fed up of being rejected?

Question

by girls..my offers complely rejected my attempts turned down. i feel absolutly worthless even on the net girls are picking up my desperation...im worried ill get to old and worn out for the girls i want, the young ones like 19 to 24 i dont want any old ones, worried ill become unnattractive to the oppisite sex, im told i cant even engage in any communication with females until my psychiatric probs are sorted out, which could take forever. the main ones are my mood swings, low self esteem an inner anger

Answer 1

My partner often reminds me, you keep getting rejected by others because you try too hard. He is right. Other than him I have no real friends and quite often it is because I try too hard, I share too much of myself, spend too much time working at friendships. That in itself kind of finds me on a merry go round of emotion and getting no where fast. Perhaps the same is true for you.

I am now making an effort to just be me and not trying to be friendly. Not trying to make friends. Oddly I have noticed in recent times since I backed off a lot people are beginning to talk to me and approach me. So it is working but me being me I still feel all that merry go round of emotion but now I remind myself that feelings are just feelings and I just need to do what I do and do it for me.

desperation can be picked up in any form of communication. The key to not giving out desperate vibes is to learn to not be so desperate. Decide that for now you are just going to allow friendships to develop and see where they will go. Decide not to look for a girlfriend, wife, partner but just to simply allow friendships to develop.

Do keep getting some help with your mood swings, self esteem and anger but while you are just plan to simply be yourself and allow friendships to happen when they do.

Answer 2

Priorities, love, priorities. I know; I've been there.
Get your body checked for contributing biological disorders. Many masquerade as anxiety, etc., until irreversible damage has been done both to the organs, and to the way you think- for life. But, fixing it is better than not, believe me!
And if you've already been checked, and are actually physically fit, then I'd say you've still got your mental work to do. Not a choice. You may be lonely, but you will feel worse if you keep getting rejected. And if not, then you will be with someone attracted to hardship. She will use you or be just as vulnerable as you, and both will get hurt.
Take care of you. You are all you will ever have. You cannot give from a position of weakness, and you cannot feel worthy of what you take.
Take care of you.
Value yourself.
Then, the desperation won't be there.
And they will come to you.