I have these two friends and one of them just got the other one in trouble big time. One of them doesn't like this aid/assaint teacher, she doesn't leave her alone to do her work. She keeps taking her out of class to work on other stuff. Obviously she doesn't like that, so she talks bad about her behind her back. My other friend decided one day to tell the teacher what she has been saying behind her back. At lunch my friend came with a red nose and watery eyes. She told what happend and wants to find out who told the teacher all the things she has been saying behind her back. In math, my friend said she had a postive feeling it was the other girl, because she was a kissup to her and such a miss-goody-good too shoes to her. So my friend emily went to go ask if she told on her. Emily came back saying that she did. My friend was really mad at her now. So during english class, the girl who told the teacher, asked me if I was mad at her. I said no, but I really was. What side do I choose??
2006-11-23 04:40:04 · 9 answers · asked by Mina R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i don't pick sides, just tell them that they are both your friend, and you are staying out of this argument... so just stay out of it... thats the best advice, don't choose.
2006-11-23 05:14:01 · answer #1 · answered by babyatgradys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like a no win situation to me. No matter what you do sooner or later one or both will do the same back stabbing to you. The best thing you can do is tell them both together how you feel about the behavior that's been displayed without pointing a finger or using names and leave it up to them as to where it goes. Be sure you state to them that you won't be a part of it again or now and if it starts again there is a parting of ways.
2006-11-23 04:46:29 · answer #2 · answered by idiot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay this sounds like something the two of them should work out on their own. If you want to keep both friends, I wouldn't take a side. Step back from the fight. You aren't the cause of the fight and really there is nothing you can say without hurting someone's feelings unintentionally. Let the two of them work it out. You may have to help it along though, try getting the two of them to talk to each other.
2006-11-23 04:43:32 · answer #3 · answered by oyster 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, follow the advice so far and don't choose. You shouldn't have to, it isn't your fight.
Second, Don't stress too much about it. I am student teaching at a high school right now and I constantly am offering this one piece of advice to my female students who get caught in these dramas :
Don't let this bug you, someday this will all seem so silly and you'll wonder why you let it get to you. I suggest telling your friends the same thing.
2006-11-23 04:55:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be adult about this, do not take sides.
Tell them both, that you are going to be friends with each one of them. You know in time they will make up & become friends again.
Best of luck to you.
2006-11-23 04:44:02 · answer #5 · answered by eyes_of_iceblue 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh huni!!!!!!!! i feel so sorry for u honey! x i JUST got excaly same problem. last year my closest friends got a MASSIVE fight. they asked me which side i should be on but i said "NO! i like you both and i dont want to get involved please dont make yourself hate me i just cant help with you guys. if i get involved all this i will get upset! i was like that....and they are friends becuase my m8 told her teacher and he sed to my other friend to be friends... (WHOLE year hates that girl) xxx hope ur friends are back to friends!:D xxxx
2006-11-23 04:47:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to choose. Tell both of them that you aren't part of this, and that should be the end of story.
2006-11-23 04:41:47 · answer #7 · answered by the_proms 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe you shouldnt be friends with back-stabbing rats
2006-11-23 04:45:31 · answer #8 · answered by earthgirl766 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
neither side......tell them to resolve their differences on their own....tell them you're not a "magical problem solver" for them
2006-11-23 04:42:38 · answer #9 · answered by carlosdavid 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋