He is a black minority at the school. Infact, he was the first black child at that school & was well received. he has made many friends too. Recently he came back complaining of having been called names (racial) & we discussed this with the teacher. We been called to the school on a number of times to discuss his behaviour. He interupts lessons, doesn't raise his hand before speaking, interjects class and generally his listening has deteriorated. There was a noticeable change for the worse when he moved from year 4 to 5. He had the same teacher in years 3&4 who used to adhore him and treated him exceptionally. At home he doesn't even listen to us at all & we have to repeat ourselves several times before he obliges.His interests are more on tv,games & sport. He is constantly in a fighting mood with other kids and is very loud. I desperately need help. We were contemplating sending him back home but the situation economically is at its worst there - Zimbabwe. I'm worried stiff.
2006-11-23 05:48:59 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
there must be a reason for his behaviour to change so dramatically , have you tried asking him what's wrong ( you don't mention that you have ) One thing that could cause behaviour like this ( especially the " not listening & interjecting at inappropriate times" ) is a common condition called " glue ear" . Many children suffer from this condition that's easily treated but has a dramatic effect on behaviour . Think about it.......please get him checked out by a doctor , and if there isn't a physical cause , then look into emotional issues......please don't " send him away" , stick with it !! Good luck for the future & i would love to hear how you get on !!
2006-11-23 05:58:19 · answer #1 · answered by honeychile72000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's become this way due to the way he's been treated at school with the name calling etc. Maybe it's like his way to defend himself. If the other kids are making him feel bad or different, this will make him feel angry and discontent with life in general. He's still young, so this will need to be sorted out before he gets any older. You could try talking to him about how things are in Zimbabwe right now, and explain to him that to go back there would be bad. You could try changing his school, his habits, his hobbies, his whole lifestyle to give him a new start. Also you say he is interested in sport - I'm a teacher and have seen huge changes in young people if they are encouraged in something that they personally enjoy. Is he a member of a sports team for example? If not, enroll him in something sport related for him to enjoy and get rid of some energy and give him something to focus on. I hope these suggestions are of help.
2006-11-23 06:35:23 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The poor guy.. is he being bullied, or is there any sort of disturbance/change/instability in his life, either at home or at school? Even in the lives of his friends? Sometimes kids take on their friends' problems and can't deal with them, so act out. I've just noticed you said his teacher last year used to make a special fuss of him - maybe this year the teacher just treats him like any normal kid, and he's used to the attention so he sees it as being ignored when he's being treated normally? I'm concerned that you said he's been called names and racially bullied - this might be the tip of a bullying iceberg, and you need to get on the school's case, make sure they help you out and get to the root of your son's problem. Medicine should be your last resort. He might be feeling ignored, not listened to, and frustrated, and it might all stem from the way his teacher is treating him. Not that I'm saying his teacher is ill-treating him in any way, but just that in comparison to the previous year, when he was treated as a star pupil, perhaps he feels left out. Best of luck... hope some of this helps.
2006-11-23 07:21:00 · answer #3 · answered by Sinead C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is angry over these racial slurs, and I don't blame him one bit. Talk again to the teachers and ask them to assist your son when around other children and to make sure he isn't being called down for being a minority. Also, it may be well worth your time and effort to get him to talk to the school guidance counsellor. He may need to vent, and being an angry child isn't going to help him in the future. But don't give up hope, my 9 year old step-son acts the same way, and he isn't a minority. So, it very well could also be called "growing up" and asserting his independence which all children do at some point, sometimes in an argumentative way.
2006-11-23 05:57:06 · answer #4 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe its the only way he knows how to let out all the frustration of the racial names he was called, maybe a little bit of counciling may help. He might feel inscure about himself now and is confused. My daughter was also bullied and called names and its made her very timid and quite and i am worried because she doesn't stick up for herself. She is 11 now but she was 8/9yrs old when the bullying was going on.
2006-11-24 11:20:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be short of Omega 3 oils in his diet-check out the info on The Durham Trial which worked on kids with problematic behaviour-high doses of this stuff (called eye Q-you can buy it in Boots) has really turned round the behaviour of these kids. I would also agree with the above person-get his hearing checked and look generally at his diet. Good luck hope he settles down for you soon!
2006-11-23 06:01:20 · answer #6 · answered by smac1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey listen, you should never contemplate anything like that cos at the end of the day when you get fed up as a parent you cant just ship them of when the going gets tough!thats our job to look after our kids even in the toughest situations ,so get that one outta your head. i know how hard it is. but to be honest i think your lad is having a hard time being a teenager. maybe he found it hard to fit in and is making up for it now. have you discussed how he is with your gp??? have you actually sat him down and asked him what his problem is? does he have boundaries within your family?does he have to earn his pocket money? it is hard being a parent, god knows i get stressed with my son but youve just got to carry on and if you cant cope dnt be afraid to ask for help.good luck hunxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
2006-11-23 05:59:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes only going through a stage where he wants to do what he what to do, and he thinks that he is ALWAYS right but he knows your right so he will rebel and rebel untill either you will give in or he gets grounded. I think you shoudn't worry we've all went though that stage once in our lives so why can't he. And abou his attitude at school that his favriot toys, games,TV shows, ect. untill he stratins up. We've all need a littel helping hand to help us through life thats what makes us strong.
2006-11-23 06:08:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry, I live in the US. Do you have a counselor, church, anyone that u can talk to ? He needs understanding, maybe some medicine to calm him down even though I am for herbs etc. instead. School obviosly is a BIG problem. They should be working with you and your son ALOT more!
2006-11-23 05:54:53 · answer #9 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off....If his behavior is bad...WHY CAN HE WATCH TV, PLAY GAMES ETC....This idea that "rewards" are standard is a very bad one. Get to the bottom of what's bugging him, talk to him, take him to counselling! But take away the fun extras(tv,vid games...etc..) until his behavior deserves a treat!
2006-11-23 06:04:14 · answer #10 · answered by lil_grrrl69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋