when u've been with someone for so long it's not easy to admit or noticed that u don't feel the same abt them like before. or am i just a b***** coz i feel like i've had the 7-year itch in all of my relationships.
2006-11-23 04:40:15 · 18 answers · asked by Star 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
before you say anything.and possibly ruin your life, I say this from experience. You loved him once. you can find that love again. you may not "be in Love" any more. you may have lost that beautiful feeling of being in love.and are just confused. but still love him talk with him with a loving attitude
he may have lost that feeling too. but still love you. you need to take some time with each other and find each other again.
don't give up so easily. don't waste 7 years of your life by throwing it away.
If you do. and you get into a new "IN love" feeling. a good chance that after 7 years you will feel the same.
I urge you to find new fun ways to bring excitement to your lives.
2006-11-23 04:52:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all are you having a seven year itch? Don't take this question the wrong way but are you cheating or are you wanting to see some one else? These questions could answer it all. Not saying that if you are cheating it's all over. I've been in a relationship for 16 years and I can say we both have fallen out of love but not at the same time. Now is he bugging you, getting on your last nerve? Not showing affection. What made you fall for him? rekindle that if you can then ask the question Do I Love Him.
2006-11-23 04:52:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you start to think that you don't love the person anymore, and same with all of your other relationships, in every relationship, you start of with an infatuation phase, where certain chemicals in your brain sends signals throughout your body, simulating "a feeling you've never felt before", and it becomes associated with your significant other's face (so that's basically the simulation of love, hah). But then there IS another phase after the infatuation phase. Sometimes relationships go through glitches, and you must must must have trust as the primary thing to get through them. The phase you have entered (as far as i can read) is the deeper phase, yet accepting the good AND the bad, and accomodating to each other's bad parts, this happens in every single long term relationship. (you can still have infatuation, but are growing akin to each other)
If you honestly think you don't love the person anymore, just wait a little, send him some signals. The only way to seriously break it to a person is to be completely straightforward. Just think how you would want to be told.
Either way, know that you're being supported on your decision. Just be strong
Good luck!
2006-11-23 04:47:44 · answer #3 · answered by Madeline B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You get bored easily. You should hurry up and let it go. It seems you're not emotionally mature enough to hold a relationship and this why you get the "itch". The sooner you let them go, the less painful it will be for them. If you lead them on when the relationship isn't progressing they'll just feel lied to and strung along. I suggest plain dating for awhile until you get more comfortable with being a one person type lover. Until then you should try to set up small, casual dates. Eventually you'll probably get bored of this and want to actually settle into one person. There's no garauntee that this person will be your last ,but once you've had a good sampling of what is out there you'll be less quick to let your heart and mind wander off.
2006-11-23 04:45:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always have a hard time breaking up with someone...I'm a real coward at it...usually just try to break up over the phone but anyway...dont tell him "I don't love you anymore", because thats unneccesary pain. Just tell him it's not working out, I need a good long break, I need some time alone... Something like that. Ugh I hate breaking up with people, good luck.
2006-11-23 04:44:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ppl like u should not even exist in this world...first u make the person to fall in love with u and taking the 7yr itch as an excuse u said she wanted ways to tell him u dont love him anymore..What kind of a bloody B**itch are u? Girls like u should F.O. for good
2006-11-24 21:54:08 · answer #6 · answered by chasen54 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to end the relationship you should. The quicker you do that the less it will hurt him and the less miserable you will be. Breaking off a relationship is never easy but it has to be done if you are unhappy.
2006-11-23 04:42:55 · answer #7 · answered by jonesty1284 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to go about it is to be honest. It is tough and it sucks, but in the long run you will feel better about being honest and eventually he will appreciate it as well.
However I suggest that you avoid having this talk with him during the holidays.
2006-11-23 04:44:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch. There is no easy way. But make it honest, compassionate, clear, quick, and then leave the poor person alone as quickly as you can.
2006-11-23 04:42:23 · answer #9 · answered by Isis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put all the blame on yourself and don't give him a chance to save the relationship.
2006-11-23 04:42:00 · answer #10 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋