Despite the feelings that i have for my girlfriend...i don't know how...i managed to make her upset..she thinks that i am selfish and that i care only for myself..to dissapoint her in a way...i love her very much and i would do anything in the world to make her feel better...but i don't know how to cheer her up, and i'm afraid our relationship could fall apart...:((..i feel all putred inside..and i'm crying my soul out..what should i do?
2006-11-23 07:09:45 · 6 answers · asked by O.i.p.o. 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It's not that unusual that she feels this way, it's very common. Go to a quiet place with her, get some coffee and just talk. Ask her to spill all and give examples of your selfishness. You probably don't even realize what you're doing wrong. Be very open to suggestion, though and get ready for some honesty.
2006-11-23 07:21:23 · answer #1 · answered by *Larry P. he's for me* 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'll try my best to answer it is not a easy one..
you may do that.. doting her like the other answer person said but then won't your girlfriend feels you are only doing this cause she is upset with you and once you got her nice and relax.She might wonder if this is the ONLY time that you show her that you are not selfish does that means she have to be upset all the time now?? Its something to thinks about?? I know I have been there myself. I don't know how long you have been going together? Or where you guys are in your life goals? Are they the same? Or is there some drifting apart? And why is it drifting apart or falling part as you have type? Basically, you need to gets her to sit down relax and then maybe let her talk to you about her feeling what's going on etc... AND really listen to her maybe there is something you can do. Call her more,write to her more etc.. just to let her know that you still loves her and wants to keeping going but if by any chance you don't feel that way or she doesn't then don't drag it out any longer than it has too that's not good either. I hope this helps in some small way and I wish you both good luck. Happy Thanksgiving.
2006-11-23 07:28:43 · answer #2 · answered by bottom dollar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you just love all of the melodramatics? What a pain! Call her, tell her that you love her. Tell her you're sorry for what ever it is you may have done, that you've thought long and hard about it and still don't understand. Print up this page and send it to her along with a rose. If after all of this, she still doesn't come around, then maybe it's time to give her some space and leave. Don't let her play you with the teary-eyed emotional stuff. You love her, but you can't be with someone who's always going to behave this way. She needs to learn to communicate better.
2006-11-23 07:21:46 · answer #3 · answered by Doc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Communicating this to her is the first step. Then be willing to make the needed adjustments to work on the relationship. It is a give and take, and men tend to be better at taking. It sounds like you love her so I think you want to do what you can to salvage the relationship. Hope it goes well.
2006-11-23 07:28:00 · answer #4 · answered by mike 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are all or nothing. There is no grey.
Drop other attention grabbers (video games, TV, etc) and spend time with her. During the day, when you think of her, don't just go oooaaa, CALL HER. Get her flowers at the grocery store.
PAY ATTENTION TO HER. All she wants is your attention.
2006-11-23 07:20:11 · answer #5 · answered by James H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make a day just for her. Buy her a boquet of her favorite flowers (and/or red roses) and take her out to her favorite fancy restaraunt. What does she love to do? Take her to do it.
Basically, gifts and doting. Spoil her for a night and see how she feels.
2006-11-23 07:16:40 · answer #6 · answered by anything_but_this_again 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋