What's the best way to say it?

Question

ok.here's the question.there's this guy i like & he knows that i like him(i'm not sure if he likes me back,but it sometimes seems like he does-i'd give it 70% he does like me)...so,i've been planning to tell him this personally after exams finish next week, at this youth group both of us & our friends attend.what do you think is the best way to approach him? (of course,i would like to say it alone)& what should i say?plus,if he doesn't give me a positive answer,how sholud i react?oh...& my friends know that i'm gonna 'confess' to him,so should i get them to help out as well?

p.s.he might be coming to hang out at my place during the holidays too(as a group)

Answer 1

What do you hope to accomplish? Do you think that if you domp your feelings on a guy, he will aitomatically be won over? Do you think that you can make him like you? Do you think that he owes you your perfect relationsip becuse you told him your feelings?

You must be really young. Guys don't do "feelings talk". Especially young guys. Guys respond better to actions and behavior. If you show your interest in him (genuinely) and compliment him and ask him questions about himself, your behavior will be MUCH more effective than just telling him you like him.

Just telling him that might make him feel scared of you because he might think you expect him to make you happy, or that he is responsible for your feelings in some way.

Are you really interested in HIM? Or are you more interested in making him like you? You can never make people lke you. You will only annoy them. The way to INSPIRE people to like you is to SHOW YOUR INTEREST IN THEM. Don;pt focus on trying to look cool and impress them. That gives them too much control of the situation, and too much influence over your self-image.

Maintain control by initiating conversation, making positive observations, etc. Guys have egos, so when you show them that you are interested in them, that they are skilled, admirable, powerful, attractive, and saught after, you make their day. You will be a man magnet. Guys will feel good about themselves around you, and want you around.

Women bond with their hearts, their feelings, their mutual support. Do not make the mistake and think that women bond with men like this. Guys don't want to have to take care of your feelings.

If he really did like you, you wouldn't have to ask. It would show in his behavior. Maybe you are attracted to the "challenge" of winning him over or capturing his interest. Still, to find out, arrange to "bump" into him at a few places, and show him extra attention. If he responds, then you will know he is interested. If it feels like you are chasing after him, then stop. No one appreciates a stalker, and you will let yourself be crushed.

If you show him a little interest, admiration, and respect, he might make some effort to get to know you. If he doesn't, don't force it. Just move on and try showing someone else your attention.

Answer 2

First, what is (IT)!... That you want to do it? That it is your thingy between your legs?
Remember, if you make yourself easy, he will probabley use you becasue he wants pussy but he will not stay with you because no guy's like a whore or a slut! So if IT is just saying I like you than say IT. But if you intend to get some be prepared for the let down!
Good luck gurly / lady!

Answer 3

be4 you tell him go out with him ALONE not in a group and there you can see if you two really click! And who knows may be he will tell you after the date that he feels the same way.

Answer 4

Just go for it - what if he does turn you down - there are plently more fish in the sea. Good luck

Answer 5

whats life without overcoming one's fears.

Answer 6

if u have ur friends to "help", then he'll be more nervous. if u want an honest answer, talk to him alone. thats all i no

Answer 7

better tell it to him alone!