she spends so much time on the computer late at night,from 10.pm to like 2.am,and she says they r her friends,but now i see that is not true,shes actually dating 2 of them,i read her chat messages to them,guys please tell me what to do,and i have all the mens details,who do i confront,my wife or them...
2006-11-23 03:37:14 · 23 answers · asked by boyo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sorry I am a woman, but you need to confront you wife with this. It's disrespectful to you and to your marriage. Sit her down and tell her you know what her butt is up to.
2006-11-23 03:39:32 · answer #1 · answered by Carrie 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Confront her? Then What? Your first question should be to you.
What do you want to do with your marriage? Save it/ End it ??
Save: You already know the truth, so don't go there. Tell, You know what you know.without giving up how you know.Ask her what she wants to happen. (same question) Save: then what is she going to do, to make that happen. And should be more, than I wont do it again or I will just chat. Not good enough. If she gives nothing that ensures you. Then you either accepted it or End it.
Know what you will accepted, before your conversation. And don't Tell how you got the information, she will turn it around and make it all about that. Keep it about her and her doings.If she denies, lies and wont confess. Then is she worth, you having a dishonest, cheating wife. Remember do what feels right for you
You are the only one who has to live it.
2006-11-23 12:20:05 · answer #2 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does she do this on a dating site? or a messenger ? you need to nip it in the bud! Had similar problem with my men bout a year and a half ago. i found his password for a dating site logged in changed his profile from his come and get me in it for fun to I'm a bastard that doesnt respect my woman. Then I confronted him and deleted it. I checked the daily history for a while, to make sure he was finished. On the upside we discussed why he was on there in the first place. He claimed he was lonely cause of the hours that we work. And that he wasnt getting the affection that he wanted. He claimed that he never met up with any of these girls but was actually considering it. You gotta get some balls and step up to the plate hun! It's your wife that has the problem not the other men!
2006-11-23 11:45:32 · answer #3 · answered by missjewl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Confront your wife. She is cheating on you. When "emotions" like this become shared between anyone else other than the 2 spouses. Whether there is physical contact or not....it is cheating. Right out, cheating. Who's to say that she won't hook up real time w/one of these guys and poof! She's gone.
Wake up here!
Tell her to lose the online chat time and her male chat buds or she loses you.
Make it her choice....you stick to it. Oh and I would confront the men too. Tell them, off limits. And stick to it.
2006-11-23 11:41:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I immediately realise that your wife is the dominant partner in the marriage, and it might simply be because of the love you have for her. For too long you have sat back and allow your wife to get away with disrespect and other bad behaviour. this is partially repsponsible for your fear to confront what has been happening for a very long time. tell her straight up and take it from there. I did not say you should leave your wife no way...not like that....But what you must do is step up to the plate like a real man. you have been sitting around for too long playing second fiddle.
2006-11-23 11:56:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have quite a dilemma. If you had an honest relationship you would trust her, however you need to be diplomatic about this and confront your wife. You must tell her that this is upsetting to you and has serious effects on your trust and marriage. The rest is up to her. You will have to determine if she is being honest with you. My advice is TALK TO HER! I hope everything turns out well for both of you.
2006-11-23 11:48:42 · answer #6 · answered by tis.notme 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why confront them, they are probably being lied to about her marriage statues. She needs to be confronted and the computer taken away from her. She wants to act like a child then treat her like a child. Then try and talk to her and see why she feels it is necessary to do this and can she change? if she is not willing to change then she needs to go.
2006-11-23 12:23:25 · answer #7 · answered by melissa052572 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely confront your wife. She's steering your marriage in the wrong direction. You will need to put your foot down to save your marriage.
2006-11-23 11:48:52 · answer #8 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would kick her butt and throw her out. But you should take it easy. Dont tell her you know she is dating, just tell her that you dont like her activities on internet especially that late at night. Then if she opens up, just tell her that she has to be sincere with you or leave you alone. I hope if she is not a real B then she will understand it. But think about getting rid of her in long run, Street dog can't stay at home, once in street, always in street.
2006-11-23 11:42:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Obviously you know shes fkg you over, they also provably know shes married but if your not sure, you could meet up with one of them only if they dont know who you are and some how chat with them calmly and make them bring her up, without you doing so. Depending on the beans they spill you could take "action" and either stay with your lovely wife or leave the dirty ..... because you dont know what she could bring home. There also more fish in the sea. peace!
2006-11-23 12:26:41 · answer #10 · answered by NADAH 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋