Short version: I'm only child, mom's total recluse, dad's whipped. Dad's hateful and uncivil GF has a son with whom we were going to dinner, and with whom I get along well enough to mask tension. He backed out, so she made Dad back out of plans. Last night at 5 pm. I live 3 hours from my old home, just left in May. I had an offer from my new neighbors; refused for my dad. Now it's a little too late to be asking to join.
PIty party? Yeah, well, I can't find a food pantry at this late hour in which to make myself useful. I have food, and some people don't. Still, I'd rather not be somewhere I don't belong, faking my winning smile until I almost feel it.
Anyone else feel this? Has resolved it, maybe?
2006-11-23 03:37:51 · 6 answers · asked by starryeyed 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Thanksgiving
OK - things suck and I am sorry.
It really isn't too late to find a place to volunteer. Pick up a local paper. It will list places where they are serving the less fortunate. If you just show up and offer your services you will be welcomed with open arms. My family does this at the holidays and it is always welcome. Nothing listed in the newspaper? Call or stop by a big church and ask the minister, priest, etc. Or ask at a local hospital. They will know where you can help.
Still no luck? Go find a place serving dinner - look for someone alone and offer to buy them dinner and share a table. Never know what will happen - a new friendship or just some nice temporary table conversation.
If you were closer I'd invite you to join us....Happy Thanksgiving in spite of a rotten start - I think things will work out - you seem to have a good heart.
2006-11-23 03:51:27 · answer #1 · answered by dddanse 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People are very cordial during holidays. I think that if you tell your neighbors that your Thanksgiving plans changed and you have nowhere to go on Thanksgiving, they will take you in for the holiday. People love to do nice deeds when they hear a sad story about a person being without a family at a time like this.
If you don't want to ask your neighbors for some unknown reason, I can share a personal experience and tell you that I have spent two major holidays all alone by choice. I lied and told my parents that I would be at my boyfriend's house, but did not have a boyfriend at the time, and I really enjoyed my time alone. Sometimes those family gatherings get to be a bit too much to handle.
Another time, although I had a family Thanksgiving dinner, I roasted my own turkey, gave some turkey and fixings to the manager of my apartment building, and enjoyed a casual and pleasant holiday moment with him. That alone would have been plenty to make me feel warm, friendly, and a part of the national holiday.
An idea you could try is to go to a restaurant and have your dinner at the bar since there is a greater traffic of people there. You needn't explain to anyone that it is your main Thanksgiving dinner. People are friendly, and you will probably enjoy their presence, and festive and friendly attitude.
Happy Thanksgiving, Prescious.
2006-11-23 07:21:06 · answer #2 · answered by ilovela 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I usually have so much stress and tension during the holiday season from Thanksgiving until Christmas that I would rather move to another planet from Halloween until New Year's Day. I don't know where these feelings come from because I always had happy holidays with extended family when I was a child. I usually volunteer to work the holidays just to have an excuse not to spend too much time with family. If I could be anywhere I wanted to be, I would be alone, somewhere in solitude. Don't call it a pity party. Many, many people feel as you and I do about family holidays. Good Luck...
2006-11-23 03:58:49 · answer #3 · answered by correrafan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear! Don´t worry. I´m sure you´ll have plenty of happy and merry thanksgiving dinners in the incoming years. Besides, this is a holiday on which we are supposed to thank God about our blessings. Do the math, you´ll be amazed about how much you got. So what? remember you got two invitations: your dad´s and your new neighbors.
I didn´t get even one.
2006-11-23 03:43:55 · answer #4 · answered by whothatBE 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am totally on your side. Do what is best for you, what makes you happy, what gives you peace. Sharing with neurotic people is not the best alternative. Have a Happy Thanksgiving wherever you are!
2006-11-23 03:41:44 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yesss! My family stresses me out so bad I don't even enjoy it...!â¥
2006-11-23 03:42:11 · answer #6 · answered by Erika 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋