Whenever i refuse to fulfill her demands,she becomes violent (yelling &shouting...).
2006-11-23 06:20:54 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I used to have the same problem with my little one and had to teach her the value of things and how she has to earn what she wants... Toys are a want and not a need and she has to be good in order to earn something new... My daughter knows that if she is being naughty the whole week and then we go into the store, she knows that she gets nothing for the bad behavior and has to earn the privilege back and it's that simple... The rest is on me to keep from giving in to her... Children need to know that were the ones in control and not them!!!! They need to know that they can't just run around and do what they want... the problem is not with the child- the problem is with you and your ability to put your foot down and it's only gonna get worse if you keep giving in... Don't give in no matter how much she screams and leave the store, go home and she goes in time out and then keep her there and then again and again until she learns how to behave....
2006-11-23 06:35:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is also 4 we call her the Red Dragon if that doesn't let you know yes I have had this problem.
We have discovered giving her a list of things we need helps then it is more of a treasure hunt .When I make lists for groceries I would cut pictures out of things for her to find and the only way she could see them is to sit in the cart (her airplane or ship or car depending on what we decide the adventure is.) Now we don't have to do this anymore unless it there are different items or a sale I might forget. I have found I forget less things this way. I also ask her what way we are going down this aisle or straight and if she says no but we need to I'll say oh but mom for got to put that on the list better get it. We also let her put the items on the conveyor at the end of the trip and encourage her to talk to the workers ( encourages her to go to them if she were to get lost because she thinks of them as friends). If we decide it is a treat day her treat is bagged in its own bag that she holds and is given when the last bag is in the cart. On treat days she doesn't know until we are at the till. (staff at grocery stores understand and will do this for you. Also if you are offered carry out always take it. Creates a job for someone and gives you time to deal with your child and takes away from the stress.
2006-11-23 06:37:27 · answer #2 · answered by emmandal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Discipline her because if she thinks that she can run you then she will disrespect you to get what ever she want's. Your supposed to be raising her not the oppisite. Talk to her and set rules for home and anywhere else but she doesn't comply discipline her. When she gets it through her head that you mean business then she will respect you, But don't ever yell at her, always stay calm no matter how stressful. (MONKEY SEE'S MONKEY DOES)
If don't want her to have something that she asked for say "no".
Your the parent and she's the child, simple as that.
2006-11-23 06:33:41 · answer #3 · answered by spanky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK , its time to start the allowance .. Explain how she earns money like Mommy and daddy. The each time she goes to the store take her little purse and let her choose what she can buy or and not buy.. Teaching value is really important.. This way she can also learn that sometimes you have to work harder to get more money and still not have enough
2006-11-23 06:25:41 · answer #4 · answered by canadianchipndales 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
discipline her at home, then when you get in public, she'll know that if she acts out, she'll get it when she gets home. She'll pick up soon on who is boss. Discipline is a lost art in our society, biut still very necessary. People who arent disciplined tend to be the worse ppl to be around when they get older. Brats pure and simple. Anyway, she want be an embarrassment to you if you take care of your business at home.
2006-11-23 06:26:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take her to the store. Or, whenever she starts, just walk away (keep an eye on her, though). As soon as she sees that she's alone, she'll stop crying.
2006-11-23 06:25:15 · answer #6 · answered by Setsuna 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with the other answers that i have seen . dont take her with you. ............OR.......... you could make her earn the money and she can buy her own stuff. that way she learns the value of a dollar at a young age.
2006-11-23 06:29:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
punish her. habits and morals instilled in a child before they are 5 are there forever. you should do something about this behavior before it's too late. Do you watch supernanny?
2006-11-23 06:24:59 · answer #8 · answered by curious2002 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
get a babysitter and don't take her to a store till shes more mature
2006-11-23 06:22:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
aww.. lol time to stop taking her for awhile;...lol Im gonna be having the same problem very soon,,,
2006-11-23 06:23:27 · answer #10 · answered by ohio_gurl042 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋