been in lot of pain on my life. and my parents was part of it.I had a big breakup . with my last BF.it was so hard form.it takes me alot of time to get over it.my mom wants to get me out of the country. so she can take my passport and get me married with someone I don't know. that's why I didn't wants to leave with them.anyways. my parents keep give me hard time. I cant go out. they wants me to work and that's it.I turn 21. this year I fell like IAM ruined my life listening to my parents. I have good job and I can live i n my own. But I don't want to leave them specially. there old. anyways. I met this guy in the mall he seems really nice. but hes so Young. hes 23 and I am 21. The way he Acts I don't think hes ready for a series relationship. he keep asking for my pass. he told me he never had a GF. I fell like he just want to get the experience from me. and leave me. I told him I don't want to have sex now he seems okay with it but still . I cant trust men again.he told me that he .
2006-11-23 04:45:07 · 2 answers · asked by heregoagain_1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
that he will always be there for me. and promise me he will never hurt me.i don't know should I keep up with him and see what he up to or leave him. and move on . by the way I have a good job. and I go college>??
2006-11-23 04:45:36 · update #1
Here: wow, you've been through a lot. My advice would be to find a good counselor to help you deal with the trauma you've suffered first, then worry about falling in love. If you don't deal with it, it will affect your relationships in the future. The guy may or may not be telling the truth, the reality is there are a lot of men who will say anything to get women to sleep with them. So you have to be very careful. My advice would be the counselor, continuing with your education. You have to respect your parents, but I think it would be a mistake for you to get married now, especially to someone you don't know. Take care, I just said a prayer for you.
2006-11-23 04:56:06 · answer #1 · answered by Rossonero NorCal SFECU 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be always true to yourself and you can't go wrong.
While you can't leave your parents you do not really have to do as they say. You are on your own in every other way. Let them say what they will but you do what you know is right for you.
As for this guy. You say he is 2 years older than you but he is very young. Pay attention to that. You can't make him grow up he has to do that himself.
You said he keeps asking for your pass. What is that? Passport?
Pass into what? Well....never ever give him anything you could be sorry you did. not until you know and trust him well enough to marry him.
I know it is hard to trust men for you. That can only come over time. If a man understands that and is willing to wait and prove that he is trustworthy will you ever be able to do so. That is good.
It is your self defense working. We all could use a bit of that.
Be friends with this guy. Don't do the sex thing. If he grows up and you find you can begin trusting him then go from there.
2006-11-23 13:23:23 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋