He has always been a night person, and clubs, from a teen. He's 35 yrs old now. We've always also had the argument about how late is late. I'm just concerned because I don't want our kids to think staying out till the morning is normal, every week. I tell him that this isn't good for the kids to see, but he says it's only every week or so.
2006-11-23 05:18:56 · 30 answers · asked by Deb B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your husband need to grow up. Staying out late after you are married and have kids only means only bad things. Either he's avoiding coming home because he's unhappy or he's out looking for some action. (you know what I mean)
2006-11-23 05:22:27 · answer #1 · answered by bunny 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I don't think its a good idea for a man of that age to be going out like a 16 yr old. When he became a husband and a father, he essentially agreed to be an adult. If there was some understanding between you two before the marriage, then you have no case to complain. If you go out like him as well, you cant complain either. Tell him that he needs to grow up and set an example for the children so they can grow up in a normal environment and feel safer. No child want to see Daddy coming in the door at 6am with a hangover.
2006-11-23 05:24:37 · answer #2 · answered by jr90292 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As important as the image you teach your kids would be the question as to why? And what is he really doing.
You are very trustworthy. He doesn't deserve that. From my way of thinking there is no where on earth I want to be more than with my family.....especially at night.
What does he do that keeps his attention for so late...I assume after having worked all day? And why aren't you ever included. Don't give me the kids thing. There are ways to have them taken care of. Not often but at least you would get a break and get to see what he is doing.
I can tell you one reason most men may do this. He would set the alarm at that other woman's house so he could get home on time.
I truly hope this is not it. There is no way you deserve that.
2006-11-23 05:36:46 · answer #3 · answered by John B 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The children should be in bed well before he gets home, and you don't have to inform them of what time he gets home. As for him staying out until 5 or 6 in the morning is something you and him have to work out. I read some of the other people comments (they think he's cheating), but the only thing that matters is what you think is going on, he could be playing cards with his male friends, and if that only happens once a week that would be a good thing (unless he is losing).
So you should find out why he is staying out and if you don't like it, give him a better reason to come home earlier.
2006-11-23 05:32:18 · answer #4 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Got news for that man, he better be glad that he is your husband and not mine. He would find himself with out a wife. Mine was doing the same thing with me. I gave him a wake up call and moved out!!!!!!
Your husband should have got ALL that out of his system BEFORE he got with you. HE is showing you no respect what so ever. How would he feel if the shoe was on the other foot and it was you out there acting the fool with a family at home?
No man that loves, cares, and RESPECTS his wife will do that to them and I don't care what anybody else says either. He will be home with his wife and kids!!!!!!!!! He need to GROW UP. If he wants to go out, take the family with him. Once is too much in my books.
By the way, what misstreet said about the bars being closed at 2:30am is very much right (around here they close at 2am) and good point.....so WHERE HAS HE BEEN !!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-23 05:48:46 · answer #5 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you worry that he is being unfaithful behind you? Well, I would said, he is enjoying the night life with a bunch of his same types of MBA friends (married but available).
I knew you are hurt and also had disputes with him, but what can you change the situation? I suggest that leave him alone, stop talking / serving to him for a certain time till he realise he should stop entertaining with his bunch of monkey friends. Spend your quality time and attention with your children and do not entertain your husband till he changed his bad attitude and image.
Meanwhile, have a change in yourself by dressing up frequently for no reason, chatting happily with male friends or do anything which you think can spite your husband. This way could tame him if he really loves & cares you while scare of losing you. Give a try to proof your marriage is still workable.
2006-11-23 05:28:26 · answer #6 · answered by Adorable Mrs 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, everything i was gonna say has been said through all your others who have answered you, there is something going on and you are right it's not good for your children to see the way you two treat eachother, you need to move on and show your kids it's not right to treat your mate in a disrespectful way other wise they will grow up to do the same, and for your mate if he really loved you he would not still be going out even once a week for the whole night. going out with your friends is ok but not if he never wants to take you too and i don't think he will ever change for you sounds like he really don't care what you think just willing to listen to you bit.. about it , he wants his cake and eat it toooo
2006-11-23 05:48:59 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa W 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Staying out until that hour is plain irresponsible. having a wife and kids at home does not warrant that. He seems to want the best of both worlds. Easy to get him to stop. tell him next time it is your turn and even if you sit a friend place, come home at 4-5 in the...if he loves you, he will put the brakes on! I am a male and I would do the same if I were in his shoes and my wife wanted to do the same. Nip in the bud before it gets out of hand. It is not on!
2006-11-23 05:23:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 10:53:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only every week or so? How about never? He needs to put his family first. You are putting up with this -- not knowing where he is or who he is with. This is so disrespectful to you and your family. Reevaluate what you want in your marriage. There should be no arguement. He can either start putting your family first or pack his stuff and get out. You're going to have to put your foot down.
You're right. It isn't good for the kids to see this, and it isn't good for your marriage either.
2006-11-23 05:30:37 · answer #10 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋