ask yourself why.
2006-11-23 15:29:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you do this, then you are incredilby selfish human being. Don't ever have a baby for reasons like this. It's very, very, wrong.
2006-11-23 15:20:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
NNNOOO he isn't worth it if u want 2 go dat far
2006-11-23 15:40:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a great idea espescially if you want to be miserable for the rest of your life
2006-11-23 15:21:46 · answer #8 · answered by benjamin b 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Come close....Look me in the eye...and listen very closely...NOOOOOOOOOOOOOO...
This is no longer JUST about you...
2006-11-23 15:41:07 · answer #9 · answered by Wicked_One 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump his ass and run
2006-11-23 15:20:41 · answer #10 · answered by hill bill y 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋