She is 6 and I just moved in with my partner, when and how should i go about introducing her to my lifestyle. Right now he and i are just friends when she is in our home...Help me figure this out.?
2006-11-23 05:54:47 · 12 answers · asked by gaydad 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
She probably won't understand quite clearily of the meaning in the gayness of being gay but u should tell her around 12....otherwise she will go tell everyone at school and her friends will prohibit her from being good close friends and they will refer to her as "weird"
do your child a favor...and wait till she is older.
2006-11-23 05:58:02 · answer #1 · answered by skol312000 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
OK at this age she wont understand.. you problem could sleep in the same room with your partner because kids her age do ..you know have sleep overs, and as she gets older she will start to wonder and question you about it i would tell her then.. but make sure she understand not to tell to many people only the people she really trust and maybe no one.. i say this because kids are cruel little creatures and they will make fun of her.. for the time being act just as friends let her get to know you and your partner so that she may come to understand the love you feel for each other .. yes i said get to know you how many 6 yrs really know there parents.. i don't know if i have help being that i am a straight person .. but i have 2 daughters and i can very well remember what it is like to be a child i don't know how many 42 yrs that can say that
2006-11-23 10:12:06 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I raised to sons on my own and I came out to them when one was 13 and the other 15. They both said when I told them,... Dad we wondered when you would get a clue!
It seems as though we think our children don't know us, I think they know us much better then we know them and sometimes better then we know ourselves.
You are living with a man and your child is 6 I never felt like putting more on my children then what they could handle for their age and maturity.
Perhaps she already knows inside of her little child like 6 year old mind. You dont know what she is hearing when she is not near you or with her other family. Nor do you know what she sees with you and your partner whether or not you call yourselves friends.
You and your partner need to be loving and supportive of your daughter she hopefully will grow up with two stable parents (you two) and will be fine. See it doesn't matter if you are two men together or not it's about how you love, and accept yourselves and how you educate your daughter with the true meanings in life.
You need not "confess" "come out" to your daughter if you both are open enough she will be comfortable and secure enough to ask the questions when and if she needs to.
But also don't hide your love and relationship that is one of the worst things you can do ............that is very deceiving!
2006-11-23 13:05:58 · answer #3 · answered by Crampy Grampy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a good one.
Makes me wonder, though, how does one introduce a 6 year old to a hetrosexual lifestyle.
I mean do you tell her what you actually do with mommy under the covers!
Maybe just be yourself and if an explaination is required you can do it.
This is, however, like religion and politics and she is going to have to face some verbal assaults unless she learns to side step land minds.
I remember being confronted with boys 12 - 14 at a Nixon Ralley being told by the "Nixon's the One!" (I was carrying a peace sign).
This is how reactionary people are in the world.
2006-11-23 05:59:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say when she is old enough to understand what a person being gay is. For most, it's between 8 and 10 years old.
Until that time, I'd just tell her that your partner is a very good friend who lives with you.
2006-11-23 05:59:47 · answer #5 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell the truth any way it gos don't make a mistake u are not doing her any good by hiding it i wish i knew that so what i've learned im telling u and she is young she will be better off knowing she has 2 people who love her..GOOD LUCK.
2006-11-24 15:38:25 · answer #6 · answered by djonecat@yahoo.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and he should act normally with each other and let her come to you with the questions. Answer them as much as you think a 6 year old would understand.
2006-11-23 05:58:47 · answer #7 · answered by firewomen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When she finds out where babies come from and starts looking at boys. Much later. Maybe 9 or 10.
2006-11-23 07:50:37 · answer #8 · answered by BiyGuy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wait until she is 9 - 11 and just bring her to the park and tell her you just like boys .
2006-11-23 06:14:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best advice is to tell her what she is ready to understand.
Most children are very bright, very intuitive and very curious. She will ask questions, answer her honestly.
2006-11-23 06:09:42 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋