My best friend lives in Montana, where im from, and is over seas, a year ago i moved to South Carolina.
Recently he sent me an email that floored me:
"im really happy your having a baby and are engaged, but im also saddend, because i was really hoping that i could get you back home, and maybe work something out with you, ive always loved you, but since we both always seemed to be in a relationship i never thought it would work, and now i know it wont. Just know that i will be there for you, and that i do love you"
after he sent that email, he really hasnt talked to me, the thing is, i love him to death, and couldnt imagine my life without him, and since i got the email, all feelings have changed for my fiance, i knew i wasnt ready to get married, im only 18, and all i wanted to do was go home, so this situation really sucks.
i know im having a baby, and right around the time im having my baby, he will be coming back to the states....
what should i do???
2006-11-23 05:15:26 · 14 answers · asked by ruspecialenuf 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
my fiance got me pregnant...and just to clerify:
i have always had feeling for *steven*
before i got the email i was still questioning the engagement, me and my fiance have only been dating for 6 months total
2006-11-23 05:25:17 · update #1
First, ask yourself if you love the baby's father. Then, will he make you happy or will you always think about your true love that is coming home for you. How does the true love feel about taking care of another man's baby. You only marry the people who will really make you happy. not because he is the baby's daddy.
2006-11-23 05:23:37 · answer #1 · answered by Tia Ann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should be with the father of your baby, reason being u wouldn't be reconsidering getting married if the other guy had not sent that e-mail , if u two are so much in love why wait until such a difficult time to do so,you are confused at this time u need to think this through ,the guy that sent the e-mail he is happy for u being pregnant and everything so go on with your life the mail is only a sign of his support and do u think this guy would want to be with u and support someone else child i dont think so ,he seems to be out spoken he would say it ,give this a really long and hard thought all the best with your decision.
2006-11-23 13:47:55 · answer #2 · answered by leecy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As bad as this sounds follow your heart.
The thing is, does he love you enough to raise a child that is not his.
Also he could deny you because it is obvious that he thinks that things between the two of you are over hence the reason for pouring his heart out to you.
Do not make any rash decisions. Talk to him and tell him how you feel.
Also, don't just leave your fiance. He deserves as much as an explanation and we don't want him to get hurt. Soooo........
i wish you luck in finding the key to unlock your heart. Seems like you have two keys. One must be right but we are not sure. One is holding a master key that will unlock every part there is to you. One already has the key to your heart (fiance) (you carrying his baby, you wil always love him)
Which would you choose.
Hope that this helps you.
2006-11-23 13:24:57 · answer #3 · answered by Osunwole Adeoyin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you need to do is listen to your heart, there's no way that all these people on here can answer your question. Try to decide whats right and go with it. I really hope i helped take care and have a good life with whoever you chose to be with.
2006-11-23 13:25:53 · answer #4 · answered by amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remain his friend.. do not shut him out of your life . YOU need to let your baby's father know HOW you REALLY feel.. do not get married for the wrong reason.. been where your at. and well, BEEN is the key to it. Don't want to see you get married for the wrong reason's. how old is the father? Your very young. to be tied down to one thing . is this marrage going to help you solve the problem??
2006-11-23 13:24:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what your heart wants if your fiance really loves you he will want you to be happy but just listen to your heart when the moment comes you will know what to do and who to stay with hope it helps bye bye
2006-11-23 13:29:10 · answer #6 · answered by hele_val_07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just cause your engaged and having a baby doesnt mean you HAVE to get married. if you really love this guy, call off the engagment. you have a right to do that. just know it could get messy because your having his baby.. good luck
2006-11-23 13:19:47 · answer #7 · answered by DEVIL IN A BLUE DRESS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the way it sounds as if he was hoping you'll could have a family together but now that you are pregnant for someone else he doesn't want the relationship anymore ask him if he will accept you with a child by someone else and if you love him get a divorce.
2006-11-23 13:24:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marry the father of the baby..
2006-11-23 13:18:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay single to you find that person who loves you and will also care for your child if the father isn't going to help don't beg him there always a guy out there who will bring your child up as there own and then when the child gets older and wants to see her/his father then see what the father wants to do
2006-11-23 13:35:19 · answer #10 · answered by xkelx_xx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋